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    Anon or Delete please mod.

    So basically I started uni a couple months ago, and I'm not liking it. I'm not a social guy etc, but I made a couple mates. The thing which is worrying me most is the work. It's been 4/5 weeks since the actual course started, and I've been to like 1 or 2 seminars, and I've attended about 75% of my lectures.

    I found out a couple days ago that there is coursework to be handed in in 2 weeks. I've made NO notes whatsoever, and am clueless about everything. This is my fault, but I don't know how to get out of it. I can't sit in the library making notes.

    TBH, I didn't want to go uni. I was forced into the whole thing by family + friends etc. I'm Asian, so theres a big "hoo-har" about not going uni. I seriously wanna drop out.

    It's not only 'cos I'm behind on work, it's also because of my wierd personality. I'm uber shy and just don't enjoy socialising. I don't go into the kitchen (I live in halls) 'cos I don't want to bump into anyone, this has lead me to eat absolute crap every single day. I'm piling on the pounds .. well I will be anyways.

    Theres nobody I can talk to tbh, I've heard the uni councellor is kinda rubbish, no way I'm talking to friends or family, so my best bet was TSR.

    I'd seriously appreciate any guidance on what I should do next. I'm kinda stuck in a rut.
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    every one will want to talk to u at uni cos no-one has any friends there so just go get to know people. you can also kick ass at work and never leave ur room whaterver
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    you sound like you're scared to talking to other people.. why should you be scared? after all they're human beings just like yourself... what's going to happen when it comes to presentations and group work?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    TBH, I didn't want to go uni.
    May I ask why?
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    You have nothing to be afraid of.. just talk to people!

    I was in a similar situation, but you'll get thru it.
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    Just to the first 2 posters: My main problem isn't socialising, 'cos I've already made some friends + I do get on with flatmates, I d'no what's up with me tbh :confused:

    Previous poster: I could be making plenty of money running my own business. Parents have no faith in me hence they think I need a "fallback". Fair enough, if I'm persuing a music career, or being a sportsperson, yeah a fallback would be essential, but not in this case.
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    anon?... and stuff?
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    well what uni are you at?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Previous poster: I could be making plenty of money running my own business. Parents have no faith in me hence they think I need a "fallback". Fair enough, if I'm persuing a music career, or being a sportsperson, yeah a fallback would be essential, but not in this case.
    Since you're already failing at uni, and with the current financial climate, and with you apparent lack of people skills, I doubt that fact.

    Man up. If you're really not enjoying your course, transfer and/or drop out. It is pointless wasting even more time and money. At some point you're going to have to tell your parents this. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to be unhappy, but also wasting your time and their money.

    As for a career, find something you enjoy and something that you're good at, not necessarily something which pays well. Get work experience if necessary, then see what you need to pursue such career. If you need to go to uni, go to uni. If you need more communication skills, for example, get more work experience, etc. If you find something you enjoy and that interests you you will be far more motivated to pursue it and put in the necessary work.

    Don't enjoy socialising? Shy? Find people that you enjoy being around and enjoy socialising with. The more socialising you do, the less shy you get.
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    if your truly unhappy then i would suggest dropping out of uni, pretty much the same as what chocoholic said. get a job? theres loads of agencies that can help you ( office angels etc )and you may find socializing easier at work than amongst your peers? i dunno rly but whatever you do, follow your heart and dont give in to parental pressure
 
 
 
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