Argh

Im quite down at the moment and i guess this is more of a rant.

its kinda sad really theres this girl who i havent spoken to for 6 months really, we used to talk pretty much everyday and while she only wanted to be friends i did love her and i think she was basically like my soul mate. I have never met anyone before or since that I ever had such a connection with even past girlfriends. To be so happy talking to her and any sadness would be just gone.

Anyway she got a boyfriend and he got jealous of how much we talked to each other which is fair enough i guess and she broke off contact. I got the odd email after a month and then like 4 months later, just saying how she missed talking to me and how sorry she was for what she had done as i was her best friend etc

Besides missing her so much, i was fine just being her friend I never really pushed my own agenda onto her at all I was just always there for her to talk to etc, Im also really annoyed with what a nice guy I am. I wanted so much to tell her to **** off in one of her emails saying have a good life etc im so sorry. I was so angry and I wanted to shout at her and tell her how much she hurt me and how she was a bitch. But I couldn't and I dont really think she was a bitch I understand what she did and I couldnt bring myself to say anything to make her upset it would just kill me inside knowing I upset her so much and without being big headed I think it would of If i had said what i wanted to I think it would of had an impact to upset her for a bit at least. Instead I just said ill always be here for you etc dont be sorry theres nothing to be sorry for.

Anyway shes probably enjoying her life not giving a damn about it but it still cuts me up inside and today I was looking at my old phone texts etc and it pretty much made me cry and so depressed.

What can i do? thanks for reading if you did. sorry

Reply 1

Juggy123

lol same situation well one of my situations, make a back up plan find a new girl and take things from there shall realize that you was better one day and youll get sex HAPPY DAYS AYE AYE

Reply 2

Sakura-Chan

20

same :| my best friend got a new girlfriend a few months ago and she put her foot down and told him not to see me as much cause she was convinced there was something going on (there wasnt)
i love him to bits and i miss him loads, but theres no way of getting round the fact that he's taken and he doesnt want me.

at the end of the day, she doesnt want you and if she was really a friend she wouldnt treat you like she has or cut you out of her life. you just need to move on :/

Reply 3

dchatterjee1

Its best to move on :smile:

U never know in the future you probs could get even closer and be with her :P

Reply 4

charlie23

Eh, i dunno, i would be inclined to try and get things back to normal.

Talk to her about what happened, maybe you can be good pals again, but just not spend as much time as you used so her bf doesnt get jealous.

if she's a great friend, why lose her?

Reply 5

mundaneblur

OP

its not about sex or being with her at all but thanks for the advice.

i guess i want to know should i tell her how pissed off she made me or should i just never speak to her again and do the right thing

Reply 6

shorty.loves.angels

16

OP, what would you expect her to do? Please don't take this as me having a moan at you I'm just saying how I see it. It sounds like she really did love you as a friend and that's great. But I doubt that many people would be happy for their partner to have a friend of the opposite sex that's so close. So she either can't have her best friend or can't ever have a realtionship. I'm sure she's just as hurt as you and at least she has made an effort to talk to you :smile:

I think the best thing you can do is to move on and find someone you want to be with. When you do then maybe her boyfriend will let the four of you meet up... I don't know if you could do this but I think this will be the only way you could still be her friend without her boyfriend getting pissed off.

Please don't tell her how much she hurt you, I'm sure she's hurting just as much and wishes it didn't have to be like that.

Hope everything works out for you either way :smile:

x

Argh

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