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    (Original post by death.drop)
    depends on the kind of porn.
    As long as it involves no animals, no minors and is consented to then it's okay? Some people get on their moral high horse imposing standards on others based on activities that they themselves find abhorrent. Some people find more basic acts, or porn in general, abhorrent. Kinda reminds me of a legal case in America, some dude got done for making his porn too 'raunchy' and was judged to be 'obscene', yet if I go some parts of the world, all porn will be judged accordingly.
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    I never thought I would be bothered by it and it never really crossed my mind until I was in a shop with my boyfriend and some other people, and I went to find him and saw him looking at a magazine.
    I obviously didn't say anything, as I suppose it's a bit unreasonable to say I don't want him to look at porn, but I think it bothered me because it wasn't the typical 'builder whistling mentality' of making comments with his friends, but just him. That made it seem like he would compare me to the girls in the porn, and 'real' girls don't really stand a chance, do they?

    But I'm just insecure xD
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    (Original post by Elementric)
    try watching some interviews with pornstars... Just because you're shallow down below doesn't mean everyone else is.
    Yeah cause if Jenna Jameson came out and said she hated it and it was painful it wouldn't damage her "career" at all now, would it?

    I think the interviews won't be the full truth lol.

    And OP if you're okay with giving up the anon, PM me, I wouldn't mind talking to you about this cause I kinda feel the same.
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    It really doesn't bother me at all.
    If it was people he knew then I'd feel differently, but I honestly don't care. I know now that him using porn has nothing to do with our sex life, he certainly doesn't see me solely as a sex object, and doesn't mean he loves/fancies me less. Porn = visual stimulation to get off to.
    We've watched it together and alone, a few of my female friends also watch it alone and/or with their partners. I think porn is becoming a lot more accepted.
    I certainly don't think that a lot of the pornstars are oppressed either, professional pornstars have chosen that career and who am I to judge their choices as wrong?
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with it, apart from the false expectations and self esteem issues it plays a part in.
    In the past I've watched porn with a boyfriend. I think if I didn't like him doing it I'd let him make our own so he can watch that instead.
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    It doesn't bother me.

    The women in it - usually - have decided that is what they want to do so in some ways they are exploiting the people who pay to watch it.

    As long as it doesn't feature something illegal like children then I don't have any issues with it at all.
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    i very rarely watch porn; only if the girlfriend is away and i need a quick release. Otherwise i do it in bed with nothing but my imagination and i think of her and.....just wow. so much better than porn. that said, porn does work in getting a quick one out of the way.

    in terms of the content of porn, i cant see how its degrading really, i mean those women have chosen to be there and, like someone else has mentioned, they are probably making a lot of money from it. It doesn't automatically degrade women; it would if women were actually like that (i know some are but the majority arent), but a woman will be very different than those shown in a porno and anyone who genuinely thinks women in porn are an accurate depiction of women in real life will learn this is not true very quickly.

    Also, guys hormones would still exist even if porn did not - porn is no real motivation to go and find a shag, i mean it serves as a masturbation aid, and tbh finding a shag in real life is vastly different to that depicted in porn. and again, anyone who thinks otherwise will learn the truth very quickly.

    and the only problem i have with porn is the complete lack of emotion involved (as in its not within a loving relationship), and even then there are 100s of amateur porn sites with loving couples doing it, which solves that issue (my personal preference tbh).
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    As long as it involves no animals, no minors and is consented to then it's okay? Some people get on their moral high horse imposing standards on others based on activities that they themselves find abhorrent. Some people find more basic acts, or porn in general, abhorrent. Kinda reminds me of a legal case in America, some dude got done for making his porn too 'raunchy' and was judged to be 'obscene', yet if I go some parts of the world, all porn will be judged accordingly.
    Not exactly that, no.
    I'm not imposing my standards on any partner and it wouldn't be about judging him, but if he were watching scat or something and genuinely being aroused by it then I probably wouldn't be comfortable; knowing i'd never be able to give him everything he wants; that when we're in bed together he's probably thinking about taking a **** on my face.

    i found some really bad porn on my ex's computer once and it made me a tiny bit less attracted to him. I get that men and women take different things from sex and porn but seriously....some of it should only be used for amusement purposes.
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    (Original post by death.drop)
    Not exactly that, no.
    I'm not imposing my standards on any partner and it wouldn't be about judging him, but if he were watching scat or something and genuinely being aroused by it then I probably wouldn't be comfortable; knowing i'd never be able to give him everything he wants; that when we're in bed together he's probably thinking about taking a **** on my face.

    i found some really bad porn on my ex's computer once and it made me a tiny bit less attracted to him. I get that men and women take different things from sex and porn but seriously....some of it should only be used for amusement purposes.
    Some people keep things strictly with porn because, to them, it remains a fantasy. What if you found your boyfriend watching porn which involved group sex? You're not going to do that are you? If not then it should be treated the same with scat porn.
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    Some people keep things strictly with porn because, to them, it remains a fantasy. What if you found your boyfriend watching porn which involved group sex? You're not going to do that are you? If not then it should be treated the same with scat porn.
    I don't believe in keeping things just as a fantasy :p:
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    (Original post by death.drop)
    I don't believe in keeping things just as a fantasy :p:
    You don't play computer games? :p: I regularly play fighting games, known for their 'brutality', but you won't see me acting it out on the streets.

    I do feel porn, particularly those that engage in activities where most of the population find abhorrent, such as scat, get unfairly judged for the reality issues when computer games and films go unnoticed though. I'd love to be Coach in Death Race but I won't blow any evil women up!
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    (Original post by PygmyShrew)
    I find it weird when guys are searching for a specific pornstar. I can understand seeing people have sex might be nice for some people (not a thing I'm in to myself, but each to their own) but I think it's the fact most guys have favourite pornstars they actively search for that I find a bit disgusting. That seems to indicate that they are imagining themselves with the girl rather than just getting off on the sex, which I find a horrible thought when the guy has a partner.

    I'm fine with people with partners appreciating other people who are attractive, but the point where they are imagining having sex with them themselves is what I don't understand. Feels like imaginary cheating to me.
    Maybe it's because they enjoy the type of porn that the woman is involved in, rather than the woman herself. I have a favourite male porn star, but he is only my favourite because I love the type of stuff that he is in.

    Even if they do fancy the woman, it is seen as acceptable for women in relationships to fantasize about male celebrities, so why can't men do the same?
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    You don't play computer games? :p: I regularly play fighting games, known for their 'brutality', but you won't see me acting it out on the streets.

    I do feel porn, particularly those that engage in activities where most of the population find abhorrent, such as scat, get unfairly judged for the reality issues when computer games and films go unnoticed though. I'd love to be Coach in Death Race but I won't blow any evil women up!
    hmm....i see your point. but i've never had sexual fantasies that i wouldn't actually do/haven't done so it's hard for me to imagine that someone would. and although i love to watch horror movies i've never exactly fantasised about being a psychotic killer...
    yeah i totally actually don't see your point. just talked myself right out of it.
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    (Original post by death.drop)
    hmm....i see your point. but i've never had sexual fantasies that i wouldn't actually do/haven't done so it's hard for me to imagine that someone would. and although i love to watch horror movies i've never exactly fantasised about being a psychotic killer...
    yeah i totally actually don't see your point. just talked myself right out of it.
    Have you ever fantasised about being a super hero from a film? I've love to be Magneto from the X-Men cartoon but you won't see me dress like him. :p: Although I thought about getting a custom made costume done for one ninja in the Mortal Kombat game (Mortal Kombat Armageddon - Ermac).
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    Have you ever fantasised about being a super hero from a film? I've love to be Magneto from the X-Men cartoon but you won't see me dress like him. :p: Although I thought about getting a custom made costume done for one ninja in the Mortal Kombat game (Mortal Kombat Armageddon - Ermac).
    lol, but you don't fantasise about dressing like magneto do you? you fantasise about being magneto. I'm sure if you were offered his powers you'd take them! and actually....if it were socially acceptable and I had the figure for it I would wear my batgirl outfit every day. :yep:
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    (Original post by death.drop)
    lol, but you don't fantasise about dressing like magneto do you? you fantasise about being magneto. I'm sure if you were offered his powers you'd take them! and actually....if it were socially acceptable and I had the figure for it I would wear my batgirl outfit every day. :yep:
    Yes but it's the action rather than the uniform. So fantasising about banging a huge selection of women is the same as fantasising about having special powers. :p: I thought of getting a Mortal Kombat character outfit for cosplay events but I won't wear it in the streets beating people up.
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    (Original post by NDGAARONDI)
    So fantasising about banging a huge selection of women is the same as fantasising about having special powers. :p:
    exactly! if the chance came along you'd take it :p:
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    (Original post by PygmyShrew)
    I don't understand that either though. Why fantasise about sex with someone else when you are in a relationship? Maybe fantasise about sexual acts but fantasising about a specific person other than your partner just seems strange to me.

    I think I'm just a bit strange :o:
    You're not :yep: Or maybe we're strange. I feel 100% satisfied by my partner alone, I don't need to fantasise about anyone else.
 
 
 
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