Why does everyone else still have their parents but I don't?

I am 17 and my mom died the day after I was born aged 27 and my dad died when I was 9 aged 41. After my mom died my dad gave me and two of my sisters up and my moms mom took me in and I still live her now. I have three older full sisters one who is now married but was brought up with my uncle dad's brother, one who is living with my dad's parents and one who was brought up in foster care after my dad died. However, my dad remarried a year later and had four more children however, only one is still alive as the rest died as babies. What upsets me the most is that he was gave me and my sisters up but was willing to raise other children with another woman. Why couldn't me and my sisters get that? As I have gotten older I have gotten more aware of this seeing people with both parents and siblings and I ask myself why couldn't I get that? Why are everyone else's parents still alive but mine aren't? I feel different because of this and it really hurts, is this normal?

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PinkMobilePhone

22

I'm really sorry you lost your parents from a young age, that must have been really difficult for you.
There's not much I can say to justify your situation - it's not fair but it's nobody's fault. Life just sometimes is like that for some people, there's no explanation, no rationale behind it. It's just the way it is.
If you can, try to focus more on the positive things in your life rather than dwelling on not having parents, because that is a situation that unfortunately cannot be changed. You clearly have a loving maternal grandmother who has raised you all your life, which is a blessing in itself.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by PinkMobilePhone

I'm really sorry you lost your parents from a young age, that must have been really difficult for you.
There's not much I can say to justify your situation - it's not fair but it's nobody's fault. Life just sometimes is like that for some people, there's no explanation, no rationale behind it. It's just the way it is.
If you can, try to focus more on the positive things in your life rather than dwelling on not having parents, because that is a situation that unfortunately cannot be changed. You clearly have a loving maternal grandmother who has raised you all your life, which is a blessing in itself.

What upsets me most is that my dad gave us up just like that. Even though he died when I was 9 why couldn't he have raised me for those 9 years but could raise other children?

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londonmyst

19

Try to focus on all the best memories of your childhood and the positive things in your life. :smile:

Nobody can choose or change their past.
Only decide whether they want to learn from elements of it or leave it behind them to focus on building the happy future life that they want.
People can choose their closest friends and who they want to call family, regardless of surname or whether they are biologically related.

Plenty of people do not have caring parents or grow up in a safe and happy environment.
Some people are orphaned young and can barely remember their parents.
Others are victims of horrifying child abuse and wish that they had never known their parents or even been born.
Many more people have very controlling parents who view them as free servants or an investment who will be paying for them to have a comfortable old age after surviving decades of horrid parental bullying & disruptive behaviour.

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ZacDuncan

6

Original post by Anonymous

I am 17 and my mom died the day after I was born aged 27 and my dad died when I was 9 aged 41. After my mom died my dad gave me and two of my sisters up and my moms mom took me in and I still live her now. I have three older full sisters one who is now married but was brought up with my uncle dad's brother, one who is living with my dad's parents and one who was brought up in foster care after my dad died. However, my dad remarried a year later and had four more children however, only one is still alive as the rest died as babies. What upsets me the most is that he was gave me and my sisters up but was willing to raise other children with another woman. Why couldn't me and my sisters get that? As I have gotten older I have gotten more aware of this seeing people with both parents and siblings and I ask myself why couldn't I get that? Why are everyone else's parents still alive but mine aren't? I feel different because of this and it really hurts, is this normal?

I dont have parents either, they gave me away when I was four, now my mum wants to start to meet me again after 11 years, but I'm refusing to see her, she used to abuse me and sexually assault me, she assaulted a 4 year old, this is the reason I don't want to see her ever again

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