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Dreaming of having numerous affairs? watch

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    Please keep this anon because my boyfriend comes on here sometimes and I wouldn't want him to think I'm getting ideas about this sort of thing for real.

    Recently over the past few days I keep having really explicit dreams about having sex/doing sexual things with other men secretly (in real life I don't know these men and at the time of the dream they are just random people/flings).

    The dream I had last night was where I was with another man and my boyfriend was in the room next door at the time we were doing things.

    I found the dream exciting whilst I was asleep but when I woke up I felt awfully guilty.

    I love my partner so much and I would never want to have an affair with him. I can't understand what it is and why it keeps happening lately. Since the dreams it is making the idea of being with other men seem exciting and I feel really ashamed, is this normal? I have been with my boyfriend for a long time and I'd hate to think I'm starting to lose feelings for him.

    He lives a long way away as we go to different unis so I don't see him much but I wouldn't say our love has weakened, at least not mentally.

    In the dreams I have, during the 'acts' with other men, I am oddly enough thinking about my boyfriend (during the dream) but I still carry on and do things due to temptation...??? I'm not one to believe in dream analogies but this is freaking me out a bit, do i subconsciously crave another man or what? I don't know!
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    I think you are subconscionsly aware that the distance between you and ur bf is getting to you. no good with dream analysis but i think you feel guilty of betraying ur bf..not as severe as in ur dreams obviously but maybe theres certain guys you talk 2 at uni who ur bf may not approve of or u hav flirted with someone else. just a suggestion.
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    I don't think dreams should be read into too much. They are just an amalgamation of events that have occurred in your life and thoughts in your mind...(thoughts you wouldn't necessarily go through with in real life!)
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    true but there still worth thinking about.
    I once had a dream i was stuck in them hamster tubes and someone was chasing me and it was dark lol.. and supposedly that was due to stress of exams and that if i stopped trying something bad would happen. fitted really
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    It's a common fantasy. You can always fulfil it in a role play! :nod:
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    u can dream as much as u want hun, as long as ur not acting on it..i do that sort of thiing too .. its just sexual frustration i reckon. i think u mite be attracted to other men, but u clearly love ur other half .. try see him more often
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    u can dream as much as u want hun, as long as ur not acting on it..i do that sort of thiing too .. its just sexual frustration i reckon. i think u mite be attracted to other men, but u clearly love ur other half .. try see him more often

    Thanks that's really sweet of you!
    I do love my other half a lot! I wish I could see him more but not really possible at the moment with distance and work.
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    (Original post by Erradhadh)
    It's a common fantasy. You can always fulfil it in a role play! :nod:

    How would I go about doing that? I can't just say to him 'Would you mind acting as another man?' That would really hurt him

    ??? I don't know :\
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How would I go about doing that? I can't just say to him 'Would you mind acting as another man?' That would really hurt him

    ??? I don't know :\
    Well don't phrase it like that.

    Say that it's always been a fantasy of yours to be picked up in a classy place by some charming stranger...(a pause)...and you certainly are charming... stranger... (I wouldn't say it exactly like that, that last bit is awful, but you understand what I'm getting at!) It really matters how your relationship is sexually, though.

    Don't say, "I really want a one night stand." :no: (Obviously!)
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    (Original post by Erradhadh)
    Well don't phrase it like that.

    Say that it's always been a fantasy of yours to be picked up in a classy place by some charming stranger...(a pause)...and you certainly are charming... stranger... (I wouldn't say it exactly like that, that last bit is awful, but you understand what I'm getting at!) It really matters how your relationship is sexually, though.

    Don't say, "I really want a one night stand." :no: (Obviously!)

    that made me smile! But yes, we are very open sexually I think he's be okay with that just as long as it didn't seem like I had a certain other guy in mind. (which i dont).
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    maybe u shud have more phone sex with him .. and try to imagine him. i dont think ur wrong for having these dreams, plenty of ppl in relationships have dreams like that or they watch porn..i.e. not just thinking about their partner all the time.. doesnt mean they love them any less .. dw about it .. just enjoy the dreams lol and enjoy the time u do get with ur bf, i know its hard ina long distance relationship..but when u see him u''ll forget about these dreams.
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    How was your relationship with your dad, if you don't mind me asking?
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    (Original post by Darkel)
    How was your relationship with your dad, if you don't mind me asking?
    Sorry but what makes you ask this? I hope your not implying something sickening?
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    maybe u shud have more phone sex with him .. and try to imagine him. i dont think ur wrong for having these dreams, plenty of ppl in relationships have dreams like that or they watch porn..i.e. not just thinking about their partner all the time.. doesnt mean they love them any less .. dw about it .. just enjoy the dreams lol and enjoy the time u do get with ur bf, i know its hard ina long distance relationship..but when u see him u''ll forget about these dreams.
    thanks, you have good ideas
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    i had a dream just like this. i was with this woman (in fact it was the blond one from newsnight. i'd fallen asleep during it so she was fresh in mind!) and having really steamy roleplay and then just before we had sex i went into the next room to check my gf was still asleep!

    didnt feel guilty tho. it's just a dream you fools
 
 
 
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