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I'm in the third week of my second term at university, and so far I've been loving it. But now the honeymoon period is over and the sudden realisation that I actually have to be able to help myself and learn all by myself has set in.

I had a lot of reading to do last term, but only did about a tenth of it. So, as you can imagine, my exams didn't go too well in the first week of this term, which sucks because they count for a quater of the first year, which itself counts for a third of my total degree. I've also been getting D's and E's in my assignments (non-assessed, thank God). I feel like a complete failure.

I always thought that I'd be really studious at university and be able to juggle a social life and academic responsibilities, but it's gone completely wrong for me. I've never been as depressed as I was at the end of last term. I was missing seminars, lectures, homeworks, just generally in a huge mess. I went to see my supervisor, and I swore I'd change this term. But so far, that hasn't happened either.

When I pick up a book and start reading, I immediately convince myself that I'm not going to be able to understand anything, and so I never carry on. I'm completely down and negative about everything at the moment, even about the way I think.

It's not even as though I miss my family and taking care of myself away from home, I've always been a negative person, it was the way I was brought up. I got AAA at A-level, so it's not as though I'm not capable of sitting down and revising hard. I'm feeling tense all the time, and it's affecting the way I feel about myself and my friends.

I'm always playing catch-up with myself, and I know that if I don't start knuckling down soon, I'm gonna fail my summer exams and get thrown out of this place. I never want that to happen, yet still, I never do anything to stop it. It's an inbuilt negativity that stops me from achieving anything right now.

I spend hours and hours every day just doing small, insignificant things (e.g., chatting on MSN, watching films, sleeping, thinking). I haven't achieved anything worthwhile this way and it makes me feel crap inside, because I know I should be working. And pretty soon I start slipping down a spiral of shame and self-hate and negitivity.

I see the other people on the corridor working and getting good grades, I just wish I could be a good, well-rounded student. But I have too many hang-ups at the moment to make myself become the person I want to be.

I just don't know where to go from now, or whether it's too late to start anew and catch up with the reading. I just don't have the skill or the discipline to get myself into a proper routine and be forceful with myself.

I feel like crap .....
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Less complaining, more doing = the key. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop comparing yourself to others. You've made it to uni...are you stupid? No. Because you've managed it so far. First year blues are expected, just don't let them RULE you. Get yourself organised and for god's sake buy some chocolate. Always helps.
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wrong course maybe?
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Which reminds me, gotta start buying my uni books soon
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get organised!

i'm like you, i spend too much time going out/ watching films/doing things other than work, but you can still do what you want and the work needed.

i've started writing out a list (never very long) of targets of work related things to do the next day, firstly it focuses your day, secondly it eases your mind when you know what you need to do and i find you can stop thinking about it.
tick them off when you've done the tasks, believe me you feel a failure when you have set tasks yourself and fail to do them...lol

get a celander (spl!) with big boxes to wirte events/deadlines in, know whats coming round the corner, write in social stuff, then at a glance you can see when you will have free time. all this helps me focus on what needs to be done, of course its one thing writing things down another actually doing them!

this is good writing this, reminds me what i need to do...i spend too much time doing pointless stuff like watching dvds drinking etc, while fun it leaves you feeling hollow when you realise the work you need to do.
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i know what u mean exactly except im not loving university probably cause i live at home i still dont think id like it even if i lived in. i dont even know if the course interests me or whether its right for me.
ive thought about quiting tons of times but ive no back up plan
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I had exactly the same for the first term of University, thnngs are a lot etter now though, I got 55% and 51% in my exdams despite doing no revision and missing loads of lectures which i was quite happy about, bit of revision and stuff and ill be fine!
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what course are you studing??
have you made any friends?
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Are you in Halifax college? Like I said last night I know exactly how youre feeling, at the end of last term I was ready to pack my bags and leave York all together, I was finding the course hard and uninteresting and consequently quickly fell behind, my supervisor showed me my attendance sheet at the end of the term, Id been to 3/18 Mechanics lectures and 8/17 Physics of Matter lectures or something stupid like that!!

I also felt as if I knew nobody except for the people in my own house last term, which is the thing that really got me down quite a bit, now all the hardwork I put in last term meeting people and stuff is really paying off and Im having a much much better time.

You just need to make a real effort to meet new people, I know its ****, and really draining, but its worth it in the end.
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although im not in a univ already, iv experienced that kinda life in my junior high school and even when i got some good grades others doubted me that i was cheater. iv given up all stuffs about study, i didnt care anymore about maths. i was only working on the subject i like and never put any efforts on rest of them. then all my maths work were not good, and did fail all the tests and exams. however, i didnt get support from dad and he was always complaining me. while i picked up a math book or anything like exercises book, i would be bored in secs. i was really jealous the people who got great scores just like u see the fellow in York. anyways, i think urserlf, should be really waked up and kinda 'FORCE' urserlf to do some REAL efforst on course. Dont fix urself into that negative people. when i was in six form, i was 'forcing' myself to be good and i was definitely sure i could be top. then i did and im the top right now. Start to do some work from now, even u r going to be mad or bored, hold on and keep doing it.

Its worth do to it
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(Original post by cymruambyth)
I'm in the third week of my second term at university, and so far I've been loving it. But now the honeymoon period is over and the sudden realisation that I actually have to be able to help myself and learn all by myself has set in.

I had a lot of reading to do last term, but only did about a tenth of it. So, as you can imagine, my exams didn't go too well in the first week of this term, which sucks because they count for a quater of the first year, which itself counts for a third of my total degree. I've also been getting D's and E's in my assignments (non-assessed, thank God). I feel like a complete failure.

I always thought that I'd be really studious at university and be able to juggle a social life and academic responsibilities, but it's gone completely wrong for me. I've never been as depressed as I was at the end of last term. I was missing seminars, lectures, homeworks, just generally in a huge mess. I went to see my supervisor, and I swore I'd change this term. But so far, that hasn't happened either.

When I pick up a book and start reading, I immediately convince myself that I'm not going to be able to understand anything, and so I never carry on. I'm completely down and negative about everything at the moment, even about the way I think.

It's not even as though I miss my family and taking care of myself away from home, I've always been a negative person, it was the way I was brought up. I got AAA at A-level, so it's not as though I'm not capable of sitting down and revising hard. I'm feeling tense all the time, and it's affecting the way I feel about myself and my friends.

I'm always playing catch-up with myself, and I know that if I don't start knuckling down soon, I'm gonna fail my summer exams and get thrown out of this place. I never want that to happen, yet still, I never do anything to stop it. It's an inbuilt negativity that stops me from achieving anything right now.

I spend hours and hours every day just doing small, insignificant things (e.g., chatting on MSN, watching films, sleeping, thinking). I haven't achieved anything worthwhile this way and it makes me feel crap inside, because I know I should be working. And pretty soon I start slipping down a spiral of shame and self-hate and negitivity.

I see the other people on the corridor working and getting good grades, I just wish I could be a good, well-rounded student. But I have too many hang-ups at the moment to make myself become the person I want to be.

I just don't know where to go from now, or whether it's too late to start anew and catch up with the reading. I just don't have the skill or the discipline to get myself into a proper routine and be forceful with myself.

I feel like crap .....

university is all about ebcoming more independant and working hard with out relying on some one to keeping pushing you like they probably did in schoo, but if u feel u need this, try to get a tutor or talk to ur lecturer or some one about ur problems. Perhaps u shudtalk 2 ur friends and organise study sessions where u can all study together and ask each other for help. NEVER HAVE A NEGATIUVE ATTITUDE. it wont get u anywhere! u shud always read a book and think and know u can do it, and if undont understand it, dont give up! ask some one for help, no matter where u look theres always going to be some one willing to help. u sou8nd like a hard working person and its obvious ur worried about failing, so dont just sit around, get off this computer and go study! read through all uyr past work, and look it up in books to find out things, if u dont understand something, look it up or ask some one and wirte it down, and re read it over like everyday so u know its drummed into ur mind, just have a positive attitude, cause u will do fine ok!.say it! I WILL DO FINE!!
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Does anyone find the amount of work really demotivating? I might get told to read 10 chapters in a fortnight for one of my 6 modules, and there's no way on earth I'm even going to come close, and it just feels really discouraging.
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Are you in Halifax college? Like I said last night I know exactly how youre feeling, at the end of last term I was ready to pack my bags and leave York all together, I was finding the course hard and uninteresting and consequently quickly fell behind, my supervisor showed me my attendance sheet at the end of the term, Id been to 3/18 Mechanics lectures and 8/17 Physics of Matter lectures or something stupid like that!!

I also felt as if I knew nobody except for the people in my own house last term, which is the thing that really got me down quite a bit, now all the hardwork I put in last term meeting people and stuff is really paying off and Im having a much much better time.

You just need to make a real effort to meet new people, I know its ****, and really draining, but its worth it in the end.
Nah, I'm in the 'mighty' Goodricke, sharing a bathroom and kitchen with 17 people! This could be another reason for the constant distraction.

I knew you were having doubts about staying here too Narb, so it's cool to know that someone feels the same about the workload, etc. But it could also be something to do with the uni itself, this place feels a bit intimidating sometimes ... what u think?
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I think most students, me included know how you feel. There is a lot of work and because nobody is pushing you and there are less deadlines it's difficult to stick to.

First of all you are not a failure, just look at your A Level grades. It's strange being a small fish in a big pond at university, compared with at college/school, and a few bad grades doesn't mean you're not going to do well. It takes time to adjust so try and learn from your mistakes and get feedback on where you are going wrong.

Try giving yourself a reward programme where you set goals for learning targets and when you reach them, go out, have a chocolate bar, watch a film. It is easy to waste time at uni, try and be proactive and get stuff done workwise then do things you enjoy.

Have cool stationary and colourful notes to try make revision somewhat more interesting.
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poor little baby.. feel kinda sorry 4 u... i think u need to find a hard working friend who isn't as indolent as you are for profound motivation..
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Does anyone find the amount of work really demotivating? I might get told to read 10 chapters in a fortnight for one of my 6 modules, and there's no way on earth I'm even going to come close, and it just feels really discouraging.
Prof. Andrew Denham specifically said that they don't REALLY expect Politics students at Nottingham to do all the reading they're set..
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What subject are you doing?
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Prof. Andrew Denham specifically said that they don't REALLY expect Politics students at Nottingham to do all the reading they're set..
Ooh, I had him for a lecture the other day. His module, the reading isn't all that bad though, with a bit more motivation I could probably manage it. It's Global Politics that's impossible.
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I'm trying to do major catch-up tonight...hence I'm wasting time on the forum!

If only I was reading something interesting, motivation would be so much easier...

*returns to 20 page chapter on administrative tribunals and the Parliamentary Ombudsman*
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Well you've recognised that theres a problem and it needs sorting out, which is the first step. You really need to get yourself organised and into some sort of a routine. Right out a list of all you need to do and when it has to be done by, then right up some sort of timetable so you don't rush all of your work just to get it done, but actually do it well and get the recognition you deserve for it. If you get on with your work and get a majority of it finished and you still feel upset talk to your personal tutor or friends and family. Hope that helps!
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