Something that has puzzled me a bit in all the debates about feminism on TSR is the way that MRA's/ Anti-feminists seem to get really angry about 'unfair' treatment of women compared to men but then seem to imply the solution is to make things worse for women rather than make it better for men. I will give a couple of examples:
MRA's complain that domestic violence against men is not recognised by society and that while x amount of money is spent on facilities such as shelters for women an equal/proportiante amount of money is not spent on comparable facilities for men.
Now my response to this would be to argue that shelters for women are obviously needed and oversubscribed, they are staffed by volunteers and by people who work very hard for little reward. Their whole existance is because activists fought to get them opened and fight to keep their funding. If shelters are also needed for men then men need to fight for these shelters, secure funding and volunteers for them etc in the same way that women have. The women should share their expertise and training in order to help them do this but their priority must be to maintain the existing network.
Now my interpretation of what MRA's think is that it is unfair that these shelters exist without comparable shelters for men so the money should be redistributed and shelters should be closed down so that shelters for men can be opened.
Funding for Breast Cancer vs Prostate Cancer
MRA's complain that Breast Cancer gets much more funding than Prostate Cancer. Again I would argue the reason for this is the history of breast Cancer activism which has taken BC from something that was never talked about to one of the most recognised and supported types of cancer. Again my solution would be to increase the campainging for PC, again perhaps using techniques that could be learnt from the fundraising for different types of cancer. Whilst this might have an indirect effect of taking more money from BC (as people can only support a limited amount of causes) At least people would be choosing what to support (and I would bet that men, the primart target of PC fundraising dont actually give that much to BC)
Again the attitude of MRA's seems to be that money should be taken away from BC and given to PC instead to even things out.
To my mind this dosent make sense, surely we should be making things better for everyone, not lowering the standards for one group to make things better for another. It is a bit like saying that the solution to the problem of private schools getting better results is to abolish them rather than make other schools better.
Maybe I am misinterpreting this though? What do you think?
Indeed, I think many MRA's are as stupid as the feminists, and as misogynistic as feminists are misandristic.
But then this is inevitable when your movement only focuses on the ills towards one particular gender.
Are we talking about government funding or voluntary donation? If it's government funded then I see no moral justification for taking money from 50% of the population and spending the vast majority of it on the other 50%.
I just think they're a lot of snivelling prats with a victimhood mentality.
I dont care about mens or womens rights, we just drift to what we have always done. Men go out, kill meat, fight rivals and shag, and women perform the social/reproductive function.
I don't get angry because women have it better in some situations than men, I get angry because feminism still exists when it needn't. When our inequallities are equal there is no need for anyone to pick a side, rather they should be pushing for equality for all to make everybodies lives better. I'm sick of complete idiots saying 'but feminism is about equality for all', it certainly isn't. Want proof? What has feminism EVER done for men? Nothing. It's getting to the point where the balance is going the otherway and we need masculinism.
Well i guess thats the point of MRA's I think there is still a need for feminsim TBH, things like the pay gap (which is increasing) domestic violence/rape issues, gender stereotyping etc are still big issues. I think there are inequalities both ways but they are not on the same issues iyswim. However I think the MR movement wants to take away the gains of feminism, not promote better circumstances for men.
Yeah, I think you're right. There are certain things - such as domestic violence support and shelters for women - because they are actually needed and because people worked hard for them. It doesn't mean society has favoured women on these issues, it just means there was more demand and more people willing to put in their time and effort. If domestic violence towards men is a big issue - go out and set up shelters.
I think men who are principally concerned at those inequalities and prejudices which affect men should spend less time attacking feminism and more time actively seeking to remedy such inequalities and prejudices.
Maybe, though, it's just easier to caricature and attack feminism and women than actually do something constructive for men instead?