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Why can't I find anyone in my uni flat

I'm headed to university next week but I feel like I am going completely unprepared for the section of knowing my flatmates or anyone on my course. I joined all the facebook group chats relating to my accommodation as well as my course and have only found 1 person within my flat where we exchanged a 30-second conversation that ended in me being left on delivered for the past week. I'm so worried as all my friends seem to have good connections with their flatmates already in massive group chats where they are discussing things to bring, courses, things to do, meet-ups, etc. Am I doing something wrong? I literally know 1 person in my flat. How do I find people to talk to or is this something I figure out once I get there? Just need a little bit of reassurance here that I'm not being an idiot haha! thank you :smile:
Original post by polkadotaxolotl
I'm headed to university next week but I feel like I am going completely unprepared for the section of knowing my flatmates or anyone on my course. I joined all the facebook group chats relating to my accommodation as well as my course and have only found 1 person within my flat where we exchanged a 30-second conversation that ended in me being left on delivered for the past week. I'm so worried as all my friends seem to have good connections with their flatmates already in massive group chats where they are discussing things to bring, courses, things to do, meet-ups, etc. Am I doing something wrong? I literally know 1 person in my flat. How do I find people to talk to or is this something I figure out once I get there? Just need a little bit of reassurance here that I'm not being an idiot haha! thank you :smile:


no you haven't done anything wrong. Everyone is different and some people don't use the accommodation pages to find flatmates. I only found 2 of my flatmates before starting and only really chatted to one of them before I arrived. Best advice for meeting people on your course is to find the WhatsApp group (or create one if there isn't one already). Check the Facebook pages for group chat links in there or drop a message to someone else on your course saying hi and see if they know of any WhatsApp groups :smile:
Original post by polkadotaxolotl
I'm headed to university next week but I feel like I am going completely unprepared for the section of knowing my flatmates or anyone on my course. I joined all the facebook group chats relating to my accommodation as well as my course and have only found 1 person within my flat where we exchanged a 30-second conversation that ended in me being left on delivered for the past week. I'm so worried as all my friends seem to have good connections with their flatmates already in massive group chats where they are discussing things to bring, courses, things to do, meet-ups, etc. Am I doing something wrong? I literally know 1 person in my flat. How do I find people to talk to or is this something I figure out once I get there? Just need a little bit of reassurance here that I'm not being an idiot haha! thank you :smile:


When I first arrived at the halls I was also completely clueless about my flatmates. We didn't communicate with each other at all before we met. Most likely because we all had introverted personalities, so I don't think that it's anything that you should worry about. We only got to know each other once we all arrived there. It really brings back memories. I wish I was a first year again and now I am a graduate. I am actually tearing up right now :frown: I lived in such beautiful place and really enjoyed my time at the halls. It was very sad to break up on the last few days. One thing I can say is that it will take some time for people to open up to you. Not everyone is going to be a crazy social animal who likes to go to parties on first day. My flatmates weren't like this either. Give people some time to adjust. University can be very intimidating and overwhelming for some people.
Original post by polkadotaxolotl
I'm headed to university next week but I feel like I am going completely unprepared for the section of knowing my flatmates or anyone on my course. I joined all the facebook group chats relating to my accommodation as well as my course and have only found 1 person within my flat where we exchanged a 30-second conversation that ended in me being left on delivered for the past week. I'm so worried as all my friends seem to have good connections with their flatmates already in massive group chats where they are discussing things to bring, courses, things to do, meet-ups, etc. Am I doing something wrong? I literally know 1 person in my flat. How do I find people to talk to or is this something I figure out once I get there? Just need a little bit of reassurance here that I'm not being an idiot haha! thank you :smile:

Hi there:smile:

I just want to reassure you that is completely normal to go to uni without having met anyone beforehand. I remember looking for my flatmates through freshers group chats but only managing to find 1/2. Even so, I cant remember ever having any real in depth conversation with them before moving to uni. Once I got there, I realised that most people didn't even know there was a freshers group chat or used other forms of social media and thats why I wasn't able to find them. It really didn't matter though because it was so much better to have in person interactions. Everyone is really open to socialising/making friends during freshers week so it wasn't daunting at all. You just have to remember that everyone is in the same position and they too will be wanting to make friends. That being said don't worry if you're not all super close to begin with... friendships can take time to develop but I'm sure you will still have fun together!

Hope this helps a bit

Joanna
-Uni of Kent Rep

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