I don't drink alcohol. I don't have a problem with people drinking, I enjoy going on nights out, I even buy rounds sometimes. It just doesn't appeal to me. Yet some people seem to think this is a problem and take it upon themselves as their mission to "fix" me.
Today my new boss started and the "bigger" boss (who's in charge of him too) took the whole team (about 10 people) out for drinks. When we was getting a round I said I wanted a Coke and from that point on the "bigger" boss hassled me about it all night... despite the fact he's known for two and a half years that I've been tee-total.
At first it was just the odd joke... "go on, have a drink" and so on, but as the night went on he effectively kept hassling me and trying to convince me to do it... as if the fact I've managed to live 25 years without doing it suddenly didn't matter and that he could convince me to change my mind.
Here are some gems that I was treated to throughout the night (in front of my new boss, mind, who was laughing along):
"If I'd have known you didn't drink I wouldn't have hired you"
"Okay, so everyone wants another pint but not [me] because he's a complete homo"
"Why don't you drink? Is it because you're Scottish and it reminds you of when your dad used to beat up your mum?"
"Is your dad tee-total?"
"What, ever since "the incident"?" (there never was an incident)
The problem here is that someone higher up than me is leaving soon and I want to apply for his job, but the "bigger boss" and my new boss will probably be the ones doing the interviews. I don't want to feel that the fact I don't drink will hinder my progress in my career, but I can't help feeling that it will. And if I don't get the promotion then even though I won't be able to prove it, I'll always think that's why.
1) Please don't say "get another job". This is my dream job and the one I went all the way through high school and uni doing.
2) Please don't tell me to just start drinking. This is a personal choice and I get enough friends trying to convince me to do it without (effective) strangers doing it too. Sorry if that sounds a bit dicky, I didn't mean it to.
I suppose I don't really know what my point is... I just felt like telling it to someone because it really annoyed me and ruined my night. I feel like I've made a crap first impression on my new boss simply because I choose not to drink.
But I hate
this unwritten social rule that if you don't drink there's something wrong with you. Who's the one with the real problem: the person who's having a perfectly good night not drinking, or the person who can't accept that?