What's even the point of trying to get a relationship?

The main goal is to find a partner, get married and have children so that you can pass on your genes, knowledge and experiences to future generations. I personally don't want to die alone without any children or grandchildren because it would mean that my family tree would end and there would be no one to carry the throne of the family. I am in the same position as you and exactly the same age as you and I am worried that I will never find anyone and be alone for the rest of my life. We're both very young so it doesn't affect us as much yet, but eventually you'll be in your 30s and 40s and life is going to hit you and you're going to think: what was the point of my existence and why am I still alone? That's what I am scared of the most. But by the time I hit 30s and 40s it's gonna be too late because everyone would've been married already. There's no one left to pursue. That's why if you are serious about finding someone you should do it sooner rather than later.

Many people want relationships because they want access to a serious intimate monogomous relationship with opportunities for: companionship, cohabititation, emotional investment, raising a family in one household with a committed partner, sexual activity or formal legal status like a civil partnership or marriage.

Of course, lots of people have no desire for any commitment or sexual exclusivity.
Plenty more don't want to have or be responsible for any children.
Dating and serious relationships are not the best option for everyone.
Some people prefer to go down alternative routes like ons, polyamory or to remain happily single and never become sexually active.
Every adult has the right to decide for themselves on their ambitions and dating or relationship dealbreakers.

Yeah everyone can decide what they want out of it, but then how can I find out if it's for me or not if I can't really get into a relationship? Like I just can't understand going out of your way to get those things right now.

Maybe you still want a relationship, but have given up on the idea as you feel it is unattainable.

It just seems like throwing time and money away, and for what, just to hold hands once a week or something? That's not even mentioning the huge stress and anxiety of actually asking someone out. So I'm I missing something? Again, don't know if it's just the fact I'm clueless about relationships, if I'm just trying to justify never being in one, or what, but I'm really failing to see the point anymore.

How something seems and how something is or how it can be - are 2 entirely different things in the context of this thread.

Throwing time and money away?
The cost per person of 2 people on a holiday is cheaper than a single person. The cost per person of 2 people sharing a home tends to be cheaper 1 person living alone.
Any man showering a woman with gifts is doing it wrong. Any man taking a woman on expensive, 1st, 2nd, 3rd dates is doing it wrong. Buying love doesn't work. It comes over as too needy, desperate, the man not being a big enough prize in and of himself. The provider frame is a bad one to start off with compared to the lover frame.

Time. A supper for 2 can be cooked in about the same time as a supper for 1. The time to hoover a flat shared by 2 people is the same as the time to hoover a single person's flat. Sharing chores saves time.

Holding hands once per week? How sweet! Making love more than once per week is where it's at. Sex is the joint most pleasurable thing that we can do. Why deny yourself such a profound and fulfilling pleasure?

The stress and anxiety is largely self imposed. If any woman refuses your offer, that's fine. Move onto the next woman that you find attractive.
Many people find the idea of handling a common house spider stressful. It's not. Spiders are a bit tickly. There's nothing the spider can do to harm you.

On top of that, the process of learning about relationships is an enjoyable one. Learning how to break the ice competently, how to be attractive during initial conversations, how to assess people, how to make love competently, how to retain partners in the long term. It's all a wonderful series of adventures. When things go wrong they build up your store of amusing anecdotes.

As a super added bonus - getting better at your man to woman social skills will help you in other areas of your life, including your work.
For someone like yourself there's a high chance that these social skills will be of more help in increasing your income than your degree will.

To be honest if your not that fussed about having a relationship, you’re right it does cut out a lot of hassle. Most people though seem to value the companionship, regular sex and possibly kids that they can bring. Truly the best and worst moments, in my experience. It’s a bit young to be throwing your hands up in despair at 21

How something seems and how something is or how it can be - are 2 entirely different things in the context of this thread.

Throwing time and money away?
The cost per person of 2 people on a holiday is cheaper than a single person. The cost per person of 2 people sharing a home tends to be cheaper 1 person living alone.
Any man showering a woman with gifts is doing it wrong. Any man taking a woman on expensive, 1st, 2nd, 3rd dates is doing it wrong. Buying love doesn't work. It comes over as too needy, desperate, the man not being a big enough prize in and of himself. The provider frame is a bad one to start off with compared to the lover frame.

Time. A supper for 2 can be cooked in about the same time as a supper for 1. The time to hoover a flat shared by 2 people is the same as the time to hoover a single person's flat. Sharing chores saves time.

Holding hands once per week? How sweet! Making love more than once per week is where it's at. Sex is the joint most pleasurable thing that we can do. Why deny yourself such a profound and fulfilling pleasure?

The stress and anxiety is largely self imposed. If any woman refuses your offer, that's fine. Move onto the next woman that you find attractive.
Many people find the idea of handling a common house spider stressful. It's not. Spiders are a bit tickly. There's nothing the spider can do to harm you.

On top of that, the process of learning about relationships is an enjoyable one. Learning how to break the ice competently, how to be attractive during initial conversations, how to assess people, how to make love competently, how to retain partners in the long term. It's all a wonderful series of adventures. When things go wrong they build up your store of amusing anecdotes.

As a super added bonus - getting better at your man to woman social skills will help you in other areas of your life, including your work.
For someone like yourself there's a high chance that these social skills will be of more help in increasing your income than your degree will.

Expensive or cheap gifts or dates or whatever, it's still an expense at the end of the day, both in terms of time, and money (besides I don't really cook for myself right now anyway lol). Besides that nothing there really makes it seem worth it to me. Can't really see how learning about relationships can be fun, for me it just seems too stressful. And don't you have to be years into a relationship for things like sex to even come up? Even then I can't see it being worth the bother.

I'm not the original poster but I'll answer anyway since I'm pretty similar.

I guess that buying things in larger quantities would make it cheaper per person, but depending on how much your partner contributes it might work out more expensive for you personally. Either way it's a moot point since I'm pretty comfortable with regards to money.

If being a provider isn't desirable then I'm completely out of luck. I'd be emotionally unavailable and would make a terrible lover; even with friends I've known for years I put very little effort into maintaining the friendship.

With regards to time I don't have much to spare if I take away the things that are actually important to me - university work, and sleep. It's not like I play video games or anything during term time, as I only bring a laptop that's incapable of running games with me. In terms of cooking I hate doing it and avoid it whenever possible, and I'll sometimes skip meals if I don't have the energy to deal with all the faffing about. Its not like I'm missing out on much though as I have a sensory sensitivity to texture that means I don't enjoy most foods.

Although I'm sexually attracted to women I don't have much interest in actually having sex, so that doesn't really drive me.

With regards to learning about relationships I personally hate the idea of doing all the things you talk about. My anxiety would be through the roof, and even discounting that the majority of people irritate me so I wouldn't enjoy it. I don't really care about having personal anecdotes either as dislike talking about myself or my life.

Fortunately the fields that I'm looking at after graduating are very male-heavy so I don't have to worry too much about man-to-woman social skills. Also I'm not planning on doing anything that involves making sales or smoothtalking executives - that can be left to conceited business graduates.

I'm not the original poster but I'll answer anyway since I'm pretty similar.

I guess that buying things in larger quantities would make it cheaper per person, but depending on how much your partner contributes it might work out more expensive for you personally. Either way it's a moot point since I'm pretty comfortable with regards to money.

If being a provider isn't desirable then I'm completely out of luck. I'd be emotionally unavailable and would make a terrible lover; even with friends I've known for years I put very little effort into maintaining the friendship.

With regards to time I don't have much to spare if I take away the things that are actually important to me - university work, and sleep. It's not like I play video games or anything during term time, as I only bring a laptop that's incapable of running games with me. In terms of cooking I hate doing it and avoid it whenever possible, and I'll sometimes skip meals if I don't have the energy to deal with all the faffing about. Its not like I'm missing out on much though as I have a sensory sensitivity to texture that means I don't enjoy most foods.

Although I'm sexually attracted to women I don't have much interest in actually having sex, so that doesn't really drive me.

With regards to learning about relationships I personally hate the idea of doing all the things you talk about. My anxiety would be through the roof, and even discounting that the majority of people irritate me so I wouldn't enjoy it. I don't really care about having personal anecdotes either as dislike talking about myself or my life.

Fortunately the fields that I'm looking at after graduating are very male-heavy so I don't have to worry too much about man-to-woman social skills. Also I'm not planning on doing anything that involves making sales or smoothtalking executives - that can be left to conceited business graduates.