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Is proposing after a year too quick?

We’ve been together for a year. We’ve discussed marriage in general and other people’s engagements before etc. Is it too quick?
(Obviously every situation is super different but)

You asking that question might be a sign that it is a little too soon?

What’s the rush? Few more months probably wouldn’t hurt.
Original post by Anonymous
We’ve been together for a year. We’ve discussed marriage in general and other people’s engagements before etc. Is it too quick?


Yes it's too early
Have you had sex with each other lots and lots of times?
Have you lived with each other for over 3 months?
Have you met his parents and brothers and sisters and observed how he interacted with them? And if he were to start interacting with you in the same way, would you be happy?

Are the 2 of you sexually compatible?
Compatible with money - domestic finances? Earning it, spending it, investing it?
Compatible in how you resolve conflict?
Want the same number of children - +/-20%?
Expect to have the same basic approach to raising children?

Do you love each other and respect each other?

Have you both had at least 2 previous sexual partners?

If the answer to all these questions is a yes, then what are you waiting for? Go ahead and get married. It would have been fine if you'd tied the knot already.
No- not necessarily. :smile:

If your gut instinct tells you that now is the right time after a year & you know that you are happy together, mutually attracted, sexually compatible, have similar standards of living & values and mutual ambitions- go for it!
But remember you may be engaged for a few years while you are both saving up to afford a home or wedding.
Good luck!
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Have you had sex with each other lots and lots of times?
Have you lived with each other for over 3 months?
Have you met his parents and brothers and sisters and observed how he interacted with them? And if he were to start interacting with you in the same way, would you be happy?

Are the 2 of you sexually compatible?
Compatible with money - domestic finances? Earning it, spending it, investing it?
Compatible in how you resolve conflict?
Want the same number of children - +/-20%?
Expect to have the same basic approach to raising children?

Do you love each other and respect each other?

Have you both had at least 2 previous sexual partners?

If the answer to all these questions is a yes, then what are you waiting for? Go ahead and get married. It would have been fine if you'd tied the knot already.

PRSOM
No if you sign a prenup.
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Have you both had at least 2 previous sexual partners?


Why is that important?
Original post by hungrysalamander
Why is that important?

This is random
Original post by hungrysalamander
Why is that important?

Enough consensual sexual history and relationship experience to be able to assess sexual compatibility.
Plus know if any of the issues or red flags of past relationships are present.

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