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A month into Uni and I've become really shy

I moved to uni a month ago, and I have made a few friends, but none that I meet much at all outside of lectures. When I'm not studying, I have nothing to do and I have become really shy and awkward. I used to love meeting new people but since I moved to uni, I can't talk to people and I feel really overwhelmed. My mental health has declined rapidly in the last couple weeks and I honestly don't know what to do
What hobbies and interests do you have? I'd suggest you see if there's a university society for any of them (several of them would be better) and go along.
Original post by Anonymous
I moved to uni a month ago, and I have made a few friends, but none that I meet much at all outside of lectures. When I'm not studying, I have nothing to do and I have become really shy and awkward. I used to love meeting new people but since I moved to uni, I can't talk to people and I feel really overwhelmed. My mental health has declined rapidly in the last couple weeks and I honestly don't know what to do


Hi there,

Its completely normal to feel overwhelmed after joining uni, I felt the same in my first few months. It took some time and I only really started feeling close to people in my second year! Like @skylark2 says societies are a great way of meeting new people :smile: If you are continuing to struggle with your mental health I would recommend contacting the university.

Best wishes,
Eloise
I look back on my time at uni as a wonderful time of carefree socialising and meeting great people.

In reality, and especially in my first year, there were times I was lonely and struggling to find my place. Relax, this is a big change for you. Don’t feel like everything should click into place right away. It feels different in my recollections, but I didn’t actual meet my closest friends at uni until the start of second year.

(Even then, there are always ups and downs!)
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Original post by Anonymous
I moved to uni a month ago, and I have made a few friends, but none that I meet much at all outside of lectures. When I'm not studying, I have nothing to do and I have become really shy and awkward. I used to love meeting new people but since I moved to uni, I can't talk to people and I feel really overwhelmed. My mental health has declined rapidly in the last couple weeks and I honestly don't know what to do


Hi!

It’s a pretty normal experience to feel lonely and struggle when you first start uni, it’s such a new experience and even in my second-year, I get with bouts of loneliness at times.
I’d say to just give it a chance and stick with it! Maybe try joining societies for certain things you like, invite your uni friends to meet-ups in cafes or to the pub or something!

I hope this helps :smile:

Estelle
Second Year Psychology
University of Huddersfield
Original post by Anonymous
I moved to uni a month ago, and I have made a few friends, but none that I meet much at all outside of lectures. When I'm not studying, I have nothing to do and I have become really shy and awkward. I used to love meeting new people but since I moved to uni, I can't talk to people and I feel really overwhelmed. My mental health has declined rapidly in the last couple weeks and I honestly don't know what to do

Hi there

Its completely normal for it to take some time to adjust to a new environment and get into a good routine. It is also perfectly okay to be feeling anxious about meeting people. I want to make it clear that you are not alone in feeling this way and there is a network of support around you to help you through this adjustment period. If you feel that you are struggling in any way then please reach out to the wellbeing team at your uni and they should provide you with support and guidance.
Secondly have you thought about joining a society? There are usually a variety of societies to cater to everyones interests so you might find something that you like the look of or something new that you could try. I know it can be difficult to go and meet people especially the first time but these societies are designed to welcome new members and provide an inclusive environment. You can always just give it a go and if you don't like it then there is no obligation to stay. It is completely understandable for you to be feeling overwhelmed especially this early on into uni, my advice is genuinely to try and be patient and open to meeting new people. Most friendships will be awkward at the start and that is fine, these things take time to develop so try and not put too much pressure on yourself to make solid friends. You will constantly meet people throughout your time at uni so there is no obligation to find your 'group' right now. Focus on your studies and try and push yourself to do one or two social things a week. You said you have friends on your course... maybe you could exchange contact details next time you see them and ask if they want to go out for a drink or meal?

Hope this helps

Best wishes

Joanna
-Uni of Kent Rep :smile:

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