(Original post by bluelou)
thankyou, yeah that is really true
i was worrying abou tit all summer because i didnt know whether to leave or go, and then just from nerves when it came down to it i stayed where i was. and yeah i do know what you mean it obviously isn't amazing amazing there but the fact they always go on abou tit is hard, and i think with me yeah thats exactly right i miss the like classroom atmosphere, and having 6 lessons a week on my own, another 6 where its me and people that wont talk to me no matter what because theyre too shy or whatever, it's just hard. because last year i was naturally i dont knowmore involved with likieeveryone and i guess i was kind of one of the disrupters which i know isn't a good thing but it wasn't like all the time, and i came away with good grades bcause i taught myself at the end like crammed, and i did work hard with homeworks through the year i just didn't understand that much in some lessons.
would it be ag ood idea to try another week where i am and raelly think about it? because if the college do offer me a place and i'm not sure it would be a bit of a pisstake right? i just hope this gets better. i've been told it gets better quickly but the thing is it hasn't yet and i've just been gettingmore deopressed and more shy. and also like pepole who liked me last year now have decided they don't simply because i am at sixth form, like forgetting all that i was and just labelling me like that, so it's not lie i can meet up with alot of them out of school, so it's not really an answer. i just see the same odd 1 or 2 people out of school from college and just yeah. okay im not sure if that makes much sense it's more just a rant to get things clear in my head. thanks again you can have some rep lol
Do the people in your lessons not talk to you at all, or just not during lessons? If they don't talk at all, maybe you could listen to what they do say and find out what they are interested in or passionate about. That way you know something to start a conversation. If they don't talk in lessons perhaps they feel that being in a lesson equates to sitting in silence being lectured at, or are you trying to have conversations about things other than the lesson? If they are really conscientious they may not appreciate any topic that isn't relevant to what they are learning, or find it distracts them so they learn less. In this case you could try discussing the ins and outs of the topic with them, giving them an alternative viewpoint.
You say you were involved with everyone last year - does that include the people in your lessons now? People are very fixed in their viewpoints, if you are from a popular crowd and they aren't, they may feel you are being intrusive by trying to be friends with them when you may not have been before. They may even resent you, because from their point of view all your friends have left, so now you want them, but they are second best.
Getting depressed and shy isn't the answer, because whether you stay or go it will affect your friendships. I know it's hard, but you need to make a conscious effort to be friendly, open and happy. Be yourself - people obviously like who you are.
As for those waste of spacers that call themselves your ex-friends, forget about them! If their image and imagined superiority is more important to them then they aren't very good friends anyway. You have your whole life to think of, so if the sixth form will make your future look better than the college, then don't let them ruin that. Let them be smug with their in'ness, you'll get your chance when you are earning more than they are.
The majority on your poll is for you to stay. It may not be what you want to hear, but at least think about why people are saying that you should stay.
Hope some of this helps a little!