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Going into second year really nervous

My first year of uni was a nightmare socially as I made virtually no friends due to me being really shy. I’m now getting nervous to start second year as I haven’t spoken to the one person I speak to in uni over this break so I feel like I’m going in alone again which is really sad. I still don’t feel comfortable at uni and I’m starting to think I never will I’m hoping joining some sports societies will help me a bit but even then as a second year I’m afraid it might be a bit weird joining a society now .
People join societies at different times, there's no "weird" time to join.
Hi there!
With COVID restrictions in place last year it is completely understandable that you feel this way, socialising was extremely hard to do and it definitely took its toll on a lot of people's first years. I didn't truly feel settled in my friendships until my second year and this was because I finally felt as though I was able to put myself out there more. I didn't do too much my first year of uni in terms of joining societies as I was so busy trying to balance moving out with my course, so in my second year I made a huge effort to speak to people on my course, attend nights out that had been organised by members of some of the societies I had decided to join so that I was able to meet some new people.
There is never a weird time to join a society as I know people who like to try new ones every year- especially sports societies as it allows them to learn something new and they can meet lots of new people. With 2022/2023 looking a lot more promising for opportunities to get out and meet people it will be so much easier to find groups that you click with and feel like you can form good friendships with!
I hope this helps!
Bethany, UKC Rep
Original post by Wagyu202
My first year of uni was a nightmare socially as I made virtually no friends due to me being really shy. I’m now getting nervous to start second year as I haven’t spoken to the one person I speak to in uni over this break so I feel like I’m going in alone again which is really sad. I still don’t feel comfortable at uni and I’m starting to think I never will I’m hoping joining some sports societies will help me a bit but even then as a second year I’m afraid it might be a bit weird joining a society now .


Hey @wagyu202 :smile:

This is totally understandable, I know when I was a student I found it really difficult to make friends and preferred to focus on my studies instead. Everyone experiences uni differently, it might just take you a little longer to find your friends for life, but I'm sure you will! It's great to hear you're planning on joining some sport societies, which ones are you planning on joining? :smile: Don't worry about starting them in second year, people join them at different times so you won't be alone in that! You could also even look at volunteering opportunities, part-time work on campus or becoming a student ambassador as ways of meeting new people.

Do you have any of your course mates on social media? Could you try start some small interactions like replying to their Instagram story and initiating a conversation that way?

I wish you the best of luck with second year, I hope you flourish in confidence and meet your people :smile:

Becky

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