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    okay, i really don't want to go into detail about this on here but basically, i had a meeting yesterday with a social worker about my mother and abuse, and it was pretty horrible. i only told my two "best friends" about this, i was absolutely terrified and they seemed really supportive at the time. i also told them because there's a strong possibility i'll be moving a long way away from them, from the uk to ireland.

    yesterday, i was really nervous all through the school day because i had my meeting afterschool and what do i find out? my "best friends" alex and miranda had been talking really loudly about it in science, so much so that everyone started asking questions about me moving to ireland. i was really hurt, they shouldn't even really be discussing it, let alone in the middle of a science lesson really loudly? anyway, that let alot of people know what's going on and then after school, miranda told me my friend winnie wanted to talk to me about it because she knew. i had to rush to go talk to her because our parents are amazing friends and they can't find out about this? miranda kept saying it was alex who told her, but it turns out it was miranda. miranda even looked me straight in the eye and told me she didn't know who it could have been, but she was guessing alex?! i can't beleive her. i can't beleive him.

    you know, alex didn't even bother asking how my meeting went and when i told him my sister was at the computer with me, he started talking to me about how it would affect her! he knows for a fact that she knows nothing at the moment, so then i had my little sister questioning me about this "big secret" and "how she's going to react to it". i kept repeating to him, "alex, my sisters here. dont go into it" and stuff, but he carried on and on.

    it's such a delicate issue and they're handling it like it's any old news. now everyone knows im going, when it might not even happen. i'm devestated by my friend's actions :'(
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    Aww That sucks.
    You should sit down your friends and sternly tell them why they're not allowed to talk about it and the consequences for you if they do, if they're real friends they'll listen, if not then don't speak to them about it again and hope they forget about it all.
    I don't quite understand though, why are you moving? Because of the abuse or a different reason? And what is it your sister doesn't know, about the abuse or moving away?
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    okay, i really don't want to go into detail about this on here but basically, i had a meeting yesterday with a social worker about my mother and abuse, and it was pretty horrible. i only told my two "best friends" about this, i was absolutely terrified and they seemed really supportive at the time. i also told them because there's a strong possibility i'll be moving a long way away from them, from the uk to ireland.

    yesterday, i was really nervous all through the school day because i had my meeting afterschool and what do i find out? my "best friends" alex and miranda had been talking really loudly about it in science, so much so that everyone started asking questions about me moving to ireland. i was really hurt, they shouldn't even really be discussing it, let alone in the middle of a science lesson really loudly? anyway, that let alot of people know what's going on and then after school, miranda told me my friend winnie wanted to talk to me about it because she knew. i had to rush to go talk to her because our parents are amazing friends and they can't find out about this? miranda kept saying it was alex who told her, but it turns out it was miranda. miranda even looked me straight in the eye and told me she didn't know who it could have been, but she was guessing alex?! i can't beleive her. i can't beleive him.

    you know, alex didn't even bother asking how my meeting went and when i told him my sister was at the computer with me, he started talking to me about how it would affect her! he knows for a fact that she knows nothing at the moment, so then i had my little sister questioning me about this "big secret" and "how she's going to react to it". i kept repeating to him, "alex, my sisters here. dont go into it" and stuff, but he carried on and on.

    it's such a delicate issue and they're handling it like it's any old news. now everyone knows im going, when it might not even happen. i'm devestated by my friend's actions :'(
    First: You need to sort out this business with your social workers and your mum. Ive had friends leak highly personal information about me before, so i know your feeling pretty crappy right about now, but sorting out your problems is much more important than worrying about their petty, hurtful games. Time's a good healer, corney i know, but youll soon realise they aren't your friends if this is how they react when you confide in them with highly personal information.
    If you must talk to them, just tell them them they've made you feel a million times worst in an already hurtful situation. I would then suggest you find some new friends.

    Hope you feel better, and everything goes well with the social.
 
 
 
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