how to make friends during a gap year

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I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
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Do you have any local sports clubs or things you could join? Or you could volunteer somewhere?
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Do you have any local sports clubs or things you could join? Or you could volunteer somewhere?
I could yeah. I'm really not a fan of doing sports with other people so I was thinking of going to the gym instead. But it's a good idea!

I was thinking of volunteering at a theatre about an hour away from me that do Spanish plays.
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
Join clubs
Take up hobbies
Go to social places (local pubs..)
Reach out to people
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
It’s hard, very hard.

I only made friends from work, that’s it

Although I didn’t put myself out there so take that as you will.
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im in the same boat! hopefully i’ll make new friends at work at just gel with ppl i meet out and about and on holiday
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
Hi there.

It can be quite challenging to meet people on a gap year. _Rusty_ it's okay as I'm sure you'll get the chance to meet plenty of people at uni

Volunteering is a great new way to meet others - it's great that you're doing it at a theatre! Perhaps consider other forms of volunteering as there's so much out there i.e. volunteering with children, animals, the elderly etc. You could also consider doing some form of charity work i.e. fundraising or doing a sponsored walk/run.

Hope this helps.
Best wishes.
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Hi there.

It can be quite challenging to meet people on a gap year. _Rusty_ it's okay as I'm sure you'll get the chance to meet plenty of people at uni

Volunteering is a great new way to meet others - it's great that you're doing it at a theatre! Perhaps consider other forms of volunteering as there's so much out there i.e. volunteering with children, animals, the elderly etc. You could also consider doing some form of charity work i.e. fundraising or doing a sponsored walk/run.

Hope this helps.
Best wishes.
Yeah don’t get me wrong I haven’t made any friends because of stress and by proxy exclusion. OP involve yourself in things and you’ll be grand
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
Hi @hyacinth77

Making friends who share common interests is something I highly recommend, so joining clubs for your hobbies would be a really good idea! I see you mentioned volunteering at a theatre who do Spanish plays. I think this is a great idea! Not only for making likeminded friends who enjoy theatre but it’d be a great opportunity to find people to practice your Spanish with!

If you work, arranging to meet up with colleagues outside of the workplace could be a great way to befriend them! If you don’t plan on working during your gap year, there’s still plenty to do. For example, if you live near a university, you could even choose to attend “fresher’s” events to meet new people. Usually, universities will advertise events on their website so with a little bit of scouring, you could pick and choose which you’d like to go to and introduce yourself to some people!

Best of luck for your gap year!

Estelle
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University of Huddersfield
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Hi @hyacinth77

Making friends who share common interests is something I highly recommend, so joining clubs for your hobbies would be a really good idea! I see you mentioned volunteering at a theatre who do Spanish plays. I think this is a great idea! Not only for making likeminded friends who enjoy theatre but it’d be a great opportunity to find people to practice your Spanish with!

If you work, arranging to meet up with colleagues outside of the workplace could be a great way to befriend them! If you don’t plan on working during your gap year, there’s still plenty to do. For example, if you live near a university, you could even choose to attend “fresher’s” events to meet new people. Usually, universities will advertise events on their website so with a little bit of scouring, you could pick and choose which you’d like to go to and introduce yourself to some people!

Best of luck for your gap year!

Estelle
First Year Psychology Student
University of Huddersfield
Thank you so much!
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
Hi there,

I hope you're well

I thought I'd make a post, as my best friend also took a gap year and felt the exact same!

She made a few friends on different apps which she found successful, but I completely understand that this is not for everyone! But, she also got a part time job and made a lot of really good friends through that. She tried to find a job which she knew would have a lot of people working there that are around her age, which I think was really good! She also made a few friends in the gym she went to (I'm not sure if you enjoy the gym!) and they ended up going to sessions together.

I hope that's helpful, best of luck to you

Ana
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Hi,

I'll keep this short and sweet for now. I'll be taking a gap year from September before going to uni to study French and Spanish. I was wondering how I'll be able to make any new friends since I won't be in school for the next year or so. I'm very shy and quite awkward so it was hard enough to make friends but I fear that I'll feel very lonely during my time off. This is something that I've struggled with since childhood but it's been getting worse recently

If anyone had any advice or is in a similar situation to me, please feel free to make a post
Many thanks in advance
Hey there hyacinth77!

It's cool to hear you want to take some time for yourself before stepping into the big world of University, I hope that whatever you may end up doing in your gap that you have a great time!

The good news is that there's lots of ways you can meet people. As some of your replies have already mentioned, joining things like sports clubs/teams and the gym are popular ways of meeting new people, as well as having the benefit of keeping healthy and getting good exercise. But you can also look at picking up new hobbies or interests and then find groups around those. For example, picking up photography is a good way to meet new people, because where it's popular you can always find photography groups on facebook or forums to join and socialise.

There are also a lot of apps you can download and try, although this may not be for everyone. But these are still good ways of meeting people and finding those with similar interests to you. It may feel a bit intimidating at first, but they're really not that bad, and there doesn't have to be that pressure to meet in person, you can always stick to just messaging if that's what you'd prefer.

So yeah, essentially what I recommend is either joining social groups and picking up new hobbies, or starting ones that you've always thought about but never taken the plunge: a gap year is the perfect time to do just that! While you can also consider downloading and trying out some apps as well. These don't necessarily have to be dating ones, but even with those people on there do look just for friends as well.

There's lots of options you can take really! I hope this has helped, if you have any other questions please do let me know

Tom,
University of Chichester Student Rep and Alumni.
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