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my sister is harming herself!
my sister is cutting herself, last night she went into the bathroom with a scissors and today she goes that she cut her arm at the school doors. I didn't want to see it because I don't like seeing blood and she also said its a deep cut. So I told my parents to see it they saw it and see that its some guy's name that she went out with and the name has been crossed out. But she wouldnt admit to anything when my parents asked her questions, she just kept saying it happened at the school doors and that she didn't do it.
There's also been another incident where my mum found blood on some tissue so asked her what happened she said she banged her nose and it started bleeding.
Im really scared that she might do something very terrible? I don't know wat to do?
Please help
There's also been another incident where my mum found blood on some tissue so asked her what happened she said she banged her nose and it started bleeding.
Im really scared that she might do something very terrible? I don't know wat to do?
Please help
Reply 1
Hmm , does'nt sound to good.
First of all , we need to know some more information.
Recent relationships ?
how often is she cutting herself ?
Does you think she likes herlself ?
Any deaths within your family lately that could cause her to do these things ?
She could be depressed , i'm not sure though.
What did you're parents say when you told them about whats been happening ?.
First of all , we need to know some more information.
Recent relationships ?
how often is she cutting herself ?
Does you think she likes herlself ?
Any deaths within your family lately that could cause her to do these things ?
She could be depressed , i'm not sure though.
What did you're parents say when you told them about whats been happening ?.
Reply 2
Have a google for the National Self Harm Network forum. They're much better at giving advice as most have been either family members of self harmers or self harmers themselves. There'll be a few idiots on here that won't be all that helpful.
Your sister is obviously going through something and it's a good thing that she told you. There's lots of help available for people in her (and your!) situation.
Your sister is obviously going through something and it's a good thing that she told you. There's lots of help available for people in her (and your!) situation.
Reply 3
I've had friends who have self harmed, honestly, they where proper attention seeking. But, I don't think this may be the case for your sister as people I know who've done it have gone round parading the fact. I think the best bet is to talk to her about it and see if there's anything happened lately that could make her feel this way/want her to do this, she might be relieved there's someone wanting to help 
Good luck OP.
Good luck OP.Reply 4
Please make sure that both yourself, and your parents (if they are aware) stay calm. I know it's hard, but from personal experience I can say that if you all get worked up, it will only make matters ten times worse. If she knows you guys are stressed and upset because of her, she'll feel guilty and yet more negative feelings really aren't what she needs right now.
What you might want to do is try and discuss alternatives to self harming with her, or if you're too worried to do it, leave a print out in her room (there's a good guide on TSR, in fact). Talking to someone when she feels the need to self harm is possibly the best way of dealing with it- but taking a walk, distracting herself with something active or writing it down are all also helpful ways to prevent self harming again. It's not easy, but your sister might find that the less she does it, the easier it is to do it less, if you understand what I mean.
All in all, the best thing you can do is be there for her. Perhaps suggest going to see a counsellor or your GP, who will refer you to one- but if she doesn't want to go, don't push it. You seem like a caring and supportive sibling, so hopefully with her family's help, your sister will be able to get over this.
What you might want to do is try and discuss alternatives to self harming with her, or if you're too worried to do it, leave a print out in her room (there's a good guide on TSR, in fact). Talking to someone when she feels the need to self harm is possibly the best way of dealing with it- but taking a walk, distracting herself with something active or writing it down are all also helpful ways to prevent self harming again. It's not easy, but your sister might find that the less she does it, the easier it is to do it less, if you understand what I mean.
All in all, the best thing you can do is be there for her. Perhaps suggest going to see a counsellor or your GP, who will refer you to one- but if she doesn't want to go, don't push it. You seem like a caring and supportive sibling, so hopefully with her family's help, your sister will be able to get over this.
Reply 5
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Reply 6
Must be hard for you to see your sister doing this to herself but if she doesn't want to open up to you about it then wait for her to come around. Try not to panic, even if she is self harming, it doesn't instantly mean that she's going to do anything terrible. If she seems really depressed or you have reason to believe she may try something worse than these cuts then you should tell your parents how concerned you are and you can get her help. However, if you don't think she'll try anything else then it's probably best you don't send her straight off to the hospital or doctors. Of course you should be concerned and should try and get her to open up - reassure her that you are there for her no matter what. You could tell her that whatever she tells you stays between the two of you - she might feel a bit awkward discussing it with your parents.
Try not to judge her, people who self harm rarely do it for attention - and if they do then there must be a problem making them feel that way anyway. She obviously doesn'y want to make a big thing out of it by denying she cut herself. Self Harm is often a way of coping and being able to carry on with life normally rather than an attempt to commit suicide, at first anyway, so don't shout or get angry with her this will just make her feel worse when she probably needs comforting.
Search for self harm in google I think there's a good recoveryourlife site she could try.
Good Luck hope everything works out okay for you both
Try not to judge her, people who self harm rarely do it for attention - and if they do then there must be a problem making them feel that way anyway. She obviously doesn'y want to make a big thing out of it by denying she cut herself. Self Harm is often a way of coping and being able to carry on with life normally rather than an attempt to commit suicide, at first anyway, so don't shout or get angry with her this will just make her feel worse when she probably needs comforting.
Search for self harm in google I think there's a good recoveryourlife site she could try.
Good Luck hope everything works out okay for you both
Reply 7
Pls don't send her to recoveryourlife. They don't deal with people who carve names into their arms. It's more for long-term self harm that deal with all areas of self harm (cut burning bruising etc.) but some people ont here do not deal well with what is usually attention seeking behavious (even if this is not the case)
I suggest some professional help, not a site that the vast majority self harm anyway and so she may become more inclined to do so.
I suggest some professional help, not a site that the vast majority self harm anyway and so she may become more inclined to do so.
Reply 8
Anonymous
Im really scared that she might do something very terrible?
'very terrible' ? lol, she's just cutting, anyway sounds like a bit of an attention thing from what you have described.
Reply 9
1
Cry your feelings out to her..how upset and worried you feel of her self-harming. Show what brotherly love you got to offer. I don't know all the whole story.. but she defintely needs someone to share her story to but also someone to trust and understand how she feels.
As for you don't like the sight of blood..all i can say..is..i don't like a sight of a sibling not responding. I take self harm issue seriously because let says some events in my past. Talk and LISTEN is important. Thats the best advice i can give. Basic..yet effective. Bare that in mind.
As for you don't like the sight of blood..all i can say..is..i don't like a sight of a sibling not responding. I take self harm issue seriously because let says some events in my past. Talk and LISTEN is important. Thats the best advice i can give. Basic..yet effective. Bare that in mind.
Reply 10
10
First and foremost I would like to say, welcome to /b/
Secondly, she's defenetly an emo character from a manga and/or anime seeking attention. That being said, try to get to her real problems. She obviously needs some one to talk to and listen to her. Ask her whats wrong and try to be supportive, It might be hard at first but you probably can do it. Also the last person she might want to talk to would be her parents so...I suggest you try to get to the bottom of "what's wrong".
Secondly, she's defenetly an emo character from a manga and/or anime seeking attention. That being said, try to get to her real problems. She obviously needs some one to talk to and listen to her. Ask her whats wrong and try to be supportive, It might be hard at first but you probably can do it. Also the last person she might want to talk to would be her parents so...I suggest you try to get to the bottom of "what's wrong".
Reply 11
Hmm.. yeah now I come to think of it recoveryourlife is a bit dodgy like that. It's more for sharing experiences and ways of overcoming self harm, can be triggering so might not be that much of a help.
So is she cutting words like of an ex or something? And she's doing it because she's sad over the break up, but she might actually be self harming as in feeling the need to do it rather than just thinking about her ex... (don't know if it is of a boyfriend or not..) sorry I wasn't very good at explaining what I was trying to say there.
She might just need you there to comfort her at the moment if she's only just started cutting. If she opens up to you be supportive and help her overcome her problems. Hopefully then she will talk to you about her troubles in the future rather than cutting.
So is she cutting words like of an ex or something? And she's doing it because she's sad over the break up, but she might actually be self harming as in feeling the need to do it rather than just thinking about her ex... (don't know if it is of a boyfriend or not..) sorry I wasn't very good at explaining what I was trying to say there.
She might just need you there to comfort her at the moment if she's only just started cutting. If she opens up to you be supportive and help her overcome her problems. Hopefully then she will talk to you about her troubles in the future rather than cutting.
Reply 12
Zamolxes
First and foremost I would like to say, welcome to /b/
Secondly, she's defenetly an emo character from a manga and/or anime seeking attention. That being said, try to get to her real problems. She obviously needs some one to talk to and listen to her. Ask her whats wrong and try to be supportive, It might be hard at first but you probably can do it. Also the last person she might want to talk to would be her parents so...I suggest you try to get to the bottom of "what's wrong".
Secondly, she's defenetly an emo character from a manga and/or anime seeking attention. That being said, try to get to her real problems. She obviously needs some one to talk to and listen to her. Ask her whats wrong and try to be supportive, It might be hard at first but you probably can do it. Also the last person she might want to talk to would be her parents so...I suggest you try to get to the bottom of "what's wrong".
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