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Girlfriend chats with her male best friend with ❤️ and 😘 emojis regularly

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Reply 20

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by SagaciousSag
Contradiction, perhaps? Anyway, if she sent hearts to male friends before you got together and does it all the tine, is it really that bad? A blue heart is completely platonic. If you don't typically do something of the sort with friends but then started doing it with one person, that would be a problem, because it would have romantic implications.


It may not be very bad, i agree. But is it really that important that you won't budge even if the other person feels that way about it?

Reply 21

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by Anonymous
It may not be very bad, i agree. But is it really that important that you won't budge even if the other person feels that way about it?

I would stop if I were in that situation and you asked in a well-meaning and understanding way. That's something you'll have to sort out with your girlfriend.

Reply 22

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by SagaciousSag
Contradiction, perhaps? Anyway, if she sent hearts to male friends before you got together and does it all the tine, is it really that bad? A blue heart is completely platonic. If you don't typically do something of the sort with friends but then started doing it with one person, that would be a problem, because it would have romantic implications.

Allow me to ask this way. If this happened with you, would you tell your bf to back off or would you understand and accommodate his feelings? Please bear in mind that he's not trying to control you or your friendships, at which you'd naturally become defensive, and that's understandable.

Reply 23

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by SagaciousSag
I would stop if I were in that situation and you asked in a well-meaning and understanding way. That's something you'll have to sort out with your girlfriend.

You already answered what i asked later. Thanks!

Reply 24

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by Anonymous
My girlfriend has a male best friend with whom she regularly chats and sends good morning/ good night messages with ❤️s and 😘s and all the chats in between too.
I know I should be better than that to think negatively about it, but since I kind of find it weird and never do it myself with my female friends, I felt a little odd about it.
I shared the same with her, and her reply felt rather condescending towards me. That if i tell her not to, she had no option but to not do it, and that she can't expect that I would understand but her best friend would (in a demeaning way). Like I'm telling her to change her nature and she feels suffocated in this relationship because of this single thing that i shared with her.
I understand that communication is the key in a relationship, but this key didn't work apparently.
Could someone help in sorting out my feelings here? Even if I'm wrong in telling it to her or feeling that way, please feel free to let me know.


As another user said on here, give her the benefit of the doubt perhaps? She could just be trying to be friendly... But it's coming across as too friendly.
However, if you start noticing other stuff that could be construed as more sexual or romantic then that's a red flag.

Reply 25

Totally not cool, How would she feel if you had a girl-best friend and sent her hearts or kisses and were going out frequently with her? Your GF 100% would be mad, #double standards mate. Confront her and ask if it's ok you have a girl best friend how would she react?

If she likes having male friends, she's gonna have more than just one.
My honest opinion, I would not accept that, but hey it's your life and your decision. My advise is to talk to her and be more firm.

Just like when my 20+yr old gf went to dinner with some 40yr old man who was a boss of a company, but since she refused the job, He decided to treat her to a dinner and talked to her how he is trying to find 20yr old MISTRESS, and MY GF SAW NOTHING WRONG, didn't even see he was hitting on her. Dumb as a tree, bro. I was firm and asked her to not do this again, because it's not normal. She understood.

Reply 26

Trust me, it probably means nothing at all. I have a guy best friend and we always use those specific emojis funnily enough. They’re always in my recents because of him. I’m telling you myself as a girl that I do this in a friendly way- not romantic at all.

Reply 27

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by Anonymous
Trust me, it probably means nothing at all. I have a guy best friend and we always use those specific emojis funnily enough. They’re always in my recents because of him. I’m telling you myself as a girl that I do this in a friendly way- not romantic at all.

Do you have a man who's totally cool with it or are you single?

Reply 28

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by Anonymous
Do you have a man who's totally cool with it or are you single?

Single lol

Reply 29

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by Anonymous
Single lol

single like a pringle ayy.

Reply 30

Unless she talks to all of her friends like that, including the female ones that's pretty cringe lol.

Reply 31

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by Anonymous
My girlfriend has a male best friend with whom she regularly chats and sends good morning/ good night messages with ❤️s and 😘s and all the chats in between too.
I know I should be better than that to think negatively about it, but since I kind of find it weird and never do it myself with my female friends, I felt a little odd about it.
I shared the same with her, and her reply felt rather condescending towards me. That if i tell her not to, she had no option but to not do it, and that she can't expect that I would understand but her best friend would (in a demeaning way). Like I'm telling her to change her nature and she feels suffocated in this relationship because of this single thing that i shared with her.
I understand that communication is the key in a relationship, but this key didn't work apparently.
Could someone help in sorting out my feelings here? Even if I'm wrong in telling it to her or feeling that way, please feel free to let me know.

Girls use those sort of emojis with friends unromantically all the time so there's really nothing to be worried about here. If the way she messages this male friend is different to her close female friends than maybe there's something more. But assuming there isn't, chances are she feels offended that you don't trust her.

Reply 32

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by Anonymous
single like a pringle ayy.

and happily so

Reply 33

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by danni63
Open communication and genuine friendships are key in any relationship. Emojis like and are often expressions of platonic affection. Trust and understanding are crucial for a healthy, secure bond.

This thread is a year old, I think you've dug it back up

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