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How to stop being so dependent on other people for happiness?

Hey! I’ve been feeling a way lately which is really concerning for me and I don’t know why. All my life I’ve been an introvert, I loved spending time with my friends of course but loneliness is really not something I suffered from if I had to spend long periods of time by myself. Even more so, I used to love spending days out in the city by myself and avoided anyone tagging along like wildfire and I loved travelling by myself too if I could.

Something changed very suddenly and I have no idea why. For the past year I’ve just been unable to deal with being by myself. Almost any time I am on my own I am just in a state of miserable anticipation for the next time I can see someone. If I could I would live with my friends I would probably be the happiest person on earth. I have recently travelled with some friends and I was honestly so happy and it seemed like the past year of mental health struggles and loneliness didn’t even happen. As soon as I was back however I just fell back into the state in which I was before. I am very lucky to have my best friend, who happily calls and texts me every day. I feel so much better after speaking to her even if my whole day was misery, though I wish I could see her more often.

I don’t know how to stop this and I feel like it’s not healthy at all. I want to start enjoying time by myself again but so far I wasn’t successful.
Hey, I am in a similar situation so I think I could make a few suggestions that could help you.

Have you tried going to the gym? What about martial arts or other sports? It's a very good way to keep your body healthy, meet new people and socialise.

Have you tried to learn a new skill that you might be passionate about and then try to monetise it? Have you tried going outside more often on your own just to simply enjoy your own company?

I know some of these things have probably been repeated a lot of times, but considering that I have a similar situation as you, this would probably help you a lot.

This will keep you and your mind very busy. You will start enjoying life more and be happy more on your own without depending on others. Take little steps each day and you will see gradual improvements, I promise.
Original post by Anonymous
Hey, I am in a similar situation so I think I could make a few suggestions that could help you.

Have you tried going to the gym? What about martial arts or other sports? It's a very good way to keep your body healthy, meet new people and socialise.

Have you tried to learn a new skill that you might be passionate about and then try to monetise it? Have you tried going outside more often on your own just to simply enjoy your own company?

I know some of these things have probably been repeated a lot of times, but considering that I have a similar situation as you, this would probably help you a lot.

This will keep you and your mind very busy. You will start enjoying life more and be happy more on your own without depending on others. Take little steps each day and you will see gradual improvements, I promise.


Thank you for your thoughtful reply, I’ve actually been meaning to join a matrimonial arts group so I will do that and hopefully it will help!
Matrimonial arts group?

You meet up and paint pornogrpahic pictures? Cool.

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