I feel like i have failed-socially

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It just happens to me that everytime i am the one initiating to socialise and hang out with people from uni (only first year) and when i was back at an all gurls private school, no one is and was never interested to hang out with me.

People originially say yes to hanging out with me but when i double confirm with them, they make excuses taht they are busy as they have work shifts or cant hang out due to covid or have a doctors appointment at the time. Only to find out later on that they are hanging out with other people and excluding me as they presume that i dont like things that they dont like,whereas thats not the case.

I dont know what to do because i feel very lonely and dont have any friends.

I have tried all methods to meeting new people and expanding my interests but everytime i fail.

Please help!
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It just happens to me that everytime i am the one initiating to socialise and hang out with people from uni (only first year) and when i was back at an all gurls private school, no one is and was never interested to hang out with me.

People originially say yes to hanging out with me but when i double confirm with them, they make excuses taht they are busy as they have work shifts or cant hang out due to covid or have a doctors appointment at the time. Only to find out later on that they are hanging out with other people and excluding me as they presume that i dont like things that they dont like,whereas thats not the case.

I dont know what to do because i feel very lonely and dont have any friends.

I have tried all methods to meeting new people and expanding my interests but everytime i fail.

Please help!
Screw those people and eventually you will find your ‘group’
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It just happens to me that everytime i am the one initiating to socialise and hang out with people from uni (only first year) and when i was back at an all gurls private school, no one is and was never interested to hang out with me.

People originially say yes to hanging out with me but when i double confirm with them, they make excuses taht they are busy as they have work shifts or cant hang out due to covid or have a doctors appointment at the time. Only to find out later on that they are hanging out with other people and excluding me as they presume that i dont like things that they dont like,whereas thats not the case.

I dont know what to do because i feel very lonely and dont have any friends.

I have tried all methods to meeting new people and expanding my interests but everytime i fail.

Please help!
Join some new societies, the reality is not everyone will click with everyone; no point overly chasing the wrong people... you’ll find a group you just need to cast a wide net.
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It just happens to me that everytime i am the one initiating to socialise and hang out with people from uni (only first year) and when i was back at an all gurls private school, no one is and was never interested to hang out with me.

People originially say yes to hanging out with me but when i double confirm with them, they make excuses taht they are busy as they have work shifts or cant hang out due to covid or have a doctors appointment at the time. Only to find out later on that they are hanging out with other people and excluding me as they presume that i dont like things that they dont like,whereas thats not the case.

I dont know what to do because i feel very lonely and dont have any friends.

I have tried all methods to meeting new people and expanding my interests but everytime i fail.

Please help!
This is me. except I dont wanna meet new people. life is better from a different perspective, I was always surrounded by people at secondary, so when uni started everyone who was in accomadation made friends quickly. me and several tens of other people were also thrust out from forming friends. Some chased groups, others formed within, I chose to stay by myself and other than times I need to talk to people (group work) I stay alone, and I find it better. enjoy the time you have by yourself
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This is me. except I dont wanna meet new people. life is better from a different perspective, I was always surrounded by people at secondary, so when uni started everyone who was in accomadation made friends quickly. me and several tens of other people were also thrust out from forming friends. Some chased groups, others formed within, I chose to stay by myself and other than times I need to talk to people (group work) I stay alone, and I find it better. enjoy the time you have by yourself
As much as i want to enjoy the time by myself and join new societies and make new friends and take initiation, i always am taken for granted by people as people never appreciate my kindness and friendly nature i have. I have tried all methods like joining new societies that i enjoy and like at uni, making friends through halls and course, but all has failed as people never reciprocate that warmthness and friendlieness that i show to them back towards me. At this point,i practically do not have any friends. I have shared this thing with my parents but my parents never understand my situation and think instead im a failure when am not as have done everything i possiblly can to be social and maintain and make friends that reciprcoate the same warmth, interest, friendlieness i have towards them.
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As much as i want to enjoy the time by myself and join new societies and make new friends and take initiation, i always am taken for granted by people as people never appreciate my kindness and friendly nature i have. I have tried all methods like joining new societies that i enjoy and like at uni, making friends through halls and course, but all has failed as people never reciprocate that warmthness and friendlieness that i show to them back towards me. At this point,i practically do not have any friends. I have shared this thing with my parents but my parents never understand my situation and think instead im a failure when am not as have done everything i possiblly can to be social and maintain and make friends that reciprcoate the same warmth, interest, friendlieness i have towards them.
if you want, we can be friends?
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Similar experiences. Moved into halls, 10 of us in the flat shared kitchen. 1 of the other 9 people was my friend from college, known for just over 2 years at that point, they never included me in anything, even my friend form college didn't, he always did things with them and no one told me about them. Now he's moving into a house with them in second year whilst I have no accommodation for 2nd year yet. I don't mind doing things in my own but it sometimes is not nice as sometimes you need someone to talk to about well anything. Unfortunately my uni doesn't really have things to do and there are a few society's but none of interest (literally sports and politics, both I dislike). So I got back into a hobby I stopped 8 years ago and has helped a bit
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