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Pro-life or pro-choice?

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Original post by hotpud
I think there is a very easy question that should be answered by the pro-choice brigade. If the life of the child is paramount, are you willing to take on an unwanted baby and give it the "blessed" life you feel it deserves?

If the answer is no, then with all respect, I feel your morals are misplaced. It is easy to stand up for ideals when they don't affect you personally.

If yes, then fair dos. I await you throwing your hat into the ring and adopting.


Do you believe it is moral to kill homeless people, to save them from the difficult lives that they’re living?

If not, how many of them will you be taking into your own home?
Original post by da_nolo
A.) abortion and rape are tricky conversations sometimes. both sides (for/against abortion) come from sympathetic intentions and positions. at the forefront, pro-life argument pushes respect for both victims. also desire to refrain from furthering acts of violence against the woman. for any whom have suffered in this way, please know there is support out there. rely on family but also rely on professional help to navigate the grief. groups exist that bring victims together to give a safe place to speak. all changing from victim to survivor.

There have been many women (rape) survivors to speak out against abortion. to explain how their actions brought greater healing. there are also women who choose abortion and explain their experiences to being worst than rape or a triggering moment to relive it. I am open to learning more in this topic from both sides on the discussion. there have been many to keep their pregnancy as well as child, coming forth "stronger" (in their words). if anyone knows an article or survey on the topic that shares the perspective from women who suffered rape and remained pregnant, please share. I am open on reading such info.

here is an article from a feminist Serrin M. Foster on the topic. https://www.feministsforlife.org/what-about-rape/
I'd say following could be sensitive.

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Again very facinating but im sure you will find examples of every concievable kind of aftermath scenario involving rape and pregnancy if you look for them, for example a quick google i just did yeilded reports and interviews one of which supported your claims about a women who regrets having the abortion, but another one in which the women kept the child and cant look at the child because it reminds her of her rape and rapist. That doesnt even get in to the idea that a women would have to care for and pay for a child born from rape. So it seems that allowing abortion is the only logical conclusion. Especially given the next part.



Original post by da_nolo

However, important to note that many countries and anti-abortion groups would allow acceptation to abortion or other operations that may result in unborn death for cases of rape and medical reasons.

I mean good and so they should but its also a very fine line to walk, all life is precious unless its a rape baby in which case "murder" is acceptable. Its too much of a contradiction.



Original post by da_nolo
B) in regards to medical. may you or anyone please list or provide example to medical reasons? many times people say "danger to the mother," but provide examples that abortion is not necessary. in some cases abortion can not be used at all, like still births. instead, even abortion technicians have provided insight to medical situations where other options are more viable for both woman and child.

important to note that in many medical examples, the child is wanted - not unwanted.

I’m no doctor but again a quick google searched yielded an article by a specialist doctor on pregnancy and gynaecology who gave several examples, the first one she gave being infection of the uterus which can cause blood sepsis and death if the pregnancy continues. More over I found a joint statement from The American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (ACOG) and Physicians for Reproductive Health which stated "the termination of a pregnancy in the form of abortion can be necessary to save a woman’s life". So, while I don’t have the knowledge to give you a list of conditions, people who do have the knowledge seem to think that it is sometimes necessary and as always google is your friend. Again however, the logical path is to keep abortion legal.



Original post by da_nolo
1. there may be instances where people choose to kill other humans, some even deemed necessary. however, still not proclaimed as moral. which is why there has been pushes against some of these killings like death penalty, war, etc. if we look at how a community functions, we can see how laws protect self defense cases but analyze situations where a person should not have killed another. such laws are in place to protect citizens and maintain a functioning community. still I'd bet it hard to compare an unborn to the likes of someone sentenced to death or another situation.

Again, it’s an individual morality issue, I have no problem with killing in self-defence, nor would I judge someone for killing self-defence. I have no problem with the death penalty. War is its own issue entirely. And again, it’s another separate issue of morality, practicality and science for abortion. So, the only logical move is to make or keep abortion legal.



Original post by da_nolo
2. "There is no correlation or causation between abortion and equality."
then it looks like abortion rights is not human rights after all.
"women can have an abortion if they want to, or they can have the baby and have support structures like statutory maternity leave available."
my point uses pro-abortion argument that a woman can not do anything with her life if she has a baby should indicate enough that the support structures (e.g. maternity leave) do not exist or are not adequate for the needs of the mother and child.
there are pictures thrown around online and elsewhere that depict women shackled to children like slaves. a woman asks her infant "what could [she] ever do without [her child]." where the infant lists what she could have done, indicating a better life.

since the roe v. wade turn over in America, there have been several articles to show that businesses would loose millions of dollars if abortion was not available. except part of that million of dollars in costs is used to provide women maternity leave. so the article affectively complains about providing women support economically - and instead aboriton is the better option. this is not new and has been direct push to sell abortion. there will never be equality with abortion.

I don’t want to digress too much but no such thing as a "human right" exists because all societies have a different definition of it. They really should be called "societal privileges".

Second thing I want to mention is you seem to have a very... odd.... view of what equality is and a bunch of people telling a woman what she can and can’t do, on the grounds of their morals being "superior" is anti-equality and that is exactly what anti-abortionists try and do. So once again the only logical path keep abortion legal.



Original post by da_nolo
3. plenty of mums who don't love their kids? I agree. if this occurs with or without aboriton, then abortion is not the solution to help both mom and child.

Great. So i assume your name will be down to adopt if abortion is ever banned?


Original post by da_nolo
4. more bad messaging? I call it double speak. curious, you say this:
"reinforce that no women should ever feel bad for having an abortion, especially when pregnancy is under one of the two situations mentioned above."
when a mom is wanting her child but told she needs an aboriton because there are medical complications. are you saying she should not feel bad because she is having an abortion?

Again, again, again, it’s all a matter of the individual. Speaking from a position of a man who wouldn’t have to make such a choice, I would have no problem having an abortion to save my life and I would have no problem making the decision to save a women’s (such as my girlfriends) life by abortion.

The point I was trying to make, rather badly on re-reading I admit, is there is no wrong answer, if they want to keep the child at the risk to their own life, fine, good luck. If they want an abortion so they don’t die, fine as well. It’s about support for the decision and sure some might feel bad, some might not. I can’t tell a woman to not feel sad, but I can help her through it by supporting the decision and reassuring her that she made the right choice. Which is made all the more difficult when you have nut-cases with signs outside abortions clinics saying "murder" or words to that effect, which I think is justified in being called evil and emotional terrorism.


Original post by da_nolo
C) for your last comment. I find it oddly familiar to something Margaret Sanger is reported to saying. the people who drag on the system and such should have abortion available to them for all situations to help reduce their population. except - for Margaret, her people who drag on the system are Africans.

Clearly Margaret Sanger has issues, but there is a clear distinction between her position and the position of abortion as a means to prevent state drain. Again though, whether or not you view them as the same depends on your morals regarding abortion.

Given the lack of consensus scientifically on when the unborn is truly considered alive, the myriad of moral differences and the actual medical, emotional, financial reasons for abortion the only logical and fair way to go about this is to keep it legal and not for the pro-life people to try and push their morality onto others. It’s also worth noting that even with a position of abortion availability as a mean to control poverty and state drain, I don’t think it would be right to make people get abortions if they don’t want one. In short abortion shouldn’t be something to be decided by the state, it should be available so that everyone can make their own decision and the people who disagree with the decision need to mind their own business.
Original post by tazarooni89
Do you believe it is moral to kill homeless people, to save them from the difficult lives that they’re living?

If not, how many of them will you be taking into your own home?

It’s a different question entirely when you replace unborn baby with homeless person. Its rather disingenuous to suggest it’s the same tbh.
Original post by da_nolo
Lol. All posts on tsr and all comments people make in life are opinions. A thought or belief about a given topic. Your reply to me are opinions being projected. Only quotations, data, and the like are not opinooons.

In regards to my morals. Der as well. I referenced how my view that morality is objective but argued to being subjective. Therefore my focus was on ethics within medical field often refered to as hippocratic oath. Ethics in medicine has long been viewed as a staple for what every doctor, nurse, etc. should do and as something that should exist.

My one example for a benefit from banning abortion is vasecomy? No, the benefit I listed was increased in shared responsibility prior to being pregnant or having sex. Then I give a real life example based recent events to show how society adapts for the better (my opinion) when abortion is banned. More men should not rely on the women to just end a pregnancy.

This occurs because there is greater realization by women that there is no morning after pill. Pregnancy is once again viewed as something to prevent prior to it occuring rather than trying to end it after it occurs.

For the reasons you list, I addressed it earlier. some depict a failure to support families and women in general. otherwise we get into the age old debate as to whom deserves rights because right to life should be a trump card (unrelated to any person).

Then your last paragraph. This part is an opinion. So how is someone suposed to look at your opinion?

Also you said earlier that abortion does not correlate with or cause equality. So if its banned, no equality lost.


Obviously, that’s my whole point. Abortion is 100%, no question about, without doubt a subjective issue. But it is a subjective issue where restriction leads to objectively negative consequences. Ergo, keep it legal, everyone butts out of other people’s lives and do what their own morals tells them to do.
Lol morality is NEVER objective, ever. Even the hypocritic oath was spawned from subjective morality. However even the hypocritic oath, as written in its modern incarnation, doesn’t and cannot cover abortion because the foundation on which its based does not have the answer.

More vasectomy does not equal shared responsibility nor does it show a society adapting for the better. Its using a flamethrower to light a candle because you banned the use of matches.

I actually agree unwanted pregnancy is something, ideally, to be prevented but mistakes happen, equipment fails, people can be forced. So yeah, prevent if possible but having something reactive is required. Its better to prevent my house catching fire, but its nice to have a fire extinguisher in case it does.

If there is a failure to adequately support a mother, that should be addressed, but at least in the UK I don’t think it is. As for right to life I address this in my other reply as there is a lack of consensus on where “life” begins, hence it’s a subjective issue, hence butt out and leave abortion available for those who want it.

Its all opinion as you correctly state, and maybe I wasn’t clear in my comment about why those particular opinion points I didn’t feel were worthwhile talking about, but all of your opinion points from that point have been addressed in our further dialogue.

Finally, my comment of lack of correlation was in regard to the broader picture of equality you were trying to paint, that is abortion effects equality elsewhere, which it doesn’t. I address something to this effect in my other post but ill put a one-line version here. Abortion being legal does not affect the equality, but banning it would affect equality.
Original post by da_nolo
Who are you asking this question to?
Sounds like rhetoric towards anti abortion not pro abortion.


I'm asking the anti-abortion. The anti-abortion stance imposes its view on others without actually affecting or impacting on themselves one bit. It takes away rights and it takes away freedoms. So if those freedoms and rights are to be taken away from women, it only makes sense that those who impose that view also bare the consequences of their will. In other words, adopt unwanted children or pay women not to have abortions and help them raise the children whose right to life is so important.

As someone else on here said here - the anti-abortion movement only seem interested in the foetus. As soon as the baby is born their interest quickly wanes which in my view is incredibly hypocritical. What is life if you can't afford to live it?
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Original post by tazarooni89
Do you believe it is moral to kill homeless people, to save them from the difficult lives that they’re living?

If not, how many of them will you be taking into your own home?


We already have Ukrainians living with us. As do many of our friends. Next question.
Original post by hotpud
We already have Ukrainians living with us. As do many of our friends. Next question.


I didn’t ask about Ukrainian refugees I asked about ordinary homeless people. What housing are you personally providing them?
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Original post by Djtoodles
It’s a different question entirely when you replace unborn baby with homeless person. Its rather disingenuous to suggest it’s the same tbh.


It’s not disingenuous at all. People who are pro-life oppose killing the unborn child for precisely the same reason as why you’d oppose killing the born person. The whole point of being pro-life is that they aren’t convinced that the two are fundamentally any different.

So an argument for abortion is never going to work if it simply assumes that the two are somehow morally different, because that’s the very issue that’s in dispute.
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Original post by tazarooni89
I didn’t ask about Ukrainian refugees I asked about ordinary homeless people. What housing are you personally providing them?


Nothing - obviously. But neither am I calling for all homeless people to be unsupported or blaming them as if it is somehow their fault that they became homeless, or that it is down to them to bare the cost of getting them out of homelessness or even suggesting that being homeless is their own fault for supposed poor life choices or bad luck.

It's a pretty poor analogue if you ask me.
Pro life.
Original post by hotpud
Nothing - obviously.


So you don’t support killing homeless people to save them from their plight, yet you also aren’t personally taking them into your home.

Now simply replace “homeless person” with “unwanted child” and you’ll see why people can equally oppose killing them without personally taking them in.

But neither am I calling for all homeless people to be unsupported or blaming them as if it is somehow their fault that they became homeless, or that it is down to them to bare the cost of getting them out of homelessness or even suggesting that being homeless is their own fault for supposed poor life choices or bad luck.

It's a pretty poor analogue if you ask me.


Not sure what this has got to do with the analogy; I don’t think anyone is blaming unwanted fetuses or saying it’s their fault they’re in that position either.
Original post by tazarooni89
It’s not disingenuous at all. People who are pro-life oppose killing the unborn child for precisely the same reason as why you’d oppose killing the born person. The whole point of being pro-life is that they aren’t convinced that the two are fundamentally any different.

So an argument for abortion is never going to work if it simply assumes that the two are somehow morally different, because that’s the very issue that’s in dispute.


Yes it is. You loaded the question by phrasing it in the way you did. Very underhanded.
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Original post by Djtoodles
Yes it is. You loaded the question by phrasing it in the way you did. Very underhanded.


I literally just gave back hotpud the same question he asked himself, except replacing an unwanted child with a homeless person. I've made it quite clear that the reason for doing this is that, as far as pro-lifers are concerned, there's no unequivocal reason why the two situations should be considered any differently, from a moral perspective.

What's "underhanded" about that? It's no more a loaded question than the one hotpud asked in the first place.
Original post by tazarooni89
I literally just gave back hotpud the same question he asked himself, except replacing an unwanted unborn child with a homeless person. I've made it quite clear that the reason for doing this is that, as far as pro-lifers are concerned, there's no unequivocal reason why the two situations should be considered any differently, from a moral perspective.

What's "underhanded" about that? It's no more a loaded question than the one hotpud asked in the first place.

Ive fixed it for you, but ill ask you this, if the two situations are the same why is there such a curfuffle in the anti-abortion crowd about pregnancy as a result of incest or rape, why is there such a division among them if "life is life"?
Original post by tazarooni89
So you don’t support killing homeless people to save them from their plight, yet you also aren’t personally taking them into your home.

Now simply replace “homeless person” with “unwanted child” and you’ll see why people can equally oppose killing them without personally taking them in.



Not sure what this has got to do with the analogy; I don’t think anyone is blaming unwanted fetuses or saying it’s their fault they’re in that position either.


I am saying
a) I don't think a comparison of abortion with homelessness is particularly analogous. You seem to be suggesting that two solutions to homelessness are either to kill homeless people or house them in my house. Seems a bit ridiculous really when the actual solution is to support them and provide them with what they need to live a fulfilling life.

b) Which I suppose comes back to the main point. Either allow women to make their own decisions within a reasonable time scale - 24 weeks seems reasonable to me although I would hypothesise that the majority of women abort much, much earlier than that, or as you seem to suggest, support those women in bringing up their unwanted children.
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Original post by Djtoodles
Ive fixed it for you


You’ve yet to explain why that “fix” actually makes any difference though.

but ill ask you this, if the two situations are the same why is there such a curfuffle in the anti-abortion crowd about pregnancy as a result of incest or rape, why is there such a division among them if "life is life"?


Because undoubtedly, some people do accept your premise that killing the unborn isn’t as bad as killing someone who is born. But that doesn’t make it indisputably true. It can’t be used as a self-evident assumption in your argument if it’s not evident to the people you’re arguing against.
I'm pro-gun and pro-choice. I believe people should be able to protect themselves, whether with a gun or abortion.
Original post by hotpud
I am saying
a) I don't think a comparison of abortion with homelessness is particularly analogous. You seem to be suggesting that two solutions to homelessness are either to kill homeless people or house them in my house. Seems a bit ridiculous really when the actual solution is to support them and provide them with what they need to live a fulfilling life.


Why is the comparison not analogous?

If my line of questioning suggests that the only two solutions to homelessness are to for you to either support killing them or to personally house them yourself, then your line of questioning, by exactly the same token, suggests that the only two solutions to the issue of unwanted children is for me to either support aborting them or to personally adopt them myself. And it's just as ridiculous, given that the "actual solution" you provided above could just as easily apply to unwanted children as well.

b) Which I suppose comes back to the main point. Either allow women to make their own decisions within a reasonable time scale - 24 weeks seems reasonable to me although I would hypothesise that the majority of women abort much, much earlier than that, or as you seem to suggest, support those women in bringing up their unwanted children.


So now you do accept that the bit in bold is actually an option then? Because earlier you were suggesting that it's either support killing them, or personally adopt them myself - otherwise my "morals are misplaced". Which is it?
Original post by tazarooni89
You’ve yet to explain why that “fix” actually makes any difference though.


Because its rather important detail for the question, that is to make clear this is a case of sentience vs non-sentience.


Original post by tazarooni89

Because undoubtedly, some people do accept your premise that killing the unborn isn’t as bad as killing someone who is born. But that doesn’t make it indisputably true. It can’t be used as a self-evident assumption in your argument if it’s not evident to the people you’re arguing against.


But remember these arent pro-choice people like myself, these are anti-abortion pro-lifers who hold those as exceptions.


It’s essentially a philosophical debate only, with broadly speaking two opposing views, those being Aristotelian and Lockean. Given this the only logical choice is to keep it legal and accessible and let the individual decide based on their own philosophical outlook. The practical implications on a ban however are quite real and quite detrimental which only serves to reinforce the need to let it be an individual’s choice and not something which can be banned outright.
Original post by Djtoodles
Because its rather important detail for the question, that is to make clear this is a case of sentience vs non-sentience.

I'm sure it is an important detail in your opinion, and you clearly believe that being born versus unborn (or sentient versus non-sentient) makes all the difference. But that doesn't mean everybody else has to agree with you. Many people also see no reason why it should make much difference, or any difference at all. And based on that premise, killing the unborn child would just be like any other kind of murder. So far you've said nothing to explain why you must be right and they must be wrong.

But remember these arent pro-choice people like myself, these are anti-abortion pro-lifers who hold those as exceptions.

It doesn't matter whether they're pro-choice or pro-life. Even if some pro-lifers happen accept your premise it doesn't mean that they all have to. So far it's still just an assumption you've made based on your own opinion rather than something that you've actually justified and made indisputable.

It’s essentially a philosophical debate only, with broadly speaking two opposing views, those being Aristotelian and Lockean. Given this the only logical choice is to keep it legal and accessible and let the individual decide based on their own philosophical outlook. The practical implications on a ban however are quite real and quite detrimental which only serves to reinforce the need to let it be an individual’s choice and not something which can be banned outright.


With all due respect that's a very poor argument. One could just as easily call pretty much anything a "philosophical debate", and say that it's up to the individual to decide based on their own philosophical outlook. By that logic pretty much nothing could ever be made illegal. To a person who doesn't accept your premise (and you've still provided no reason why they must), it would be no better than saying "Don't like killing homeless people? Don't do it then! But don't try to stop other people from doing it!"
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