Standard guy likes girl but too scared to tell thread

Hi guys, at my wits end a bit..

Spent the summer head over heels crazy about this girl, recently thought my feelings were easing off. They're back with aplomb though after we had a really nice night together last night. Now, I've told her how I felt before but about 4 months back when we didn't really know each other. She wasn't looking for a relationship or anything and we just stayed friends.

We've become better and better mates, and we're pretty much best friends now. We always end up kissing/messing around after a few beers and once or twice we'd have had sex had I not been too worse for wear lol. We only ever kiss/get couply though after a few beers. But we are really close and she gives the odd hint that she does really like me, plus last night she came out with something like "i really like you.." but I just sort of didn't really take it in. Looking back though there are quite a few things to suggest she likes me, such as she says something like "I'll only do this if I really like them though" in respect to an action, and she'll have done said action with me before.

So I know it sounds like I should just tell her, but I just don't want to lose her as a friend/make the friendship all awkward. I know everyone says if you're real friends it won't be awkward etc but come on, it would be.

Basically I know there isn't really any advice but just interested to hear if anyone in a similar situation (of which there has to be plenty, I'm sure) did anything about it, if they told the person etc.

I'm absolutely mad about her and have never come close to feeling for anyone else like I do her, she's so amazing. This morning as we woke up and she cuddled up to me there was nowhere else I wanted to be. There's little more I want than to be with her and be able to say she's my girlfriend etc and be able to spoil her and love her without feeling a bit weird about it.

I know I should just talk to her but I can't face losing her as a mate. she does have a couple of personal issues and I'd be worried that also if she knocked me back and it went a bit awkward that it'd have a bad effect on her, which obviously I don't want.

Urrghhhh :frown:

Please give me some of your stories to relate to! :smile:

Reply 1

crisl91

I understand what you mean about this choice between losing your friend or her becoming your girlfriend..It really isn't easy, but I truly believe you could regret it if you didn't tell her. You've already been liking her for months and struggling not to tell her, so why not go ahead? Even though it's a mere friendship for now, all the kissing, etc obviously suggest she also fancies you. Everybody's always a bit too happy after drinking, but it is also usually then that people are truthful, particularly about their feelings. Since I imagine you already trust each other and get couply often, I absolutely suggest you tell her. I'm sure her response will be positive :biggrin:

. Good luck!

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Thanks for that. :smile:

Reply 3

HJV

As with everything in the modern world, if you want to make your relationship official it has to be put on your facebook.

(Sarcasm)

Just try talking to her about it. After a few beers if that makes it easier. (Although I'd still recommend doing it when you're both sober, as then you know you can take seriously whatever she replies).

Reply 4

crisl91

You're welcome :wink:

! I'm sure you'll be OK. I'm somewhat familiar with the situation, both in relation to me and friends. One of the friends I liked sort of did, I told him and even though he ended up not talking to me, that wasn't related to me saying I fancied him. Then there have been friends who were lucky and 2 of them have been going out for a year and a half now. You never know! Wishing you the best (just in case!)