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    Ok so there is this guy who I noticed at one of our first socials, we spoke briefly. I have a bit of a crush on him. I happened to see him briefly today and know he noticed me. I am tempted to write him an email saying "Hey werent you the guy who spilt your beer all over me at the union? I am pretty sure it was you in rowing today." And see how he responds. It is just an attempt for me to break the ice. However he is now listed as in a relationship as of today so nothing can ever happen anyway but still it would be cool to have him as friend especially since we are in pretty much the same societies.
    It might seem strange but I feel more comfortable approaching him now I know he is in a relationship

    I just feel a bit sad writing him that message

    I would like an honest opinion from the guys
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    Why don't you try speaking to him again in person and then add him on facebook/message him? It will look less stalkerish maybe.. and if you already have him added, then just ask something related to one of the societies or discuss something you have in common. I don't really think it's a good idea to write to him about the spilt beer though . Also, wall messages seem less personal than private ones, if you want to appear more casual (that's just my opinion though!).
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    I would leave writing anything on his wall just now, why not try and become friendly with him in the real world? that way you'll actually have a connection rather than being some random person who wrote on his wall who he doesn't really know.
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    (Original post by Favole)
    Why don't you try speaking to him again in person and then add him on facebook/message him? It will look less stalkerish maybe.. and if you already have him added, then just ask something related to one of the societies or discuss something you have in common. I don't really think it's a good idea to write to him about the spilt beer though . Also, wall messages seem less personal than private ones, if you want to appear more casual (that's just my opinion though!).
    TBH it is going to be a whole week till I see him again

    I am just slightly peeved that he got a girlfriend is all as I thought he was a cutie
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    (Original post by Sovay)
    I would leave writing anything on his wall just now, why not try and become friendly with him in the real world? that way you'll actually have a connection rather than being some random person who wrote on his wall who he doesn't really know.
    Aargh it is so hard bumping into him in the real world

    Do you think it is even worth becoming friends with him if he has a girlfriend? :confused:
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    (Original post by crumblencustard)
    TBH it is going to be a whole week till I see him again

    I am just slightly peeved that he got a girlfriend is all as I thought he was a cutie
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    Why can't you wait that long? and considering he's got a gf it probably won't happen still being flirty with him when you don't know him very well he might thinks it's a bit stalkerish..



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    (Original post by crumblencustard)
    Aargh it is so hard bumping into him in the real world

    Do you think it is even worth becoming friends with him if he has a girlfriend? :confused:

    well if your both friendly towards each why can't you be friends? Why not forget about him in 'that' way considering you don't get to see much of each other it probably wouldn't have worked anyway.

    plus.. i'm sure there's loads of other single good looking lads around

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    (Original post by crumblencustard)
    TBH it is going to be a whole week till I see him again

    I am just slightly peeved that he got a girlfriend is all as I thought he was a cutie
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    I'm in a similar situation right now, but I know the guy a bit more. Still, him finding a girl out of the blue was kind of a surprise. Anyway, try and wait till next week and then talk to him. If nothing else at least you can have a new friend and that's always good; plus, just think that you don't really know him well enough to have proper feelings for him so it's not the end of the world that he's taken. There will be more cute guys around!
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    yeah sounds fine to me, talking online makes it easier to talk irl usually. i dont think he'll find it weird or stalkerish, as far as he knows you just randomly found him on facebook and felt like saying hello. which is pretty true.
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    unless i'm wrong, its all girls responding
 
 
 
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