This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- please help me :') ASAP!
- Men are so confusing, is he just avoiding feelings?
- Why did he lie?
- boyfriend snitched on me
- lied to boyfriend about my age by a year
- Boyfriend Vs Best friend
- Should I break up with my gf because she can't find a job?
- Confusion
- am i still fixated on him? Slow replies?
- lost a guy because i was dumb
- Protentional crush on somebody living in another country. Please give advice!!
- I don't even know anymore
- Mca or scotland?
- what do i do? (friends, relationship and gcse)
- Do any other girls like guys cumming quickly?
- is he using me?
- Is that normal?
- First date at his?
- Am I overthinking this or do I make a valid point?
- kind of need to ask "what are we" but feel it's a bit soon
Would you stay with him after 2 months of lies ?
Sorry in advance for long post
and please keep annon for obvious reasons!
where do i start!? i'll try and cut it down...
got an email off an old friend who goes to college with me and my bf (i do a-levels, he does business btec) she said my bf had been seeing this girl from her class for the last 2 months and they had slept together.
big argument with bf. made him ring the other girl (lets call her alice) and put alice on loudspeaker to ask her why she was sayin this.. alice said she made up that they had slept together when she was angry at my bf coz he didnt meet up with her one night.
left at that , i was still very angry.
i then found out he had been round her house twice on his own for about an hour and had given her a lift somewhere once.
i found texts on his phone the worst one said.. "the fact i cant have what i want - you in the back of your car ******* me senseless" this text was from the 20th sept. i had asked him countless times as i was suspicious since then if he had text her / emailed her or anything and everytime he said NO.
she swears blind he fingered her and she gave him head in the back of his car. he says he would have finished with me if he was going to cheat.
today found an email in his sent folder to her saying.. "heya baby heres the work i did for u coz your a lazzyyy girrlll ;P xxxxxxxxxx"
this last revelation made me snap. everything i know now, is what ive had to find out myself he's not once told me the truth or been honest with me. ive had people come up to me at college saying, ur bfs done this your bfs done that etc..
problem is we're 19 and engaged both returned to college. he doesnt want to go to uni but was sobbing to me hysterically saying he wants to marry me and when i go to uni he'll move and follow me anywhere i go and cant live without me and it was all a stupid mistake that got out of hand. he felt he couldnt tell me bcoz i've not been well lately, ive recently been diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder.
we been together 2 years i love him so much but just dont kno if i can ever get over all this.
HEEELLPP!!
what would you do ? would you carry on, take it step by step and try to re build the trust
or would you get rid of him for treating u like this ?
and please keep annon for obvious reasons!
where do i start!? i'll try and cut it down...
got an email off an old friend who goes to college with me and my bf (i do a-levels, he does business btec) she said my bf had been seeing this girl from her class for the last 2 months and they had slept together.
big argument with bf. made him ring the other girl (lets call her alice) and put alice on loudspeaker to ask her why she was sayin this.. alice said she made up that they had slept together when she was angry at my bf coz he didnt meet up with her one night.
left at that , i was still very angry.
i then found out he had been round her house twice on his own for about an hour and had given her a lift somewhere once.
i found texts on his phone the worst one said.. "the fact i cant have what i want - you in the back of your car ******* me senseless" this text was from the 20th sept. i had asked him countless times as i was suspicious since then if he had text her / emailed her or anything and everytime he said NO.
she swears blind he fingered her and she gave him head in the back of his car. he says he would have finished with me if he was going to cheat.
today found an email in his sent folder to her saying.. "heya baby heres the work i did for u coz your a lazzyyy girrlll ;P xxxxxxxxxx"
this last revelation made me snap. everything i know now, is what ive had to find out myself he's not once told me the truth or been honest with me. ive had people come up to me at college saying, ur bfs done this your bfs done that etc..
problem is we're 19 and engaged both returned to college. he doesnt want to go to uni but was sobbing to me hysterically saying he wants to marry me and when i go to uni he'll move and follow me anywhere i go and cant live without me and it was all a stupid mistake that got out of hand. he felt he couldnt tell me bcoz i've not been well lately, ive recently been diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder.
we been together 2 years i love him so much but just dont kno if i can ever get over all this.
HEEELLPP!!
what would you do ? would you carry on, take it step by step and try to re build the trust
or would you get rid of him for treating u like this ?
Reply 1
Get rid of him. Firstly for the cheating. Secondly for the lying.
That text did it for me. If he wants someone else now, he's NOT marriage material. I wouldn't think of going out with someone who didn't want me and only me, let alone marrying him!
It'll be hard, but it has to be done.
That text did it for me. If he wants someone else now, he's NOT marriage material. I wouldn't think of going out with someone who didn't want me and only me, let alone marrying him!
It'll be hard, but it has to be done.
Reply 2
jesus girl... get rid... it's one thing to like someone because we can't control that but to find texts about having sex in his car?? i don't think he deserves your time... we all make mistakes but he really has bitten the biscuit and how he kept trying to arrange things shows he really is pathetic...
hope you work things out hun, good luck. xx
hope you work things out hun, good luck. xx
Reply 3
Get rid. You're only young, no point putting up with **** like that.
Reply 4
get rid babe. he doesnt deserve you. it'll be hard but your worth more than that
Reply 5
18
Seriously get rid of him. Anxiety is horrible but imagine the anxious feeling of never being able to trust him.
You deserve so much more.
You deserve so much more.
Reply 6
14
generic H&R reply coming in 5,4,3,2,1.........DUMP HIM!
Reply 7
19
if I was in your shoes I wouldn't even ask, I would leave him
Reply 8
18
Don't know if anyone else has suggested this, but I really think you should dump him.
Reply 9
thanks everyone for ur replys. well i dont kno if he did cheat ive accepted im never going to find the truth on that.
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died
its difficult to explain.
all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died
its difficult to explain.all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
Reply 10
"Smoke the foo!", says Mr T. In a strange way, though from some cheap C20th TV trash, it makes perfect sense.
Mr T is a prophet, clearly.
Mr T is a prophet, clearly.
Reply 11
Anonymous
thanks everyone for ur replys. well i dont kno if he did cheat ive accepted im never going to find the truth on that.
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died its difficult to explain.
all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died
its difficult to explain.all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
i wouldn't get sorry about ranting... we all need to occasionally. it will be hard but you need to think about this.. how many times will you end up trying to work out whether he did cheat or not... how many times a day do you wonder about whether he did or not? just a thought x
Reply 12
Try to move on i know it hurts, but people change in life, and tbh from what you've told me he dosen't sound to nice and you sound like a lovely girl, as other users say anxiety is the worst feeling, not knowing just try to take each day as it comes, eventually it will get easier, your still very young. Just dump him and move on there are so many nicer blokes out there 
Reply 13
Webbykinskt
i wouldn't get sorry about ranting... we all need to occasionally. it will be hard but you need to think about this.. how many times will you end up trying to work out whether he did cheat or not... how many times a day do you wonder about whether he did or not? just a thought x
too many probably!! lol.
just wish i could look into the future and see if he is 'the one' and what would happen if i did give it another go.. im scared i'll regret it if i dont give him another chance and i'll be wondering what if. but im equally as scared that he'll hurt me again!
Reply 14
Anonymous
too many probably!! lol.
just wish i could look into the future and see if he is 'the one' and what would happen if i did give it another go.. im scared i'll regret it if i dont give him another chance and i'll be wondering what if. but im equally as scared that he'll hurt me again!
just wish i could look into the future and see if he is 'the one' and what would happen if i did give it another go.. im scared i'll regret it if i dont give him another chance and i'll be wondering what if. but im equally as scared that he'll hurt me again!
that answers your question. if you have to doubt it then it's obviously troubled from the start... don't follow your heart right now because it could trick you... follow your head. you'll know what's right for you... not him! x
Reply 15
what a bad ass 
Reply 16
17
Anonymous
thanks everyone for ur replys. well i dont kno if he did cheat ive accepted im never going to find the truth on that.
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died its difficult to explain.
all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
its a shame because since going back to college as hes really shy and got no confidence he attatched himself to a group of nasty mouthy chavs and hes just completly different at college.
i just love him SO much and im gutted he did this to me. id love to think i could forgive him and we could move on i just dont kno how.
2 years is such a long time to turn around and just finish it. he was my best friend and its almost like he's died
its difficult to explain.all my friends have gone to uni, ive got no one to talk to, its really hard.
just hurts so much to think this is what he's done. but its almost like i need him there to get over it
sorry for the rambling on
You're listing all the wrong reasons for staying with a person...
- Time spent on a relationship is not reason to stay in it on its own.
- Fear of being alone (at least it sounds like).
You need to be able to stand on your own two feet because otherwise he will continue to walk all over you.
Related discussions
- please help me :') ASAP!
- Men are so confusing, is he just avoiding feelings?
- Why did he lie?
- boyfriend snitched on me
- lied to boyfriend about my age by a year
- Boyfriend Vs Best friend
- Should I break up with my gf because she can't find a job?
- Confusion
- am i still fixated on him? Slow replies?
- lost a guy because i was dumb
- Protentional crush on somebody living in another country. Please give advice!!
- I don't even know anymore
- Mca or scotland?
- what do i do? (friends, relationship and gcse)
- Do any other girls like guys cumming quickly?
- is he using me?
- Is that normal?
- First date at his?
- Am I overthinking this or do I make a valid point?
- kind of need to ask "what are we" but feel it's a bit soon
Latest
Trending
Last reply 1 day ago
What food item are you currently craving?Last reply 3 days ago
TSR Rate My Plate: post a picture of your delicious food!Last reply 1 month ago
can u guys help me get my mum back ðŸ˜(revenge post)Last reply 1 month ago
mum FORCED me to sign a (legal?!) contract to become a doctor or face DOOR removalðŸ˜Last reply 1 month ago
HELP!!! is this normal punishment or are my parents being weird???Last reply 1 month ago
feeling of bugs crawling under my skin/never feeling cleanLast reply 2 months ago
What painkillers do they give you when you get your wisdom teeth removed?Last reply 2 months ago
Can someone please help me tag Artful_lounger, i want to ask him a question
