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    (Original post by Shake 'n Bake)
    As far as I am aware, having an attraction to children is something that you are born with you can't just switch it off, so the two scenarios are totally different.

    The guy posed a threat to children, yet he was placed next door to a childminder. It's like leaving a box of KFC next to Paul Weller or a dildo next to Katie Price, its too tempting to pass up.

    A person with prior convictions of child molestation, poses more risk harm to children than someone who doesn't and I wish the council would've ensured that he be placed in a more suitable area.
    lmao:nutcase:
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    (Original post by Shake 'n Bake)
    It's like leaving a box of KFC next to Paul Weller or a dildo next to Katie Price, its too tempting to pass up.
    That is the worst comparison that I have ever seen in my life. Just stop.
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    (Original post by nothingspek)
    I wouldn't know about it so no it wouldn't make me feel uncomfortable. Hypothetical questions are useless in this too.
    (Original post by tropical-twist3)
    edit: you said ''as long as he doesn't act on it I don't have a problem", but if it was your child he liked, surely you'd feel differently. Maybe now you could say you won't, but I reckon you'd most likely feel differently when you have a child.
    they aren't useless, its a way of helping you imagine a situation where your principles are tested.

    If you knew your child could come into contact with a particular paedophile, say a next door neighbour, you could see each others garden from the window..isn't there the possibility you'd question "could he be masturbating over my child?" I mean, I'm sure you aren't naive. You'd question it. You may disregard the thought for peace of mind...but there'd be at least a fleeting moment where you'd question it.
    that could happen, how would you feel? I think you would have a problem with it, maybe not enough to actually do anything, or to even think on it any longer, but it would at least make you feel uncomfortable for that moment it crossed your mind. Its natural to feel protective over your kids.
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    (Original post by tropical-twist3)
    they aren't useless, its a way of helping you imagine a situation where your principles are tested.
    For the large part they are useless, a lot of people wouldn't know what they'd do unless they put directly put into that situation, and anyway, your "hypothetical situations" would never happen, so in that way it was useless.

    (Original post by tropical-twist3)
    If you knew your child could come into contact with a particular paedophile, say a next door neighbour, you could see each others garden from the window..isn't there the possibility you'd question "could he be masturbating over my child?" I mean, I'm sure you aren't naive. You'd question it. You may disregard the thought for peace of mind...but there'd be at least a fleeting moment where you'd question it.
    that could happen, how would you feel? I think you would have a problem with it, maybe not enough to actually do anything, or to even think on it any longer, but it would at least make you feel uncomfortable for that moment it crossed your mind. Its natural to feel protective over your kids.
    As stated above, I'm one of those people who wouldn't know what they would feel unless they were directly put into the situation. But I wouldn't see it as wrong, again, it's a preference, and as long as he didn't act upon said feelings then I don't think we should condemn him for it.
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    some of these comments are unbelievable!

    your telling me that most of you wouldn't mind if a peadophile lived next door to you, as he's not a 'danger' anymore, and he's paid for what he's done?

    deary me....
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    (Original post by tropical-twist3)
    That's not what I mean. No its not alright for him to masturbate over someone else's kid. I understand that 'he' has this fetish for children, but when its made to an individual child rather than his imaginings of a child's body, is when I'm uncomfortable with it. I wouldn't want my child to be the fantasy of a paedophile, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone else's. Wouldn't you feel uncomfortable if it was your kid?
    I mean think of how some dads can be protective over their daughters with their first boyfriend, because they know what teenage boys have going through their mind.. So think how they would feel if they knew a paedophile was having these same feelings before the daughter even could even spell 'boyfriend'.
    Yes, but they usually don't hide their daughters away from all teenaged boys, probably because it's quite difficult. When they get a boyfriend, it gets a bit more uncomfortable for them and if they caught them/heard them having sex or something they get angry.
    With a paedophile, you know it's quite difficult to keep them away from all children but you live with it. You start to get uncomfortable if they start paying special attention to one child, and obviously you 'get angry' if they actually abused the child.

    I know the examples don't really match up because there isn't actually anything wrong with a teenage girl doing things with her boyfriend and it's all in the dad's mind, but there you go. :p:
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    (Original post by Sophie_10)
    some of these comments are unbelievable!

    your telling me that most of you wouldn't mind if a peadophile lived next door to you, as he's not a 'danger' anymore, and he's paid for what he's done?

    deary me....
    Deary me for your short-sighted views really.
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    Hm, what does it matter now?
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    (Original post by nothingspek)
    For the large part they are useless, a lot of people wouldn't know what they'd do unless they put directly put into that situation, and anyway, your "hypothetical situations" would never happen, so in that way it was useless.
    It hasn't been useless because its made you change your answer from this:
    (Original post by nothingspek)
    I wouldn't know about it so no it wouldn't make me feel uncomfortable.
    (which is..
    (Original post by nothingspek)
    a bit like "I don't care if it happens as long as it's not in my own backyard".
    ..because you aren't confronting it.)

    ..to this:

    (Original post by nothingspek)
    As stated above, I'm one of those people who wouldn't know what they would feel unless they were directly put into the situation. But I wouldn't see it as wrong, again, it's a preference, and as long as he didn't act upon said feelings then I don't think we should condemn him for it.
    where you've decided you don't know how you'd feel. Although you don't find the act of thinking about your child in sexual fantasies as wrong, you don't know if your emotions would conflict with your principles.
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    (Original post by tropical-twist3)
    It hasn't been useless because its made you change your answer from this:

    (which is.. ..because you aren't confronting it.)

    ..to this:


    where you've decided you don't know how you'd feel. Although you don't find the act of thinking about your child in sexual fantasies as wrong, you don't know if your emotions would conflict with your principles.
    It hasn't made me change my answer, it's always been the same. But nice analysis.
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    (Original post by nothingspek)

    As stated above, I'm one of those people who wouldn't know what they would feel unless they were directly put into the situation.
    Yet you are criticise people who are in this situation?? :confused:
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    (Original post by EskimoJo)
    Yes, but they usually don't hide their daughters away from all teenaged boys, probably because it's quite difficult. When they get a boyfriend, it gets a bit more uncomfortable for them and if they caught them/heard them having sex or something they get angry.
    With a paedophile, you know it's quite difficult to keep them away from all children but you live with it. You start to get uncomfortable if they start paying special attention to one child, and obviously you 'get angry' if they actually abused the child.
    thats what I've been saying.

    (Original post by EskimoJo)
    know the examples don't really match up because there isn't actually anything wrong with a teenage girl doing things with her boyfriend and it's all in the dad's mind, but there you go. :p:
    yeah this was why I was using the comparisons, because of this contrast, and that if they could feel protective over something that alot of people wouldn't have a problem with, imagine how they'd feel if their girl's admirer was a paedophile.
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    (Original post by Shake 'n Bake)
    Yet you are criticise people who are in this situation?? :confused:
    You're not in that situation that she gave me; you're not a parent.
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    (Original post by inksplodge)
    If he was such a threat to society, they wouldn't have placed him there.
    Now thats wishful thinking.
    If only things worked that way
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    (Original post by nothingspek)
    It hasn't made me change my answer, it's always been the same. But nice analysis.
    yeah but at least the hypothetical question made you think about your answer more, take into account why a part of you could feel differently, and give me a better understanding of your orginal answer.


    ***'oooon it wasn't completely useless!
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    (Original post by Adam83)
    Now thats wishful thinking.
    If only things worked that way
    Exactly
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    (Original post by Adam83)
    Now thats wishful thinking.
    If only things worked that way
    Oh here's another one, let's see if you can answer more so than others; where are they supposed to put him then?
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    (Original post by Yuffie)
    I can't see a problem with someone watching child porn either - he has a right to masturbate, and it's probably keeping him going so he doesn't need to molest children himself.
    Oh dear. that's horrible! how can you not see a problem with someone watching child porn??? seriously! If people didn't watch CHILD (by the way!) porn, then there would be no need for people to force themselves on young children and film, who will be mentally scarred for life by the way! just so some pervert can masturbate to it, And you see no problem with this!
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    That was a really idiotic comment, yuffie, even by TSR standards.
    I just hope you were fishing.
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    (Original post by Shake 'n Bake)
    Lol but MJ wasn't convicted
    Haha I was thinking that
 
 
 
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