How do I stop feeling like this?

Hey guys I am after some advice please?

Basically I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks and it's been really nice. We had known each other before and had even tried seeing each other a few years ago but he cheated on me. Now it is different, he is actually making an effort and taking me out and treating me well but I can't shake these negative feelings I have been having.

I am scared that he is seeing someone else as well, even though we haven't discussed what we are or what is happening I still don't like the thought of him seeing other people. I am really paranoid it is this one girl who he saw before me, she is stunning and recently moved away. She has now moved back here and I am scared he has started seeing her again.

I don't know what to do? Some of his stories about what he has been up to on the days that I don't see him don't add up and sometimes I don't hear from him at all.

Am I expecting too much from him? Should I just ask him if he is seeing someone else? I don't know what to do because I don't feel as if I have any right to say anything?

Reply 1

mikniuke

Heyy, is he the one that wrote here a few days ago about how to prove to his ex that he really wants to get back together? :biggrin:

If so, don't worry, he seemed really honest ;D

Reply 2

freaky_t

Hey, I remember reading that post. It was fun. :yep:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Ok...I have no idea what you are talking about but my post is serious.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Anyone have some actual advice?

Reply 5

AWZC

Feel like that instead

Reply 6

cadaeibfeceh

Yeah I think just ask him about it, if he really is making the effort as you say (and cheated before) then he should be fine with the question, and maybe see how it's justified - if not you'll always be wondering, but if you ask you'll know what's going on.

Reply 7

thatkidd

It sounds like you don't have solid foundations upon which to build a long-lasting relationship. If you can't trust him at this stage (and from what you've said he's already betrayed you), and you're this paranoid, I would seriously consider ending it. You need to find someone who you feel comfortable with - comfortable enough to trust to not go behind your back when you're not there.

If that idea isn't appealing, I would ask him, simply, where the relationship is heading. Try to find out what he wants and make sure he knows what you want :smile:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Thank you for replying. I know that feeling like this is not healthy at all, but I can't help it. I think I do need to just come out with it and ask him what's happening. At the moment he is making it sound as if I am the only girl he is seeing but there are some parts that don't add up.