Does playing hard to get work?

I'm not talking about anything drastic here by the way. I met this guy I like recently, we've seen each other out clubbing a couple of times and we've got on really well and have been texting once or twice a week. I just don't want to seem desperate at all. Do you think that if I show interest in general, but do little things to show I'm not too keen (like occasionally wait a while to reply to his text, or be the one to end our text/msn conversations) that it will get him more interested? I know what I've described isn't really playing 'hard to get', just not seeming too obsessed. It's just that when I've liked guys in the past, if they don't reply to my text, I get slightly worried and wonder if they like me or not, and when they do reply I'm relieved and more interested than before. So I wondering if it's just me that feels like this!

Reply 1

KayleeLand

16

NO. playing games never works. its childish.

Reply 2

amrizzle

Don't be easy, but don't play games either.

Make your intentions clear enough and if he's up for it he should make the move!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

amrizzle

Don't be easy, but don't play games either.

Make your intentions clear enough and if he's up for it he should make the move!

DO you think what I described sounds about right? I mean making an effort most of the time, but not all the time. What would you consider to be easy/desperate in terms of texting?

Reply 4

StotheL

Indirectly make it clear that you're interested, but really avoid being too OTT i.e. replying to messages instantly, rambling on for ages in messages about nonsense, always asking him what he's doing. It sounds childish, I know we shouldn't play games, but come on, who really wants someone to text them back within one or two minutes of sending the message? I guess we all play 'games' to a degree it's whether it's intentional or not.

Reply 5

amrizzle

Anonymous

DO you think what I described sounds about right? I mean making an effort most of the time, but not all the time. What would you consider to be easy/desperate in terms of texting?

Well not every guy is the same, but I'd normally look for the girl to give me the go ahead. So if you're making some sort of effort most of but not all the time, I'd say that was good.

If a girl was texting me every night and being too forward then I'd get a little scared. You seem to have the right idea, just don't overthink it and keep the chat natural. If it's meant to happen and he likes you then things should work out. Just don't make it too hard because some guys get tired of the chase.

Reply 6

username47781

20

Well obviously you don't want to be too easy but playing too hard to get would certainly make me lose interest.

Reply 7

Necro Defain

11

From my experience, nao

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

StotheL

Indirectly make it clear that you're interested, but really avoid being too OTT i.e. replying to messages instantly, rambling on for ages in messages about nonsense, always asking him what he's doing. It sounds childish, I know we shouldn't play games, but come on, who really wants someone to text them back within one or two minutes of sending the message? I guess we all play 'games' to a degree it's whether it's intentional or not.

That's exactly what I meant. It might sound childish to play games, but I'm not going to text back after a minute even if I have been hoping he'd text! What other advice do you have? e.g. don't initiate a text conversation twice in a row, and that kind of thing!