Right this is a bit of an extreme/mental/longterm thing that keeps playing on my mind but anyway:
I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 37 and we're extremely extremely happy, the relationship couldn't be stronger and its about as good as it can get really. He lives about 90 minutes from me at the moment so we see each other as much as possible and stuff.
He doesn't care what I do when I'm not with him in that I can still do normal studenty things if I feel like it etc.
Anyways to get to the point, he already has a son, 4 years old and obviously is a lot older than me.
I'm just worrying because without meaning to be dramatic I really do believe this is it for me, who I want to be with for as long as can be imagined (without the use of the cliched forever).
But well...obviously I want to have children (in the not too distant future if I'm honest) and I guess I just don't know how he'd feel and I wouldn't want for him to think he was having kids a bit late in life and stuff.
The relationship is still pretty new so I don't feel comfortable mentioning this to him.
- Thread Starter
- 09-11-2008 05:43
- 09-11-2008 06:13
Hmmm, You think he is the one, yet it's a new relationship and you couldn't talk about the future with him? either way, he could still have kids when you're 30, and if he doesn't want any more kids and you desperately do, then you shouldn't be with him. Though from what you have written, it doesn't seem extremely stable imo. You're young, go and have fun, instead of worrying about this.
- 09-11-2008 06:24
- Thread Starter
- 09-11-2008 18:51
it's one hundred percent stable. Thanks for your advice.