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    I was friends with my boyfriend for ohhh 5 years before we started going out. We're still together 2 and a half years later

    It can work and it can be extremely fulfilling!
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    (Original post by mappymappy)
    I have a very close guy friend who's fantastic. I've only really started to realise I really fancy him and I think he feels the same way. I'm a bit worried about the transition from friend/boyfriend and I wondered if any of you have or had a partner who started out as a friend and if you could give any adivce? I don't want to lose him as a friend so i dont wanna muck this up!
    thanks guys
    Really tough to answer because, it just depends how your relationship goes once you have made the switch. I think you both need to be mature enough to know that if it doesn't work out, that you can still be close to each other. I was best friends with a girl, and then we dated. She broke up with me cuz of another guy, so we didn't talk for about 5 years. Now we are best friends again, but the time that we were dating wasn't worth it to me to not be friends for 5 years.
    But that was what happened to me, and you will never know if you don't try, and you can't hide your feelings.
    Best of Luck!!! :cool:
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    I was friends with my boyfriend for 2 years before we got together. Been going out for about 6 months now =) and it's great. I knew exactly what I was getting beforehand.
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    I was very very good friends with this guy from college and then we got a bit 'too involved' with eacother emotionally and we're not friends anymore.
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    Yeah its very very risky
    Because if he does say no, its gonna be real awkward for u guys
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    Just make sure that, if you're going to get involved with him that way, you TELL him that you want him to be your boyfriend. A lot of guys really need it spelt out for them so they don't think you're just teasing them or something.
    Anyhoos, I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, and we were friends for two and a half years before that
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    (Original post by itsmyname)
    Yeah its very very risky
    Because if he does say no, its gonna be real awkward for u guys
    Happened with a couple of my really close female friends. Didn't do any damage to the friendship - we're mature enough to deal with it.
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    Even if you finish the relationship and things don't work out, you can keep your friendship assuming both sides really want it. My ex and I have been best friends throughout our relationship, and we had the messiest break up ever (on-off-funny-eh-what-the-heck-erm-nevermind-screw-this type of situation) - it's been a year now, and we're still best friends.

    Give it a go Good luck xx
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    (Original post by khil)
    Even if you finish the relationship and things don't work out, you can keep your friendship assuming both sides really want it. My ex and I have been best friends throughout our relationship, and we had the messiest break up ever (on-off-funny-eh-what-the-heck-erm-nevermind-screw-this type of situation) - it's been a year now, and we're still best friends.

    Give it a go Good luck xx
    have either of you had another relationship since though? i think this can often be where it gets hard...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    have either of you had another relationship since though? i think this can often be where it gets hard...
    Yeh, it is unfortunately. Going through it right now - I'm convinced though that our friendship can come out intact though. At the moment, I'm seeing/dating this guy (waiting for him to ask me out you see), who unfortunately happens to be my ex's new housemate :rolleyes: So yeh, things are doubly awkward for the two guys. *sigh*

    Nonetheless, if we managed to get through last year, we can get through this (last year was hell, involved a 3rd girl - I'm sure you get the story.)
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    My ex left me for his best friend and it kills me to say they worked out :/
 
 
 
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