Been put in a flat with 2nd + 3rd years as a 1st year
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
I personally think that as much as it seems easy to live with first years off the bat, it doesn't mean that if you don't live with them you won't have first-year friends. You should go to the fresher's events even if it has to be alone and make first-year friends there. There could be someone just as nervous at these events and you could wind up with friends for life. As for the seconds and thirds, it doesn't hurt to know people who have actually had a first-year uni experience. They can be very beneficial to you and even more if they study your course.
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
As someone who also was in private accommodation first year and the only 1st year in my flat (the others were 3rd and 4th years) I didn't have a problem making friends. My best advice is to attend as many events during freshers week as you can. If your course/course society runs an event, go to it. If you have any hobbies or interests, find societies for those and go to their events. Talk to people on your course, make plans to study, ask for help from fellow course mates if you're stuck on stuff. Put yourself out there, and you'll eventually find a group of people who you click with. It's worked out pretty well for me all things considered; I've got a great group of friends, both on my course and outside of it, and they made my first year a blast. Hope this helps!
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
Hey @Oacio
Please try not to stress about this! You may actually find yourself better off in some ways as those you're living with will have uni life experiences that you may find helpful. And as others have mentioned, there is no issue in going to freshers events initially by yourself, chances are you'll find someone to go with after a couple of events. Also, your new flatmates may actually go to some events, I definitely did in my 2nd year and will again next year.
I hope it works out for you and all the best
Kat
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
Hi there!
Please don't worry too much, there will be plenty of opportunities to meet other first years if you attend freshers' events and join some societies you'll be able to meet other people within your first week of term starting. As well as this, you will meet many others in your lectures and seminars. Living with second and third-year students may also be helpful as you will be able to come to them for any advice as they have already experienced being a first-year at your university, they will also have their own friendship groups and this is a perfect opportunity to meet whole groups of people who already get along and they will be able to help you settle in.
When it comes to meeting other freshers it may be beneficial to see if you have a group chat for your course, this is usually very common and most get set up over WhatsApp once people start getting their results, this is a great way to see what other freshers are doing and also a way to talk to them to arrange plans. Additionally, because you are studying the same course you already know that you will have something in common which will make talking to them a lot easier.
I hope this helps,
Bethany, UKC Rep
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
Hi there,
Sorry to here you've been feeling this way. I wouldn't worry too much about age differences and what year you're all in. When you get there you'll find that these factors are quickly forgotten about amongst student, no one really pays attention to it. Even within year groups there can be quite large age gaps but no one really notices. If you're worried about them already having friend groups, they probably will have but this could work to your advantage. Seen as though you're living with them I'm sure they'll have the courtesy and welcoming nature to invite you along to social events or to meet their friends. After all, they've been in your position so I'm sure they sympathise. IF not though, don't worry too much about it, your flatmates aren't your one shot at making friends. You'll have lots of opportunities along the way to make friends. Eventually you get used to meeting new people and it takes away some of the anxiety you're feeling. Hope this helps and good luck!
-Grace
Original post by Oacio
Honestly, I should've known this would be a risk I took by choosing private accommodation over university accommodation, but after asking the accommodation provider I've just found out that I'm going to be the only 1st year in my flat. This makes it incredibly hard for me to socialise as an anxious person, as I'm not going to be around other freshers, and won't have anyone to go to freshers events with in my flat. I really don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can cancel at this point either. Any advice?
Ever considered talking to the provider about allowing you to move to accommodations that’s best suited around you for example that are actually filled with first year freshers like yourself maybe?
Original post by Mohammed_80
Ever considered talking to the provider about allowing you to move to accommodations that’s best suited around you for example that are actually filled with first year freshers like yourself maybe?
I actually did email them, even with all the lovely answers saying you don't need freshers in your flat to meet others and socialise. I feel like I'd be missing out on the whole 'living away from home for the first time' experience with other freshers who have no clue what they're doing. The only issue is that I'm pretty sure the whole accommodation is fully booked, so me moving flats depends on people cancelling. I might be offered a different flat on the basis that people cancel, hopefully, or if some people don't get into the university on results day (as mean as that sounds), but we'll have to see. Either way, it's not the end of the world.
Original post by Oacio
I actually did email them, even with all the lovely answers saying you don't need freshers in your flat to meet others and socialise. I feel like I'd be missing out on the whole 'living away from home for the first time' experience with other freshers who have no clue what they're doing. The only issue is that I'm pretty sure the whole accommodation is fully booked, so me moving flats depends on people cancelling. I might be offered a different flat on the basis that people cancel, hopefully, or if some people don't get into the university on results day (as mean as that sounds), but we'll have to see. Either way, it's not the end of the world.
OMDS that’s not cool. So neither a swap is possible.
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