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What are your rules when it comes to dating?

for example no dating someone 20 years my senior

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They can't be younger than me. It irks me out.
They have to be cat people. They have to accept that my home is my cat's home and they have the full run of it and that I see my pets as family and would do anything for them. Thankfully, my husband is a crazy cat person too :h:
No matter how attractive they look, if they aren’t fun or got something we have in common then we can’t be together
I've got quite a few. :biggrin:
I'll summarise the main ones to avoid taking over the thread.

1) Has to be a single heterosexual male at least 15 years older than me and 5'4 or taller,
2) Not a teetotaler or pacifist,
3) Must not be afraid of dogs or hostile to most dogs.
4) Must be secular with a pro-british and pro-western mindset.
5) Has to meet all my very long list of dealbreakers,
6) Must want one child and be willing to be a committed coparent for at least 16 years.
7) Have a strong work ethic and history of paid work, self employment or volunteering with uk charities that support animals/single nationality uk citizens.
8) No direct contact with parents, regular contact with close relative or enthusiasm for the extended family system.
9) Able to tolerate my best friend calmly or politely walk away from her- without resorting to accusations or any insults.
10) Ambitious.
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Original post by londonmyst
I've got quite a few. :biggrin:
I'll summarise the main ones to avoid taking over the thread.

1) Has to be a single heterosexual male at least 15 years older than me and 5'4 or taller,
2) Not a teetotaler or pacifist,
3) Must not be afraid of dogs or hostile to most dogs.
4) Must be secular with a pro-british and pro-western mindset.
5) Has to meet all my very long list of dealbreakers,
6) Must want one child and be willing to be a committed coparent for at least 16 years.
7) Have a strong wirk ethic and history of paid work, self employment or volunteering with uk charities that support animals/single nationality uk citizens.
8) No direct contact with parents, regular contact with close relative or enthusiasm for the extended family system.
9) Able to tolerate my best friend calmly or politely walk away from her- without resorting to accusations or any insults.
10) Ambitious.


Point 8, surely I’m interpreting it wrong.
Are you saying they should be estranged from their immediate and extended family?
Original post by londonmyst
I've got quite a few. :biggrin:
I'll summarise the main ones to avoid taking over the thread.

1) Has to be a single heterosexual male at least 15 years older than me and 5'4 or taller,
2) Not a teetotaler or pacifist,
3) Must not be afraid of dogs or hostile to most dogs.
4) Must be secular with a pro-british and pro-western mindset.
5) Has to meet all my very long list of dealbreakers,
6) Must want one child and be willing to be a committed coparent for at least 16 years.
7) Have a strong wirk ethic and history of paid work, self employment or volunteering with uk charities that support animals/single nationality uk citizens.
8) No direct contact with parents, regular contact with close relative or enthusiasm for the extended family system.
9) Able to tolerate my best friend calmly or politely walk away from her- without resorting to accusations or any insults.
10) Ambitious.


Now that makes me curious to hear what all those deal-breakers might be ...
Original post by Chris2892
Point 8, surely I’m interpreting it wrong.
Are you saying they should be estranged from their immediate and extended family?

Yes.
With all contact ended long before meeting me.
I have no contact with my surviving ancestors and have no desire to have any contact with a partners relatives or have the seek contact with meet mine.
Any child I have will not have any contact with grandparents on either side during childhood.
Original post by londonmyst
Yes.
With all contact ended long before meeting me.
I have no contact with my surviving ancestors and have no desire to have any contact with a partners relatives or have the seek contact with meet mine.
Any child I have will not have any contact with grandparents on either side during childhood.


I’m sure someone could respect that. I estranged from my dad later in life, and it’s a relationship I don’t really find meaningful or need to be involved in elsewhere.

Though, I’ve personally always associated a strong positive relationship with parents and siblings as one of the ways to gain confidence in someone’s ability to form healthy new and meaningful relationships.
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Original post by HollyLeafUK
Now that makes me curious to hear what all those deal-breakers might be ...

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots, theonomy or scriptural infallibility supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's, revolutionaries or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family is everything/respect agenda types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/teetotalers/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) Must be heterosexual.
19) Only guys at least 15 years older than me.
20) No anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups. 21) Must be taller than me and at least 5'4.
22) Must be fully assimilated into mainstream english society, a native english speaker and not anti-british or anti-western.
23) No guys that require daily medication.
24) No fans of: Andrew Tate, David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
25) No immigration or human rights lawyers. 26) No aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants/religious charities.
27) No pacifists. 28) No boxers, kickboxers or boxing fans.
29) No guys that want multiple children.
30) Strictly no scorpios.
31) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media. 32) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
33) No guys with exotic, reptilian or venomous pets.
34) No guys that eat raw fish, raw/medium rare meat or blood sauce. 35) No guys with political or leadership ambitions.

Ambitious, bibliophile, calm, caring, clean shaven, dog friendly, employed/history of regularly working, fully assimiliated into mainstream english culture, honest, healthy, independent, intelligent, secular, smartly dressed, strong work ethic, opposes illegal immigration and has no moral qualms with stk-syg or mandatory full life tariffs for specific crimes & serial offenders.

Not a guy who is:
A boxer, sjw, gamer, anarchist, anti-British, habitually loud, militant, overweight, very muscular, on daily medication, enabler of cults/criminals/people traffickers/religious hardliners, into plushophilia, political revolutionary, selfie obsessed, supporter of abstinence until marriage or abortion protests, teetotal, terrorist appeaser/ally/mouthpiece.
Nor a fan of eating: brussels sprouts, escargot, fugu, game, green tomato ketchup, pineapple pizza or any seafood & meat meals that are bloody/raw/medium rare/undercooked.
Original post by londonmyst
1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots, theonomy or scriptural infallibility supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's, revolutionaries or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family is everything/respect agenda types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/teetotalers/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) Must be heterosexual.
19) Only guys at least 15 years older than me.
20) No anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups. 21) Must be taller than me and at least 5'4.
22) Must be fully assimilated into mainstream english society, a native english speaker and not anti-british or anti-western.
23) No guys that require daily medication.
24) No fans of: Andrew Tate, David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
25) No immigration or human rights lawyers. 26) No aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants/religious charities.
27) No pacifists. 28) No boxers, kickboxers or boxing fans.
29) No guys that want multiple children.
30) Strictly no scorpios.
31) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media. 32) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
33) No guys with exotic, reptilian or venomous pets.
34) No guys that eat raw fish, raw/medium rare meat or blood sauce. 35) No guys with political or leadership ambitions.

Ambitious, bibliophile, calm, caring, clean shaven, dog friendly, employed/history of regularly working, fully assimiliated into mainstream english culture, honest, healthy, independent, intelligent, secular, smartly dressed, strong work ethic, opposes illegal immigration and has no moral qualms with stk-syg or mandatory full life tariffs for specific crimes & serial offenders.

Not a guy who is:
A boxer, sjw, gamer, anarchist, anti-British, habitually loud, militant, overweight, very muscular, on daily medication, enabler of cults/criminals/people traffickers/religious hardliners, into plushophilia, political revolutionary, selfie obsessed, supporter of abstinence until marriage or abortion protests, teetotal, terrorist appeaser/ally/mouthpiece.
Nor a fan of eating: brussels sprouts, escargot, fugu, game, green tomato ketchup, pineapple pizza or any seafood & meat meals that are bloody/raw/medium rare/undercooked.


Just for context, how old are you?
Original post by HollyLeafUK
Just for context, how old are you?

27.
It's quite simple
No tattoos, no piercings outside of the ear, no coloured hair, no smokers or illegal drug use, not obese or overweight and never used tiktok.
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Original post by londonmyst
1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots, theonomy or scriptural infallibility supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's, revolutionaries or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family is everything/respect agenda types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/teetotalers/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) Must be heterosexual.
19) Only guys at least 15 years older than me.
20) No anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups. 21) Must be taller than me and at least 5'4.
22) Must be fully assimilated into mainstream english society, a native english speaker and not anti-british or anti-western.
23) No guys that require daily medication.
24) No fans of: Andrew Tate, David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
25) No immigration or human rights lawyers. 26) No aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants/religious charities.
27) No pacifists. 28) No boxers, kickboxers or boxing fans.
29) No guys that want multiple children.
30) Strictly no scorpios.
31) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media. 32) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
33) No guys with exotic, reptilian or venomous pets.
34) No guys that eat raw fish, raw/medium rare meat or blood sauce. 35) No guys with political or leadership ambitions.

Ambitious, bibliophile, calm, caring, clean shaven, dog friendly, employed/history of regularly working, fully assimiliated into mainstream english culture, honest, healthy, independent, intelligent, secular, smartly dressed, strong work ethic, opposes illegal immigration and has no moral qualms with stk-syg or mandatory full life tariffs for specific crimes & serial offenders.

Not a guy who is:
A boxer, sjw, gamer, anarchist, anti-British, habitually loud, militant, overweight, very muscular, on daily medication, enabler of cults/criminals/people traffickers/religious hardliners, into plushophilia, political revolutionary, selfie obsessed, supporter of abstinence until marriage or abortion protests, teetotal, terrorist appeaser/ally/mouthpiece.
Nor a fan of eating: brussels sprouts, escargot, fugu, game, green tomato ketchup, pineapple pizza or any seafood & meat meals that are bloody/raw/medium rare/undercooked.


Why no STEM graduates?
Thats quite broad and the first time I’ve heard that.
Original post by Chris2892
Why no STEM graduates?
Thats quite broad and the first time I’ve heard that.

Not attracted to them and won't get closely involved.
I've too many very negative experiences with the stem crowd since I was a child, including half of my father's swamp of egotistical noise nuisances.
In short, do they have to be born in Britain specifically, or does anywhere else in the Western world count? How about Wales, Scotland, Ireland, or so on?

Original post by londonmyst
I've got quite a few. :biggrin:
I'll summarise the main ones to avoid taking over the thread.

1) Has to be a single heterosexual male at least 15 years older than me and 5'4 or taller,
2) Not a teetotaler or pacifist,
3) Must not be afraid of dogs or hostile to most dogs.
4) Must be secular with a pro-british and pro-western mindset.
5) Has to meet all my very long list of dealbreakers,
6) Must want one child and be willing to be a committed coparent for at least 16 years.
7) Have a strong wirk ethic and history of paid work, self employment or volunteering with uk charities that support animals/single nationality uk citizens.
8) No direct contact with parents, regular contact with close relative or enthusiasm for the extended family system.
9) Able to tolerate my best friend calmly or politely walk away from her- without resorting to accusations or any insults.
10) Ambitious.


1. May I ask why they need to be much older than you?
7. Why must they solely serve citizens, and specifically those with a singular affiliation?

Original post by londonmyst
1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots, theonomy or scriptural infallibility supporters.
4) No dogma fanatics, sjw's, revolutionaries or militant atheists.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family is everything/respect agenda types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/teetotalers/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No PhDs.
15) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
16) No bald guys.
17) No guys with facial hair or long hair.
18) Must be heterosexual.
19) Only guys at least 15 years older than me.
20) No anti-abortion absolutists, abortion protesters or financial backers of anti-abortion groups. 21) Must be taller than me and at least 5'4.
22) Must be fully assimilated into mainstream english society, a native english speaker and not anti-british or anti-western.
23) No guys that require daily medication.
24) No fans of: Andrew Tate, David Berg, David Duke, Donald Spitz, Mark Collett, Nick Griffin, Nathuram Godse, Richard Spencer, Roosh V, Volkert van der Graaf.
25) No immigration or human rights lawyers. 26) No aid workers or volunteers involved with illegal immigrants/religious charities.
27) No pacifists. 28) No boxers, kickboxers or boxing fans.
29) No guys that want multiple children.
30) Strictly no scorpios.
31) No guys that say the n word or type it over social media. 32) No guys that carry any knives outside for "protection" or trying to look like mafia types.
33) No guys with exotic, reptilian or venomous pets.
34) No guys that eat raw fish, raw/medium rare meat or blood sauce. 35) No guys with political or leadership ambitions.

Ambitious, bibliophile, calm, caring, clean shaven, dog friendly, employed/history of regularly working, fully assimiliated into mainstream english culture, honest, healthy, independent, intelligent, secular, smartly dressed, strong work ethic, opposes illegal immigration and has no moral qualms with stk-syg or mandatory full life tariffs for specific crimes & serial offenders.

Not a guy who is:
A boxer, sjw, gamer, anarchist, anti-British, habitually loud, militant, overweight, very muscular, on daily medication, enabler of cults/criminals/people traffickers/religious hardliners, into plushophilia, political revolutionary, selfie obsessed, supporter of abstinence until marriage or abortion protests, teetotal, terrorist appeaser/ally/mouthpiece.
Nor a fan of eating: brussels sprouts, escargot, fugu, game, green tomato ketchup, pineapple pizza or any seafood & meat meals that are bloody/raw/medium rare/undercooked.


14. Why can't they have PhDs?
37. What do you have against being with strong or muscular men?

In general, what are the reasons behind each of these requirements?

I'm particularly fascinated to hear the justification for your demands numbered 4, 7, 8, 13, 16, 17 of what's wrong with him having no hair, choosing to leave it longer, or bad about being bald?

21. How tall are you, personally?
22. Would you ever consider giving a chance to someone who hasn't been granted the opportunity to learn English from birth?

In your mind, what criteria is sufficient to qualify somebody as being "fully assimilated" into British society?

Furthermore, is it possible for you to additionally explain 23, 25, 27, 28, and 35?

30. Are you only including religious believers in your description here? What if a person happens to be born during that month, but fails and refuses to follow the horoscope, or even renounces it altogether?

Original post by londonmyst
Yes.
With all contact ended long before meeting me.
I have no contact with my surviving ancestors and have no desire to have any contact with a partners relatives or have the seek contact with meet mine.
Any child I have will not have any contact with grandparents on either side during childhood.

Do they have to personally refrain from ever reaching out to their own family, or would it be fine as long as they avoided contact with you and any children you may have down the road?



Original post by Chris2892
Though, I’ve personally always associated a strong positive relationship with parents and siblings as one of the ways to gain confidence in someone’s ability to form healthy new and meaningful relationships.




In my view, I'd say that it really depends on their history together, how they treat their children or younger siblings, and so forth. Some parents are not worth maintaining in touch with, particularly if it's not wholly the child's fault (while permitting for some youthful mistakes, as they're still just growing up) however, just in regards to the prevention of my line, there's honestly no point in preserving that.
1) Must be either a cisgender lesbian female or if male either cisgender asexual or gay or if transgender straight. No polyamorists either
2) Must not have own children
3) Must have their own job (I don’t date moochers or sponges)
4) I must find then attractive
5) Neurodiversity, common interests, intelligence and faith in Christianity are appreciated
6) Must not be taller than me
7) Must not be rude to service people, homeless etc
8) Must be younger or same age as me
(edited 1 year ago)
Original post by Smeraldettoi
1) Must be either a cisgender lesbian female or if male either cisgender asexual or gay or if transgender straight
2) Must not have own children
3) Must have their own job (I don’t date moochers or sponges)
4) I must find then attractive
5) Neurodiversity, common interests, intelligence and faith in Christianity are appreciated
6) Must not be taller than me
7) Must not be rude to service people, homeless etc


I'm confused. When you said they had to be both lesbian and female, I inferred that it meant you were also female yourself. However, you're saying you'd also be fine with cis men? Yet then, you'd also date gay men, which leads me to assume that you're male again? If you're asking for someone who's straight in addition to being transgender, which gender would they be?
I got one. No conservatives or hardcore traditional Christians.
Original post by HollyLeafUK
I'm confused. When you said they had to be both lesbian and female, I inferred that it meant you were also female yourself. However, you're saying you'd also be fine with cis men? Yet then, you'd also date gay men, which leads me to assume that you're male again? If you're asking for someone who's straight in addition to being transgender, which gender would they be?

I’m a female homosexual biromantic, so I find AFAB’s sexually and romantically attractive but I’m also capable of falling in love with AMAB’s although I wouldn’t be able to have sex with them.
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