Guy leading me on.......

I have known this guy from work for almost a year now and I am totally infatuated by him, I just dont know what to with myself!!!

When i first started working there, i didnt like him at first and i was currently seeing someone for about 2 years. Things didnt work out and i eventually split up with him. My feelings for this guy are sooooooooo strong, it is indescribable.

I told him that i liked him because i wanted to know if he felt the same way. He told me he had a girlfriend and i was devastated and he appears to be committed to her. but i just cant help but be jealous and depressed about it.

The thing that confuses me is that he gives me all these mixed signals, like touching and making fun of me. I am sure he likes me.........We had a big conversation about this whole situation and he told me i am 'everything'....but.... he is committed to his girlfriend which i respect.

But today he walked me home, what does this bloody mean?? i just feel like he is leading me on which i know for certain is just going to eventually end up in heartbreak!!! I have been rejected once, i want to get this story straight and know exactly what he is playing at.........

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Reply 1

Sakura-Chan

20

eugh, this sounds so familiar. seriously, the best thing to do is move on, focus your attention on someone else and try and ignore him at work - change your shifts maybe? thats what i did

hes obviously a bit of a **** if he has a girlfriend and hes trying it on with you etc. i highly doubt anything good will come of it, even if it does you'll still be the one that broke up a relationship

Reply 2

Chrrye

17

Tbh he could just be being friendly and nice (the joking, walking you home I mean...saying your everything is v.dodgy). You shouldnt read too much into his actions.

But at the same time if he is committed and you dont want to ruin that(and think you might if things continue) then you need to remove the option for these events to take place.
Tell him you dont want to be walked home, dont want to be touched/ dont have anything but superficial conversations etc.

Reply 3

exceptional87

OP

Chrrye

Tbh he could just be being friendly and nice (the joking, walking you home I mean...saying your everything is v.dodgy). You shouldnt read too much into his actions.

But at the same time if he is committed and you dont want to ruin that(and think you might if things continue) then you need to remove the option for these events to take place.
Tell him you dont want to be walked home, dont want to be touched/ dont have anything but superficial conversations etc.

i am actually considering leaving my job and getting another one - not only because of him but other stuff to e.g. managers.... ive already given out cvs but nothing at the moment.....

i think about him almost everyday but there are those days when i think i am over him and i feel so so happy, but the feelings slowly come back which is so disheartening!!! its just a great big cycle!!!

Reply 4

Chrrye

17

exceptional87

i am actually considering leaving my job and getting another one - not only because of him but other stuff to e.g. managers.... ive already given out cvs but nothing at the moment.....

i think about him almost everyday but there are those days when i think i am over him and i feel so so happy, but the feelings slowly come back which is so disheartening!!! its just a great big cycle!!!

Yeah, probably best for some distance if it isnt going to screw up your career.
Cut him out of your life/ yourself out of his for a 1/2 year or so and try and see other people and then see how you feel. You can always look him up then and check his situation. :yep:

Good Luck

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

u are giving urself these mixed signals, just take him at his wordd or you'll end up wasting ur timee ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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