opinions....a girl i met..is messing me up atm

Hi there,
ill tell you the story from the whole. i met a girl about a week ago at a concert and i really like her and she really likes me in a fancy type way we both fancy eachother as such we knew that from the concert i got her msn and such. we have talked loads and on the phone. we met earlier today and had a nice time she said it herself. but she likes some other bloke bare in mine hes 27!!! and shes 17 in march..im 17 atm. and i dont feel i can just forget her i havent felt like this for someone in so long! it seems such a shame..i really like her i just need to convince her im the better choice which i think i am...im not a george clooney lookalike but in a gent im trustworthy, im faithful im loving, im caring, all that hes 27...he might be all that but.....they wont last... i guarantee.... i dont know ive pu;lled myself out of a 2 year depression just 6 month's ago and im scared ill fall back into it,..shes really in my head...

please get back to me thanks
craig

Reply 1

RoosterUK

9

Arrange to meet up with her to do something fun? Stop comparing yourself to other guys, it isn't a competition it's only you and her. Get out of your head and just have fun with it, don't worry!

Reply 2

This_Dying_Soul

OP

i suppose ive got to bite the bullet and stick to my gun here.......ive got to let her go to him ...it'll make her happy

Reply 3

This_Dying_Soul

OP

shes knowing him longer and said she really really likes me, but she likes him more. i guess ive got to accept that....id rather she didnt....hold my hand and all that...it hurts now..

Reply 4

Jon7

8

Hm...

Mate, the solution isn't just shrugging your shoulder and taking the bullet. If you honestly think that you are the better choice, then get her to change the way she thinks at the moment, and make it that you are the one she likes better.

If you like her this much then frankly it's worth a battle, worth an effort. Do something amazing, ie take her out to dinner, buy her some flowers, write her a romantic letter, take her on a night walk somewhere etc etc. Do something spontaneous, daring and show that your affection is better than this other guy.

Reply 5

This_Dying_Soul

OP

We already went out on a night walk & For dinner (which i paid for). im nothing on this bloke he's 10 more years experience and i just don't have a clue how i can compete with him...?

and thanks for the advice for far its really helping me out.

Reply 6

Lampshade

12

Take a knife, hacksaw, a few plastic bags and some bleach round to his house... and get rid of him :yes:

Reply 7

This_Dying_Soul

OP

haha, you cracked a smile out of me the first since yesterday :P. I guess i should'nt give up so easily,,maybe

Reply 8

Lampshade

12

Basically mate - Just show that you have some value. Don't fall into the trap of being clingy - make her come to you.
Offer her challenge, don't always give in to what she wants - i.e. - if you go for a drink with her, rather than automatically assuming you'll go and get the drinks - offer up a bit of teasing, see if you can get her to pay. Show's that you have value.

Reply 9

This_Dying_Soul

OP

aha, i see what you mean. damn this other bloke...lifes never simple if he was out the equation..things would be one hell of alot easier..

Reply 10

allthetime

10

To be honest, if she's about to turn 17 and he's 27 he sounds like a creep. Chances are that she'll realise that at some point.

And lampshade is totally right.

Reply 11

This_Dying_Soul

OP

yeah i know what you mean..,..its just i guess ive got to stand out a bit is that what you mean?

Reply 12

allthetime

10

You might have to wait until she realises he's a creep, once she's gotten over the "oh my god he's older and interested in me" thing. She sounds a bit niave...

Be her friend for definate, don't say anything negative about this other guy unless she likes people being protective.

Reply 13

This_Dying_Soul

OP

yeah ive restrained myself from bitching...i don't want to get to her by slagging of him...make sense?

Reply 14

mr-breaker

7

I'd like to know...................

What makes this girl so special you're prepared to put everything on hold on the off chance she might give a ****?

You're 17............ given you have university and the rest of your life ahead of you is it really the end of the world if she chooses him over you.............or is it the opportunity to move forward, improve yourself AND meet someone better?

Is this comment:

im not a george clooney lookalike but in a gent im trustworthy, im faithful im loving, im caring,

the equivalent of Milhouse saying on The Simpsons:
"But my Mom says I'm cool!"

What sort of guys does she like? If you've found out how have you shown that you are the sort of guy she should have in her life?

Reply 15

This_Dying_Soul

OP

she likes me alot, as more than a friend shes said it herself...but she likes him more....i haven't seen him or know much about him...i just don't know what makes him so much better. he's 27 he probably knows what to say...and shes been talking too him for 2 years...how can i compete with someone who has bloody 10 years more expiernce than me =/

i don't know you know when there's just something about someone, all the girls ive met since my ex ive felt nothing for but this one i unfortunately do..

Reply 16

mr-breaker

7

This_Dying_Soul

she likes me alot, as more than a friend shes said it herself...but she likes him more....i haven't seen him or know much about him...i just don't know what makes him so much better. he's 27 he probably knows what to say...and shes been talking too him for 2 years...how can i compete with someone who has bloody 10 years more expiernce than me =/

If you think you're gonna fail........then you're gonna fail.

More importantly, You have to forget about getting this ONE particular girl. She may be X, she may be Y...............but I guarantee if you look hard enough you can find a girl with all her attributes, but who is willing to get with you.

As for what makes him better? From your point of view, it doesn't matter. Women do the choosing, and if she likes him, gg you.