I have fallen out of love with him because I cannot take his mood swings and violent nature anymore. He swears all the time, for example if we are in the supermarket he will say ******* ***** getting in my way or stupid fat hoe or ugly ****..
It makes me so upset and I wish he would stop.
He picks fights for no reason and when we argue sends me messages calling me a hoe and a ****. Would anger management work or will he always stay the same?
Yeh I pretty much have anyway. Was just wondering whether people out there have met similar people and know of ways to deal with them
Also, medical help WILL change him. It's the way his brain is programmed that causes him to be like this. With help you can get the old boyfriend back.
Kick in the nuts should do the trick
Maybe if you weren't so much of a ****** *****, he wouldn't need anger management!
I'm sorry - I couldn't resist :d
No I am not like it anymore. Funnily enough after I broke up with my ex and got help it all seemed to stop.
For me it was because I had anxiety, and in supermarkets it was bad, but I hid it from my girlfriend. So when I was frustrated I took it out on other people, and if someone looked at me funny I would cause a fight because I took things the wrong way. I was hiding alot of my inner feelings from my ex, so often other people felt it.
I also drank alot. If I had 1 can of alcohol I immediately felt as if I ruled the world. That plus my fustration caused by anxiety would cause massive problems in public around other people.
I know 100% he has deeper issues. People are not naturally like this.
Get out now seriously!!!!!!!!!!!
If you love him and want to stay with him then maybe you could tell him it's hurting you and making your life a misery the way he acts sometimes. If you have fallen out of love with him you should break up as he seems bad for you. You can't carry on being emotionally abused. Tell him you can't take the shouting, swearing and insults any more and then leave. You do deserve better.
Good luck x
Anger management probably would help him but only if he wanted to go. I know someone who was referred there, went through the motions, claimed to have changed etc.. and was just as angry as he used to be. People only change if they want to, and it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't. He may have problems but that's a reason not an excuse. You deserve to be treated with respect so I'd advise walking away.
Your boyfriend (or ex boyfriend?) sounds like an archetypal douche.
You 'fell out of love' with him? You make it sound like some sort of conscious choice.
Dear, you were never in love with him.