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    (Original post by shamrock92)
    Aren't we all?
    Yes. I was a bit 'miffed' as to why you said it would be purer if he stopped watching porn on the basis that, if the reason was from a Christian perspective, that sex outside marriage was not taken into account as this is also part of the fundamental principles from which your comment is also from. If he's not a Christian or do not share your views, then your comment goes out of the window (not saying it's worthless etc or anything). Think you know what I mean.
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    Yes. I was a bit 'miffed' as to why you said it would be purer if he stopped watching porn on the basis that, if the reason was from a Christian perspective, that sex outside marriage was not taken into account as this is also part of the fundamental principles from which your comment is also from. If he's not a Christian or do not share your views, then your comment goes out of the window (not saying it's worthless etc or anything). Think you know what I mean.
    Yes, you're right. That said, it's still relevant from a non-Christian perspective; it makes their relationship a bit more spesh if they're totally about each other and not tossing off to some other bird simultaneously.
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    Man im sorry but your gf sounds soo anoying. it only porn. man how insecure is she. why dont you watch porn together? doesnt she masturbate etc?
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    So long as you are getting regular sex, I don't see why it is that much of a big deal. By not *******, sex will be better, and your girlfriend gets to make up for the downtime. I'm single now, so masturbate like it's going out of fashion, but rarely do when I'm seeing someone. But I suppose if you girlfriend isn't nearly as hot as my last, or nearly as good in bed, I could understand where you are coming from.

    Though if you must, just tell her that you do it whilst thinking of her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How do i convince her i am not 'lusting' after these other women and that she shouldnt feel insecure?
    Explain to her that it's not like you're going to leave her for Briana Banks (or whoever tickles your pickle). Say to her "surely you know me well enough that I know the difference between you and a soulless pornstar".

    Explain that you would never stick your pole in any of them, or cuddle them, or hell even talk to them IRL, even though you fantasise about them during special alone time.


    The point here is, you have to make her understand that they mean nothing to you compared to her, and never would, even if they lived next door.

    Or you could tell her that you sometimes think of her when you do it - that'll be an ego-booster she'll feel sexy, like a ******** porn star, except with the love you give her

    Then everybody's happy
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    I don't understand the attitude that it's some god given right to watch porn and masturbate. Nor do I understand the comments that say that being a man is enough of a reason to watch porn/masturbate. Have some free will for crying out loud.

    Personally I wouldn't be happy if my boyfriend felt the need to watch porn.
    Masturbating I could deal with if there was a valid reason only if I wasn't there to do the pleasuring myself.
    And I don't believe that makes me a *****.
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    Alright, as a chick I will say that I probably watch as much porn as the next guy, so lets avoid the cliche of 'omg, wai grrlz hatez teh pr0n?' Some guys are just as disgusted by the notion of a girl pokin' the lovebox while watching porn as some girls are (especially if we bring in those guys who hold true to the 'virgin-whore' dichotomy).

    As for this girl, she sounds insecure, especially if you are her first. I highly agree with the idea that you should tell her that when you do ****, it is her that you're thinking of, not the women in the video. Hell, make it a bit of a dirty talk. I know nothing turns me on more than my guy having dirty thoughts about me (in fact, I demand to know the full details.)

    Or, if you want something comparable, tell her it's no different than reading a trashy romance movie or enjoying a romantic comedy or whatever chick-flick-***** some girls enjoy these days. Does she want to **** George Clooney or does she simply like the premise and imagines you to be the romantic love interest? Does she want a brooding noble-man to rip her bodice or does she want you to do it? Etc.
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    It sounds like she's pretty damn insecure/immature, tbh.
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    Return to sender imo.
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    I can sort of understand about the porn, but asking you not to masturbate is unreasonable.
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    How daft.
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    its when your girlfriend starts watching porn thats when the problems start
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    Say it's a medical condition.
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    Reality check. She can say or do whatever you want, and you can promise yourself what ever you want. The fact of the matter is you won't stop, because you can't.
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    sorry but its none of her business, its normal for blokes
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    ugh, there's no phrase that makes you cringe at the inherent insecurity and patheticness contained therein than 'am I not enough? '

    no one person is ever 'enough', in terms of fantasising, for anyone! people lust after other people and indeed masturbate over them, no matter how happy they are in their current relationship. That's just how it is. People do NOT just project their all their sexual feelings onto one person, no matter how much they like or indeed love them.

    OP, personally I couldn't cope with that level of immaturity and annoyingness but it's up to you....
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    How about you make your own porn movies with her!
    So when you want to masturbate you can watch them because the woman you are lusting over is her
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    (Original post by Erik.)
    ugh, there's no phrase that makes you cringe at the inherent insecurity and patheticness contained therein than 'am I not enough? '

    no one person is ever 'enough', in terms of fantasising, for anyone! people lust after other people and indeed masturbate over them, no matter how happy they are in their current relationship. That's just how it is. People do NOT just project their all their sexual feelings onto one person, no matter how much they like or indeed love them.

    OP, personally I couldn't cope with that level of immaturity and annoyingness but it's up to you....
    You must have missed the part where he says he isn't coming when he has sex with his girlfriend because he's knocked one off earlier.

    How is that supposed to make her feel? Of course she is going to say 'am I not enough?' It's blatantly obvious that he is making her feel needy because of his behaviour and it's affecting their relationship.

    Personally, I would tell him to get lost.
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    OP, after reading the first post I was almost sure that she has never been in a relationship before thus does not know how to behave in one. Sadly this was confirmed a few pages later. What you have to do is sit down with her, explain to her that you do NOT live in a police state and she is NOT the dictator of said state. She needs to understand that being in a relationship does not grant her ownership of your body as such she cannot control every menial task you choose to undertake in your free and unused time. The one aspect I must stress here is that she will undoubtebly NOT understand as such it is up to you to point out her lack of experience concerning relationships thus making her opinions invalid. Even so more often than not she will not see the light. In these dire but common situations...you should probably just dump the b!tch.

    Sorry mate I've dealt with this before and...not only does she rank way up on the crazy scale because she is obsessive, manipulative and controling but because it's her first relationship she will not understand that she is the problem untill she gets dumbed two or three times.

    Now to the girls who said such enlighting things as " she sounds controling" and " i watch porn too..with my boyfriend" all I can say is.. mazel tov. It brings my heart joy to see that from the darkness truth and beauty can still emerge sadly not all of the...incorrectly called "female species" are so enlightened on such subjects yet still knowing that there are some who have come to see the light brings me more hope than I could ask.

    Now...last and fortunately least - jinglepupskye - After reading your post...all I can say is : Get the Fornication Under the Conscent of the King out of here.

    P.S - Everyone should read the post of ... said 'r'tard. The last words of the fiend who dared write such prepostery are "It's called a relationship. Look it up." I suggest you follow your own advice and stop spewing stupidity any chance you get.
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    (Original post by jinglepupskye)
    You must have missed the part where he says he isn't coming when he has sex with his girlfriend because he's knocked one off earlier.

    How is that supposed to make her feel? Of course she is going to say 'am I not enough?' It's blatantly obvious that he is making her feel needy because of his behaviour and it's affecting their relationship.

    Personally, I would tell him to get lost.
    oh.

    well, yeah, I suppose that's not really cricket..
 
 
 
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