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    me&him have been together for about 3months now &he's a virgin &i'm not. its difficult, because everytime we make out &other things happen, i get really into it &then don't know if i should ask him if he wants to or not? we've tried to twice &both times he's lost his erection because he doesn't think he can compete with my ex boyfriend who i lost my virginity to. please help me? anybody know any ways i can settle him or if its just best if i dont? im getting really sexually frustrated
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    maybe actually make the move yourself
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    It sounds like he's just nervous. I would suggest not making a big deal out of penetrative sex at the moment, just enjoy other things he's done before/is comfortable with and it'll build his confidence. Pressuring him is obviously not going to help.
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    argh must be so frustrating!
    i think maybe you're putting too much pressure on him, unintentionally?
    try to be cool about it, and then just see when the time is right
    i could never go out with a virgin o_0
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    Just talk to him about it. But if he's not ready to then don't push him.
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    i did but then he went soft
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    Just keep trying, don't ask him if he's ready or anything - if he's not he'll say.
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    You should have sex when you're both ready. No partner should rush the other into something they aren't ready for.

    If it was the other way round and someone said "my girlfriend won't have sex, she's a virgin but I'm not and I want sex" everyone would be shocked. Don't bully him into it, he'll be ready when he's ready.

    If he is insecure about your ex then it seems you need to be together a bit longer and build up some trust.
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    (Original post by SiaSiaSia)
    i could never go out with a virgin o_0
    How come?
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    (Original post by SiaSiaSia)
    argh must be so frustrating!
    i think maybe you're putting too much pressure on him, unintentionally?
    try to be cool about it, and then just see when the time is right
    i could never go out with a virgin o_0
    i know its difficult, surely if hes nervous he wont compare to my ex then does that mean he isnt ready?
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    If the problem is that he doesnt think he can compete try reminding him that it's HIM you're interested in - not your ex, why else would you be there...as said above, pressuring him wouldnt help matters, but it does just sound like he's insecure and needs a little reassurance...xx
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    gonna have a chat with him about it when i see him on wednesday i think, gonna make sure i dont come across as pushy or forceful, just would like to know how he feels
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    I've honestly never, ever understood blokes who refuse sex. I just can't even begin to comprehend that... unless the girl was really ugly, but then he wouldn't be going out with you if you were...
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    (Original post by Dionysus)
    I've honestly never, ever understood blokes who refuse sex. I just can't even begin to comprehend that... unless the girl was really ugly, but then he wouldn't be going out with you if you were...
    I think the OP meant his... body... was "refusing" sex, not him.

    Edit: That sentence shows I shouldn't be awake at 1am, haha.
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    He's clearly gay.

    He'll come out of the closet when he's ready; until then, roll onto your front.


    :rolleyes:
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    Good things come to those who wait...
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    yeah but if u wanted to wait then wouldn't u expect him to let u? it has to work both ways
    EDIT: however i am tempted to rep u after ur 1treehill reference!
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    (Original post by Sparxy)
    How come?
    It'd be too much responsibility, I think.
    Like, I'd feel really guilty if I slept with them and they weren't ready or something.
    But you never know...
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    (Original post by an-unkindness-of-ravens)
    i know its difficult, surely if hes nervous he wont compare to my ex then does that mean he isnt ready?
    I think so.
    You have to try and make this about him and not the fact you've had sex already, as that will make him MORE nervous
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    Get him drunk, then try.
 
 
 
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