Removed from group chat

On the first few days of uni I ended up speaking to a group of girls who seemed nice. They made a group chat that day and I was looking forward to getting to know them better.

However, I got a bit of a feeling that they’d already formed a clique and were being more friendly with one another rather than me. Didn’t reply to my messages etc. Also, I have a lot going on so wasn’t always on the group chat but they never asked me if I wanted to join them. Anyways fast forward I saw that I was removed from the group chat.

I feel that what they did was rude and I felt upset by it. Before this happened I thought maybe I could go to societies with them etc but it seems they don’t want me to be part of their group.

Any advice on what I should do?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Am I the only one who thinks that kind of behaviour is immature?

Reply 2

Billy Wildefield

7

Original post

by Anonymous

On the first few days of uni I ended up speaking to a group of girls who seemed nice. They made a group chat that day and I was looking forward to getting to know them better.

However, I got a bit of a feeling that they’d already formed a clique and were being more friendly with one another rather than me. Didn’t reply to my messages etc. Also, I have a lot going on so wasn’t always on the group chat but they never asked me if I wanted to join them. Anyways fast forward I saw that I was removed from the group chat.

I feel that what they did was rude and I felt upset by it. Before this happened I thought maybe I could go to societies with them etc but it seems they don’t want me to be part of their group.

Any advice on what I should do?

They don’t seem like people you need to be with to be honest. Meet new people, make the friends you deserve and make you feel appreciated.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Yeah I feel that they’ve shown they aren’t very nice people so I guess it’s a good thing I found out sooner rather than later.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

It’s just that now I know what they’ve done, it will feel awkward if I see them in societies etc.
I know they are in some of the same societies as me, how do I deal with that?

Reply 5

the bear

20

just move on to some nicer people and forget about these silly strumpets.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Original post

by Anonymous

On the first few days of uni I ended up speaking to a group of girls who seemed nice. They made a group chat that day and I was looking forward to getting to know them better.

However, I got a bit of a feeling that they’d already formed a clique and were being more friendly with one another rather than me. Didn’t reply to my messages etc. Also, I have a lot going on so wasn’t always on the group chat but they never asked me if I wanted to join them. Anyways fast forward I saw that I was removed from the group chat.

I feel that what they did was rude and I felt upset by it. Before this happened I thought maybe I could go to societies with them etc but it seems they don’t want me to be part of their group.

Any advice on what I should do?

cant lie it seems that youd be treated like trash if they kept you with them so its a good thing you're not with them anymore. you're worth more than them. you'll find another friend group that treats you better.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for the advice everyone. I’m just going to try and ignore them, they aren’t worth my attention.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

At first I was thinking I should say that I saw they removed me to see what they have to say, but now I think I’ll just leave it.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

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by Anonymous

At first I was thinking I should say that I saw they removed me to see what they have to say, but now I think I’ll just leave it.

Don't. It won't help you, and might even make you feel worse. They've clearly demonstrated they aren't good for you so move on.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post

by Anonymous

Don't. It won't help you, and might even make you feel worse. They've clearly demonstrated they aren't good for you so move on.

That’s true, thanks for the advice.

Reply 11

TheLawStudenttt

8

Damn that is rude and childish. Pretty cowardly as well.

You don't need to be friends with the first people you come across, they're definitely not the type of people you want to be friends with. Block them, avoid them, join some some societies to meet new friends. University is already a lot - you don't want to be around toxic people and make it 10x harder.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post

by TheLawStudenttt

Damn that is rude and childish. Pretty cowardly as well.

You don't need to be friends with the first people you come across, they're definitely not the type of people you want to be friends with. Block them, avoid them, join some some societies to meet new friends. University is already a lot - you don't want to be around toxic people and make it 10x harder.

That’s exactly how I felt, it was rude and childish and tbh I felt hurt by it when it happened. I thought people were more mature at uni.
Also, I’m going through a lot right now. Sadly lost a loved one this summer so I don’t need mean people in my life.

Reply 13

TheLawStudenttt

8

Original post

by Anonymous

That’s exactly how I felt, it was rude and childish and tbh I felt hurt by it when it happened. I thought people were more mature at uni.
Also, I’m going through a lot right now. Sadly lost a loved one this summer so I don’t need mean people in my life.

I'm sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, there are mature and immature people everywhere - at university, in the workplace. It's life. I too thought people would be mature at university and I still feel as if I'm surrounded by a few 14/15 year olds. Don't get me wrong, I've met a lot of lovely people - but there are still people who act like teenagers. Such as the girls you came across. It's just one of those things you have to deal with, but you don't have to deal with these girls. They're clearly not kind and eventually that sort of behaviour won't strengthen whatever friendships they create anyway. Trust me, by the end of the year their friendship will either be over - or full of toxicity and problems. Think of it as a lucky escape, no matter how much it hurts - you'll eventually get over it.

Reply 14

Billy Wildefield

7

Original post

by Anonymous

Yeah I feel that they’ve shown they aren’t very nice people so I guess it’s a good thing I found out sooner rather than later.

Yeah exactly, fewer feelings hurt. Take care, my friend. You’ll find your people.

Reply 15

Anonymous #3

Original post

by Anonymous

On the first few days of uni I ended up speaking to a group of girls who seemed nice. They made a group chat that day and I was looking forward to getting to know them better.
However, I got a bit of a feeling that they’d already formed a clique and were being more friendly with one another rather than me. Didn’t reply to my messages etc. Also, I have a lot going on so wasn’t always on the group chat but they never asked me if I wanted to join them. Anyways fast forward I saw that I was removed from the group chat.
I feel that what they did was rude and I felt upset by it. Before this happened I thought maybe I could go to societies with them etc but it seems they don’t want me to be part of their group.
Any advice on what I should do?

Hi there I am new here then and when I was in a group chat with all my friends then they make me feel bad and crying too and they left me out of there conversation too and they keeps on removing me from it then and I am really sad because they don’t cares about my feelings then and I am trying to be add back to it then and they do it every night at half 6 then and they think I was on another call with my friend then and then they don’t want me to talking to my other friend then and can you help me with it please.

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