Well I bet you get this alot on here, but hey, some bad experiences have left me to the point where I'm almost scared of being in a friendship scenario with people, so when I came back to college in new groups for lectures, I was the quiet kid in the corner, now thanks to a wonderfull person, who took the time to speak with me, I'm now quite well known in my maths group and I talk to practically everyone in the group, save for the people who seemed to judge me on day 1 and don't want anything to do with my, but hey I don't want anything to do with them in that case.
Now my problem is I have troubles getting a classroom freindship to develop into an actual friendship outside of the class, unless I'm walking with them from a class, let alone outside of college, one of the major reasons behind this is I tend to over analyse everything I say, meaning alot of things I should be saying I find meanings that people would never dream of, buried deep down. Another problem is whenever I think of something to say I get awkward, seize up and just let it slide.
Now I've had offers, I've had one person who's invited me to join in with there group should I ever want to, now I'd really like to, but I'd feel awkward just walking up to a table where I know one person and I don't know why, I shouldn't do but I do.
So any pointers on how to overcome these problems, and how to develop a friendship?
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- Thread Starter
- 11-11-2008 17:49
- 11-11-2008 17:56
I know how you feel, I was (and kind of still am) like you! I basically 'chat' friendly, and try to have a natural sense of humor to through in whenever appropriate. Let it develop slowly - be confident and START the conversation; if you do, others will approach you and want your friendship too.
If you feel like you do not want to adhere to one friend/group, then try and make as many 'friends' as possible, by being friendly and a 'nice', loyal, authoritative person. Use your knowledge to gain authority and your shine your skills so that others can benefit from them, and you can benefit from others' skills and their companionship.
I hope this helps!
- 11-11-2008 18:00
Do something that scares you everyday. Eventually build up until you have overcome your fears and this seems less scary
- Thread Starter
- 11-11-2008 20:58
Thanks, for the advice, just any tips on how to not feel awkward on taking someone up on there offer, sounds so stupid when I post it, but as I said after some bad experiences I'm scared of friendship to an extent, and I hate being scared of something like that.