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I’ve become fed of developing urine infections, Im prone to them and tend to feel rubbish with lots of stomach pain when I get them. It’s embarrassing to have to keep going off sick with it and it’s got to the point where I management are looking down on me and questioning my time off. When I go in though my job is non stop (in a hospital) it’s not like I am sat at home with a laptop and can get comfortable.
It’s also affecting my relationship with my bf. I’ve always been able to live quite happily without sex but obviously in a relationship you have to compromise so I’ve been having sex
However with the uti’s I just think that I’m going even more out of my way (since they only started since I began having sex) and I’m starting to resent it and secretly feel annoyed that I have to have it.
I don’t know what to do a relationship to me would be perfect without sex but in 99% of relationships it is expected
It’s also affecting my relationship with my bf. I’ve always been able to live quite happily without sex but obviously in a relationship you have to compromise so I’ve been having sex
However with the uti’s I just think that I’m going even more out of my way (since they only started since I began having sex) and I’m starting to resent it and secretly feel annoyed that I have to have it.
I don’t know what to do a relationship to me would be perfect without sex but in 99% of relationships it is expected
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Do you pee after sex? I would try that if you don't, as well as washing the front. If you already do, tell your boyfriend that you just can't take any more time off work, so you don't want to have sex with him for the time being.
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If it's causing you pain. Stop having sex. A relationship doesn't start to break down without sex, but if your bf wants to break up, then it's clear he isn't the one.
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I would speak to your doctor about it as it isn’t normal for someone to get so many urine infections, though they are more common with sexually active females. In the meantime, maybe talk to your bf about having non penetrative sex for a while to give your body a break
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If it's causing you pain. Stop having sex. A relationship doesn't start to break down without sex, but if your bf wants to break up, then it's clear he isn't the one.
If it's causing you pain. Stop having sex. A relationship doesn't start to break down without sex, but if your bf wants to break up, then it's clear he isn't the one.
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Have you spoken to a doctor?
Have you spoken to a doctor?
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From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
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Do you pee after sex? I would try that if you don't, as well as washing the front. If you already do, tell your boyfriend that you just can't take any more time off work, so you don't want to have sex with him for the time being.
Do you pee after sex? I would try that if you don't, as well as washing the front. If you already do, tell your boyfriend that you just can't take any more time off work, so you don't want to have sex with him for the time being.
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Not as a habit I don’t but I suppose I could try this
Not as a habit I don’t but I suppose I could try this
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From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
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It deserves some proper investigation and help if it’s a recurring issue. I would put some pressure on the GP to take it seriously and if necessary refer you.
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There are plenty of ways of having sex that don't come near your urinary tract. Rather than looking at it as a choice between getting UTIs or leaving him unsatisfied, you could try to see it as an opportunity to get curious and experimental and explore new things you both might like!
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From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
From my understanding sex is very important to men if they know they won’t be having it long term most will leave
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If it's causing you pain. Stop having sex. A relationship doesn't start to break down without sex, but if your bf wants to break up, then it's clear he isn't the one.
If it's causing you pain. Stop having sex. A relationship doesn't start to break down without sex, but if your bf wants to break up, then it's clear he isn't the one.
The OP needs to do some thorough investigations either herself and in conjunction with her doctor. Hydrated, always pee after sex. Use lube. Sexual health screen. Can try you both showering before. Loose cotton knickers, ideally sleep with nothing on. What products do you use down there to clean/shave? You're not giving it a freshen up just before the act etc.
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