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    ive just spent the evening with my new bf (been together about 3weeks)
    ever since we've been together we have been giving hand jobs etc.
    but tonight it took so long and in the end he didn't come and we just gave up....
    he kept on telling me how he wanted it and i did as he said but still nothing. after we'd gave up he kept saying about because i was getting tired and "blaming" it on me

    hes left now, but its made me feel really down about it... (i havent been sexual with another boy before)

    can anyone shed any light on what happened? how am i supposed to feel? i feel like **** to be honest.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ive just spent the evening with my new bf (been together about 3weeks)
    ever since we've been together we have been giving hand jobs etc.
    but tonight it took so long and in the end he didn't come and we just gave up....
    he kept on telling me how he wanted it and i did as he said but still nothing. after we'd gave up he kept saying about because i was getting tired and "blaming" it on me

    hes left now, but its made me feel really down about it... (i havent been sexual with another boy before)

    can anyone shed any light on what happened? how am i supposed to feel? i feel like **** to be honest.
    Lol, don't worry about it ! It can happen regardless of how turned on he is/how well you perform. Blaming it on you was not very kind, mind you.
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    ohhh! Hun! Don't feel rubbish, and don't let him make you feel like that. Everything takes practice, you'll be pro at HJs before you know it. And anyway, learning how to please your partner is half the fun of it.

    I don't think it's anything more fundamental than being new to sexual things, to be honest. Don't sweat it.
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    i mean we've done it plenty of times before where he's come everytime so its just this once..... :s
    he said he didnt know why...but then started saying about positions and stuff asif i was the one telling him where to go!
    he really tired me out and he was just saying that i was the one tiring HIM out, its totally crushed my confidence
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    Sounds like an ass to me. Next time he says stuff like that just tell him to piss off and do it himself

    It happens, its a good thing for a guy when hes having sex sometimes.. =D
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    Maybe he was blaming you because he was feeling so inadequate since he couldn't get 'off' (perhaps due to stress or something is bothering him, etc.) He might not mean it, but he just doesn't want you thinking he's the one with a problem.
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    Maybe he just wasn't in the mood and was embarrassed at not being able to come, especially as you're a fairly new relationship.
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    Ive never come from a handjob from my girlfriend.
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    **NEWS FLASH!!**

    men dont always have to ***!
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    (Original post by pink_lucie)
    **NEWS FLASH!!**

    men dont always have to ***!
    :ditto:, if both of you are having fun why bother with orgasms, he can always do it himself or achieve through other means e.g. dry humping

    Anyway... my approach for when this happens is to have her stop for a moment, go back to kissing and heavy making out for a bit, then pick things up a few minutes later.
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    (Original post by RightSaidJames)
    :ditto:, if both of you are having fun why bother with orgasms, he can always do it himself or achieve through other means e.g. dry humping

    Anyway... my approach for when this happens is to have her stop for a moment, go back to kissing and heavy making out for a bit, then pick things up a few minutes later.
    Scorn @ dry humping.
 
 
 
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