basically i came out of a relationionship of 2 years in September, this relationship grew me into the person i am now, matured/focused me, etc - it ended coz it had to but were still on good terms.
so now i am thinking about this girl, she's fancied me since before this other relationship and i've always let her aside. I get on with her very welll, and she's got the heart of gold and she's attractive. I know she wants to make something serious, but should i go into a relationship knowing that
1. I think i still prefer my ex (even though i'll never see her again or we barely talk)
2. I know if this did evolve im looking at completely different dynamics in the relationship in that she's -to put it simply shes a footballers wife style girl, in contrast to my ex being the independent career driven one.
what are the pros and cons of this new relationsionship - i hate being single right now.
is it fair to go into this relationship with the intention of having fun over the next year or 2, even i don't see her as a life partner.
p.s. sorry for the incoherence im quite drunk
should i give her a chance Watch
- Thread Starter
- 13-11-2008 08:19
- 13-11-2008 09:37
If you don't like her that much don't go out with her.
Christ, time to put the bottle down methinks.
- 13-11-2008 09:39
you can't be THAT drunk, there are hardly any typos in your post...
- 13-11-2008 09:42
OP, re-read your post. You shouldn't do that to someone, who by your own confession, has liked you for the past two years!! Even when you had a partner!
- 13-11-2008 12:35
If you care about her at all, you wouldn't do that to her. She really likes you and wants a long-term relationship, but all you want is some fun?
She'd be heartbroken.
Don't do it!
- 13-11-2008 13:53
I think give it a go, but tell her you're really not looking for a serious relationship at the moment, especially after your last one. Then, the onus is on her to get over that or wait 'til you're ready and hope that when you are ready, you've changed your mind about her and can see her as a life partner.
Also, she might not be so ready for a serious relationship as you think, it's not always that easy to tell, and even if she has said she is, her feelings might change once in a relationship.
Don't just give up the chance, but honesty, open-mindedness and good communication is the key.