Nothing I try works. With my ex, we'd always try new things, but with my boyfriend he's just so insecure (his ex was nightmare, screwed the poor guy up) and worries he'll do something wrong.
And no, he doesn't (as far as I know). He just blames it on a really low sex drive. it makes me so, so unattractive, but lots of other guys pay me attention and I turn them down because I love him. i have such a high sex drive, it's horrible to put up with.
The awful thing is, part of me just wants to sleep with my ex, and stay with my boyfriend. I would NEVER do that, it just makes me feel so guilty that I even think about it.