I’m not really sure what’s been going on between me and my girlfriend. All of this week, whenever I’ve called her, she always says ‘I’m busy, can we talk later’ it happened so much this week that I’m beginning to think she doesn’t actually want to talk to me. I had an exam today, and she hasn’t asked me yet how I did, and she knew it was today, and she knows how driven I am to get decent grades this year. I’ve called her twice today, once she said she was busy, could we talk later, the second time she said there were ‘people around’ so she didn’t want to talk, and she wanted to talk later. She did however, wish me a good time tonight.
I don’t want to give a false impression of things. Yesterday she txt me while I was in a seminar, and I forgot to text her back. I tried to ring her 4 times but to no avail, then I got a call at 4am this morning saying she’d been out and had a great time at a club she usually hates. The day before she replied to my txt saying ‘I love you’ with the same, but yesterday she didn’t. She’s also ignored ¾ of the txts I’ve sent her today. The only one she replied to was the one where I asked her if it was still ok to come see her in two weeks, because I was going to buy the train ticket. She said ‘something else might be on, can’t you wait?’ which is baffling in itself, as it was her earlier this week that was so keen for me to go to hers that week.
The last week, I’ve always ended our phone calls with ‘love you’, which is usually met with the same reply, but for the last week has been met with a murmer, if that. I know that my gf sometimes has trouble expressing her feelings in public, so I’m torn between thinking this is one of those times, or thinking she doesn’t love me anymore
Another major change in the last week, is that she’s changed to a different pill. I know how much one pill can effect her, because this is the second time she’s changed since I’ve been seeing her. Has this got something to do with it?
She’s mentioned a couple of times since September that she’s been thinking about being young and trying to do with it what she can and be a ‘young person’ she also told me it was probably a phase she’s going through, and she’ll get out of it. I should add that I’m the first boyfriend she has had.
She’s not the kind to cheat, and if she had wanted out of our relationship, I’m 99% sure she would have said.
I know she’s busy at this time of year, and so am I, but I’m still really worried that she’s beginning to have doubts about our relationship. It’d kill me if that were the case.
Please, people of TSR help me? Am I being irrational and making something out of nothing, or does this look the end of a relationship to you?
Any other questions, please let me know…
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- 14-11-2008 23:56
- 15-11-2008 00:27
When in doubt, don't carry on with whatever you are doubting.
- 15-11-2008 00:34
I was in the same situation, was in a LDR, she couldn't love me anymore then out of the blue although the signs above were there she lost all feelings for me, we broke up when i went up to see her!!!
I'm not trying to put you down or anything but if she's the kind of girl thats not extremely confident or doesn't want to hurt you she may find it difficult to tell you over the phone and may want a couple weeks to make her mind up, that might be why she didn't want you too come up....
I was also the first love....
- 15-11-2008 00:37
Talk to her about the matter? And if you can't because she's hard to get a hold of, send her a text saying you need a serious talk with her, and if she doesn't get back, you know how she really feels.
- 15-11-2008 00:38
It doesn't sound good.
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- 15-11-2008 00:39
YEah you need to talk to her, tell her that putting it off is not helping.
- 15-11-2008 12:00
i should probably add that when i saw her two weeks ago, she was booking tickets for me and her to go to london at xmas.
she also called me last night and we spoke for nigh on 10 mins, but i can't remember what about because i was drunk =(
- 15-11-2008 13:36
Seeing as she said she loves you in one of the messages you shouldn't worry. You don't need to say it to each other every day Sounds like she's just got a load of other stuff on at the moment.
- 15-11-2008 13:40
It does not sound good at all tbh. That was exactly how I treated my ex before I broke up with him. He was my first too
I think you should start preparing yourself for that fact
- 15-11-2008 13:42
I think its probable being stuck in my uni room with nothing to do and nothing else to think about is probably making me paranoid.
- 15-11-2008 19:54
quite possibly, oh well! If it ends it ends, if it don't it don't! Good luck anyway!
- 15-11-2008 20:07
Those are signs of it ending mate. Although you shouldnt stress out over them, and i didnt my last relationship, but yeah she broke up with me. For a **** reason at that. Thing is, my best mate always was a player with girls. He told me, man, if you ever see those signs, break up with her. Shes either going to break up with you, or shes not as interested in you any more hence why shes acting like this. Either way, your better off. You have to choose when to end it, or its gonna be bad for you. Thats what he said. Take it or leave it :P
P.S - I didn't take his advice, and i regreted it badly.