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    wile i was at aber, i wasnt enjoying it, drug-dealing and binge drinking arent really my thing. the people may not like to drink, or are having trouble adapting to uni life.. they may never have experience independance, and are finding it hard.

    ive been pretty independant for 2 years, but being thrown into uni environment really knocked me off my feet, i never went out, never left my room, until i felt comfortable to do so... then that was to say i was off.. see y'all laters...
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    (Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel)
    Some people don't go to university for the experience, they go there to learn. Maybe your constant bickering prevents them from scribing important notes. Just mind your own business in future.
    At no point did i say i was starting a riot in a class or distracting people. And i also said during the break. Fair enough, we are all there to learn. I got mates doing medicine and dentistry and they got a hard course and a lot to learn, but still massive drinking nights out, pub crawls, day trips etc are organized for them so they get to know people in their course.

    So you're saying its okay just to sit in your house or not do anything when everyone else in your course is out getting to know each other? It can't be all work and no play
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    (Original post by Fizz*****)
    How is trying to start a friendly conversation with someone/trying to involve them in a conversation taking the piss out of them?
    i didnt mean it to look like i was saying that, my apologies, but if you keep on doing it, they may get uncomfortable
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    There's a girl like that in some of my lectures. I usually try to make an effort with quieter people unless it's very obvious that they're not interested in talking. Some of my closest friends were really shy when I met them though and now they're chatterboxes So give it a chance I guess.
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    (Original post by Gary10k)
    At no point did i say i was starting a riot in a class or distracting people. And i also said during the break. Fair enough, we are all there to learn. I got mates doing medicine and dentistry and they got a hard course and a lot to learn, but still massive drinking nights out, pub crawls, day trips etc are organized for them so they get to know people in their course.

    So you're saying its okay just to sit in your house or not do anything when everyone else in your course is out getting to know each other? It can't be all work and no play
    Do you even realise that they might find socialising really difficult?
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    Leave em' to it. Ain't doin you no harm, dude.
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    (Original post by ViolatedTreason)
    i didnt mean it to look like i was saying that, my apologies, but if you keep on doing it, they may get uncomfortable
    As i said above, not as if I am (or anyone else) is in their face all day trying to get them to talk. But I don't see the harm in trying to strike up a conversation with someone you're sitting beside when there is a break or between lecturers.

    (Original post by pamelaa)
    Leave em' to it. Ain't doin you no harm, dude.
    Likewise, there is no point in being persistant with someone who doesn't want to get to know people. That's their choice. But is that how you should live your whole university life?

    Also, say you were standing on your own. You may be a sociable, likable person, and Im sure you are. It would be a bit ****** if a group of people just assumed you were shy and thought to just "leave you too it"
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    (Original post by Gary10k)
    As i said above, not as if I am (or anyone else) is in their face all day trying to get them to talk. But I don't see the harm in trying to strike up a conversation with someone you're sitting beside when there is a break or between lecturers
    im the quiet type, and more likely to be the person that isnt tlking. it just pisses me off when people are trying to strike up convo with me.. its just the way i am, theres no changing it im afraid.
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    'open-mindedness', yet another causalty in the collapse of great western civilisation.

    Have you never heard of Aspergers Syndrome, not all individuals are socialites.
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    Embarass them into talking. Or, if they annoy you say things like 'your shoelaces are undone' or 'your flies are undone' then point and lol at them.
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    (Original post by maxi321)
    'open-mindedness', yet another causalty in the collapse of great western civilisation.

    Have you never heard of Aspergers Syndrome, not all individuals are socialites.
    I understand asperger's syndrome very well. And yes it is possible that people in courses suffer from it. But you can often tell if someone suffers from it and secondly it can't be the reason for everyone to be anti-social.

    Also whats wrong with being open minded? I have seldom thought that being friendly was a negative thing.

    (Original post by Ghost Grey)
    Embarass them into talking. Or, if they annoy you say things like 'your shoelaces are undone' or 'your flies are undone' then point and lol at them.
    You're a hero mate
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    (Original post by Gary10k)

    So you're saying its okay just to sit in your house or not do anything when everyone else in your course is out getting to know each other? It can't be all work and no play
    Of course it's OK. People can do what they want.

    Some people may have Asperger Syndrome. Often, attempts to socialise result in humiliation due to the social awkwardness (a symptom of AS), thus confidence is eradicated to the point of complete apathy.
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    (Original post by maxi321)
    Have you never heard of Aspergers Syndrome, not all individuals are socialites.
    This.

    It's way more common than you think.
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    (Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel)
    Of course it's OK. People can do what they want.

    Some people may have Asperger Syndrome. Often, attempts to socialise result in humiliation due to the social awkwardness (a symptom of AS), thus confidence is eradicated to the point of complete apathy.
    wierdly enough that describes me perfectly, and i know my bro has aspergers..

    you're putting ideas in my head now.. stoppit!! lol
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    Yes, I know about Aspergers Syndrome. It is a fairly common condition which affects peoples social interactions. and yes there may be a small chance that some one who anyone of us has tried to interact with has this condition. And it is not the persons fault.
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    I'm not at uni, and also that side that's been mentioned of being antisocial - "untalkative" - is not really affecting me too much.

    However, other things I consider antisocial, that irritate me quite a lot in the sixth form common room, on a day to day basis:
    - There is this boy who just sits there, silently, when you are having a (private) conversation with someone, and sponges everything up. Even if you write it down, he peers over your shoulder.
    - Certain people put music on the stereo very loudly, so much so, that it's impossible to even listen to your own iPod. It's like... thanks for asking if everyone liked it!

    And I don't think there are any disorders or syndromes which can justify either of those.
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    (Original post by VanillaCat)
    I'm not at uni, and also that side that's been mentioned of being antisocial - "untalkative" - is not really affecting me too much.

    However, other things I consider antisocial, that irritate me quite a lot in the sixth form common room, on a day to day basis:
    - There is this boy who just sits there, silently, when you are having a (private) conversation with someone, and sponges everything up. Even if you write it down, he peers over your shoulder.
    - Certain people put music on the stereo very loudly, so much so, that it's impossible to even listen to your own iPod. It's like... thanks for asking if everyone liked it!

    And I don't think there are any disorders or syndromes which can justify either of those.
    for the first one.. i believe the syndrome is : chronic wierdness

    and for the second its: "aren't-i-cool"

    everybody knows one of them, and we all dislike them...
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    (Original post by VanillaCat)
    I'm not at uni, and also that side that's been mentioned of being antisocial - "untalkative" - is not really affecting me too much.

    However, other things I consider antisocial, that irritate me quite a lot in the sixth form common room, on a day to day basis:
    - There is this boy who just sits there, silently, when you are having a (private) conversation with someone, and sponges everything up. Even if you write it down, he peers over your shoulder.
    - Certain people put music on the stereo very loudly, so much so, that it's impossible to even listen to your own iPod. It's like... thanks for asking if everyone liked it!

    And I don't think there are any disorders or syndromes which can justify either of those.
    1) Talk outside of the common room.
    2) That's just rudeness -- tell them about it!
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    Now we're mixing the two different types of anti-social up. lol
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    What you've described isn't 'antisocial'. That means something else.
 
 
 
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