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    Hi, plse keep anon or delete,
    My long term gf had ditched me, I’m sorting come to terms with the breakup although I still care for her immensely a lot the main reason was because she felt she needed a change and wanted to life out her youth. Lately her behaviour from what pple have told me has been quite shocking which had recently prompted me to talk to her about her actions.

    Whats of more concern, is that she had been seeing her ex during our relationship, although I didn’t know this at the time – but this just started when he’s come out of jail and so forth. I already know shes slept with him etc and the main reason for their breakup was because he was quite violent –towards her etc, and was incarcerated for stealing etc…He’s just moved near our uni to be with her…Recently I saw that she had been self-harming again and there were bruises, which can only make think of one thing,… I talked to her about it and she burst out crying but didn’t want to go any deeper and walked off.

    She’s recently started smoking and become much more promiscuous, which she used to always disapprove of esp, by the fact that her Father and grandma are dying from smoke related causes etc
    I was just wondering what I should do regarding the situation

    This is a horrible situation to be in. You obviously still care a lot for your ex but I dont think theres a lot you can do. if you had proof that her current boyfriend was abusing her then you could go to the police and report him but you dont have proof of it. She's obviously having a rough time of it and doesn't feel like she can talk to anyone. Talking to you may be uncomfortable with the situation but I would urge her to talk to someone she trusts about how she is feeling....
    Thats all I can really say.
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