I'm a fresher and I've made some lovely friends but they're all in the same halls, I only live across a courtyard but they all congregate in their kitchen/rooms and sometimes forget to tell me if they're going somewhere (i think they genuinely do....)
I don't have a lot of confidence and I'm not as funny/clever/interesting as them, i try to be smiley and outgoing and happy but i feel so scared, i was bullied pretty badly by some 'friends' about 5 years ago and i never quite recovered, i feel like i'm invading their flat when i'm there because i don't live in that building.
i guess i just want some pointers on how to come across as happy and carefree, just a bit of reassurance i spose...
feeling 'out of it' at uni Watch
- Thread Starter
- 12-11-2008 22:38
- 12-11-2008 23:40
I feel exactly like that at uni I am friends with about 4 different friendship groups but feel like I'm not actually *in* any friendship groups. I just feel like the outsider that sometimes hangs around. I'm probably being paranoid though and so are you - I seem to be liked by them but for some reason I can't stop thinking that they all actually hate me or something Don't really have any advice, sorry, just thought I'd let you know that you're not the only one.
- 13-11-2008 00:03
Oh also, I was bullied between 2001-2004 by people from a different school (not friends) and that has really affected my confidence too. Maybe you need counselling? I'm not sure sorry
- 13-11-2008 00:29
i feel the same myself and was bullied from p4 right until i left 6th form. but i think everyone will feel like that at uni for a wee while
- 13-11-2008 00:33
I was in a very similar situation, and the only way is to push yourself into the group, talk to them loads of facebook etc, suggest nights out, have people over to your flat, go shopping together etc.
- 13-11-2008 01:40
take the initiative and be friendly..i hope it all works out
- 13-11-2008 02:34
Go round to their flats. Or invite them over to yours.