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    Let’s keep this short and sweet. I made a thread a while ago about me being bullied in school called ‘Is this normal?’. If you remember that thread then you will understand my situation better. I could tolerate the bullying but it has got even worse. Screw anon this time round :P

    This is what happened on Tuesday –

    -Chavs saying, “Wanna suck me ****, babe?” and “I wanna watch some hawt BBW porn with you in it!”

    - Having that freaky sexually-harassing boy stalk me for five minutes, I eventually slapped him because teachers can’t stop him from following me. He does it when they don’t notice

    -Kids laughing at my disabled mother and saying I’m disabled like her too (I have got a SEN – long story!)

    -Saying that I’m ‘retarded’ because I have a SEN. They only know this because it is mandatory to have a special needs teacher in one of my lessons within a week. Despite the fact I’m supposedly 'retarded', I’m predicted the highest grades in science, Spanish (I have... well had... verbal dyspraxia), art and in History.

    -They say that they are going to **** my dad’s corpse.

    -Saying I’m worthless because I have no friends

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m poor and have a disabled mother

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m ugly and fat (I know I’m not really ugly but I know I’m fat, I can prove via picture :P )

    -Shoved about

    -Things thrown at me

    -Poked and laughed at

    -Ignored

    -Excluded from social interaction with any group in my school year


    But it is really starting to affect me now. I feel really lonely and I am starting to feel as if I deserve to be bullied because I’m socially retarded or something. But I know I’m not socially retarded because adults really like me because they say I have a humour and intelligence beyond my age (I’m in Year 10) and also people in lower years like me because they don’t get bullied for hanging out with me. These people that bully me as well have boyfriends and girlfriends. This makes me think that I could never really get a boyfriend because I’m ‘freaky’ or ‘fat’ or something.

    I know I’m not ugly but it’s like only I believe that. That sounds stupid and arrogant but the reaction I get from my peers makes me feel really ugly. Not a single boy has even shown a bit of interest in me. They always jokingly ask me out and I’m not stupid so I know it is a joke. I bloody hate it though, it makes me feel like crap.

    I don’t know why I really posted this, I just wanted people from the past thread knowing how I am now plus I wanted to rant because I’m angry and depressed. I just wonder what I can do to deal with my low self-esteem and loneliness. Any ideas? :o:
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    I think its sad that they are still doing this

    When they say such things, like shagging your dad, why don't you call them necrophiliac or something? Or would that just worsen the situation?

    You can also try and take a jokey stance?

    You said your losing weight which is great to make you feel better, and I've said it before and I'm saying it again, size 14 is NOT fat!!!

    I'm still here if you ever wanna PM me :hugs:

    You sound like your feeling slightly better even though the situation is the same :yes:
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    Hit them.
    Report them.
    Get yourself into counselling.

    PM me whenever you want to talk.
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    Do you have any old child hood friends? You could hook up with them. Or you join a class or something like dance or you could join a gym if you are worried about your weight. That way you would make friends and improve your body. As for boys the right one will come along. You don't need a man to define you. I'm sure your gorgeous and your mum will be so proud of you for the way you get high grades and doubtless you care for her. Don't worry sweetheart. Soon all the **** will just be in the past. The people bullying you are worthless and what they say is worthless so just don't listen. As for them shoving you about either shove them back harder or get a teacher involved. I really hope things work out for you. You seem like a lovely girl and so much better than these sick bullies xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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    Oh my goodness, my heart is just aching now
    No one should have to suffer that.
    No wonder it's "starting" to get you down lovely, it would get anyone down!
    Please, there must be something more you can do about this? Maybe show this thread to a parent/tutor you trust?
    As someone who finished school a while back now, I'd like you to know that it does come to an end because life is all about change. Absolutely everyone has to deal with some rubbish in their life. You're definitely not alone in it. :jumphug:
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    Btw did you talk to your mom about AA?

    And hows your brother??

    And the kids from year 8 in your music class?
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    It's hard but you have to try and fight through, mentally. As long as you can talk it over with someone every day, even someone from here, just to get it off your mind that will help.
    Look I was bullied and I've never been the same since, but as you grow up you'll realise kids are stupid and eventually most people mature so that kind of behaviour is looked down on. You need to keep your head held high and stay confident (I know it's hard) And stay mature-minded, it will help you loads
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Let’s keep this short and sweet. I made a thread a while ago about me being bullied in school called ‘Is this normal?’. If you remember that thread then you will understand my situation better. I could tolerate the bullying but it has got even worse. Screw anon this time round :P

    This is what happened on Tuesday –

    -Chavs saying, “Wanna suck me ****, babe?” and “I wanna watch some hawt BBW porn with you in it!”

    - Having that freaky sexually-harassing boy stalk me for five minutes, I eventually slapped him because teachers can’t stop him from following me. He does it when they don’t notice

    -Kids laughing at my disabled mother and saying I’m disabled like her too (I have got a SEN – long story!)

    -Saying that I’m ‘retarded’ because I have a SEN. They only know this because it is mandatory to have a special needs teacher in one of my lessons within a week. Despite the fact I’m supposedly 'retarded', I’m predicted the highest grades in science, Spanish (I have... well had... verbal dyspraxia), art and in History.

    -They say that they are going to **** my dad’s corpse.

    -Saying I’m worthless because I have no friends

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m poor and have a disabled mother

    -Saying I’m worthless because I’m ugly and fat (I know I’m not really ugly but I know I’m fat, I can prove via picture :P )

    -Shoved about

    -Things thrown at me

    -Poked and laughed at

    -Ignored

    -Excluded from social interaction with any group in my school year


    But it is really starting to affect me now. I feel really lonely and I am starting to feel as if I deserve to be bullied because I’m socially retarded or something. But I know I’m not socially retarded because adults really like me because they say I have a humour and intelligence beyond my age (I’m in Year 10) and also people in lower years like me because they don’t get bullied for hanging out with me. These people that bully me as well have boyfriends and girlfriends. This makes me think that I could never really get a boyfriend because I’m ‘freaky’ or ‘fat’ or something.

    I know I’m not ugly but it’s like only I believe that. That sounds stupid and arrogant but the reaction I get from my peers makes me feel really ugly. Not a single boy has even shown a bit of interest in me. They always jokingly ask me out and I’m not stupid so I know it is a joke. I bloody hate it though, it makes me feel like crap.

    I don’t know why I really posted this, I just wanted people from the past thread knowing how I am now plus I wanted to rant because I’m angry and depressed. I just wonder what I can do to deal with my low self-esteem and loneliness. Any ideas? :o:
    What a bunch of mother *******. OP I can relate 100% to what you are saying. I've been there and done that.

    The main thing is to NOT let it get you down for good. What do I mean? These are a bunch of ******* *******s who are going nowhere in life. You have your life ahead of you to do whatever you want. The further your education goes belive me the more people get weeded out. The main solution is to grit ones teeth and bear it.

    You want a worse case story? Just look at me. I took **** after **** for years, til magically it stopped when I moved out of the ******** of an area. Im absolutely paranoid now. I can barely communicate with people. Im told im good looking blah blah blah but it means nothing. DONT let yourself get to that stage. I cannot function myself in society anymore, instead I spend my life on a ******* pc. DON'T do this.

    Btw if weight is an issue: lose it. Sounds easy to say, but I did it. Don't be cutting down your food, just watch it. Knocking of seconds etc helps tremendously. Do 5 mins exercise before bed everynight. Just a few pushups, lifting a few makeshift weights will do a power of good. The lb's will drop off.


    I can only sympathise OP, and I will include you in my prayers tonight. The main thing is to keep a belief in yourself. Lose that at the risk of losing yourself.
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    i totally agree with all the advice above, but one other thing - apart from seeming like a lovely girl, your profile picture is beautiful. Your just so naturally pretty. i cant bring myself to say dont let these idiots get you down, cause what's happening is heinous and i dont want to trivialise it. you need to keep talking to anyone in authority who will listen, that opening post summarises everything, could you copy most of it down and bring it to a meeting? ? good luck xxx
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    That's awful.

    The thing with this new generation of bullies is that they're corrupted children (though they won't realise this till much later in their lives). So, expect them to say absolutely anything in an attempt to provoke a response from you. The reason they're targeting you also I expect is something to do with this:

    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Despite the fact I’m supposedly 'retarded', I’m predicted the highest grades in science, Spanish (I have... well had... verbal dyspraxia), art and in History.
    They subconciously know that you have a future and they don't, even though they probably couldn't articulate that fact themselves (I like to think of them more among the earliest primates, not quite sophisticated enough to be called a full primate).

    The key and most important thing to remember when dealing with bullies is that these people do not matter to your life, they will not stop you achieving, the only possible effect they can have on the World is to try and make people unhappy.

    I will say also that it usually gets better as you get older, the academic system will generally wean these people out after GCSE year. Just don't let these people shape your life, you're so much better than them.
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    Kick up a fuss.

    Tell school counsellors, teachers, personal tutors, heads of department, your LEA - as many as you can. Don't let it be put aside or put off. If you only complain once then never again, or say a little something once every month nothing is going to happen. You need to make the problem un-ignorable. Make your suffering known and concious to the teachers so they have to do something about it.

    Keep detailed logs, make sure when something happens, you have a teacher witness it, come to a lesson early and ask if the teacher can just keep an eye so they see it happening themselves, regularly report any upset.
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    (Original post by neeevie)
    i totally agree with all the advice above, but one other thing - apart from seeming like a lovely girl, your profile picture is beautiful. Your just so naturally pretty. i cant bring myself to say dont let these idiots get you down, cause what's happening is heinous and i dont want to trivialise it. you need to keep talking to anyone in authority who will listen, that opening post summarises everything, could you copy most of it down and bring it to a meeting? ? good luck xxx
    I only noticed OP is 14.

    OP, you have YEARS ahead of you before you start worrying about any **** that happens with these pricks.

    They are just immature little ******s and the best thing to do to them is give them the finger. Don't deign a remark.

    If they ever get physical or even threatening, notify a teacher and if that system of command dosent work alert the police.

    It is a clear case of assault if someone harangues another person and if there is an implication of force involved. The rest will pipe down noticeably when some guy comes round threatening.


    Or you can pick out the weediest little prick and bash him into the ground. Works wonders. Shame I found this out to late. :shifty:
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    (Original post by eMJaaay♥)
    Btw did you talk to your mom about AA?

    And hows your brother??

    And the kids from year 8 in your music class?
    Whenever I bring up my mum's alcoholicsm, she goes crazy

    My brother is still a bit of a jerk but he's easy enough to deal with

    One of the kids from the year eight group that adore me for some bizarre reason is from band but the rest of them only know me through her




    Also about the jokey stance, it's the attitude I usually take to bullying. It annoys the hell of the bullies but sometimes I insult them back and get into trouble. A boy that bullied me was an altar boy. He services a priest that was arrested for drunk-driving because he crashed into a wall so I said to him, "When Father (insert surname) is drunk, a brick wall isn't the only barrier he's gonna break". Keep in mind he just said that I was disabled just like my mother. After that, I had to sign a lease saying that the guy who bullied me wasn't sexually abused by the priest to my full knowledge (it's a catholic school)
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Whenever I bring up my mum's alcoholicsm, she goes crazy

    My brother is still a bit of a jerk but he's easy enough to deal with

    One of the kids from the year eight group that adore me for some bizarre reason is from band but the rest of them only know me through her




    Also about the jokey stance, it's the attitude I usually take to bullying. It annoys the hell of the bullies but sometimes I insult them back and get into trouble. A boy that bullied me was an altar boy. He services a priest that was arrested for drunk-driving because he crashed into a wall so I said to him, "When Father (insert surname) is drunk, a brick wall isn't the only barrier he's gonna break". Keep in mind he just said that I was disabled just like my mother. After that, I had to sign a lease saying that the guy who bullied me wasn't sexually abused by the priest to my full knowledge (it's a catholic school)
    I'm sorry, but my respect for you just went downhill. There is a difference between insulting a particular person and insulting another person/religion.
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    (Original post by MorbidCow)
    Whenever I bring up my mum's alcoholicsm, she goes crazy

    My brother is still a bit of a jerk but he's easy enough to deal with

    One of the kids from the year eight group that adore me for some bizarre reason is from band but the rest of them only know me through her

    Also about the jokey stance, it's the attitude I usually take to bullying. It annoys the hell of the bullies but sometimes I insult them back and get into trouble. A boy that bullied me was an altar boy. He services a priest that was arrested for drunk-driving because he crashed into a wall so I said to him, "When Father (insert surname) is drunk, a brick wall isn't the only barrier he's gonna break". Keep in mind he just said that I was disabled just like my mother. After that, I had to sign a lease saying that the guy who bullied me wasn't sexually abused by the priest to my full knowledge (it's a catholic school)
    I think its best to not let if faze you ... if you joke about it, like when they say something sexual and if you say come on then, it might make them all oh crap ... I think the best way to tackle it is to laugh it off cuz then the whole point of them bullying you - getting you upset, isn't working so maybe they'll get over it?

    Low life humans ... you know they have to be that right? To bully you over your mother's alcoholism and your father's death .. your better than them ... concentrate on studies and be strong.

    Please please call Child Line, they are free and are REALLY helpful and really listen to you!

    (Original post by level_red)
    I'm sorry, but my respect for you just went downhill. There is a difference between insulting a particular person and insulting another person/religion.
    I don't agree with her insulting a religion but I think your being a bit hypocritical seeing as you used the word '******' in your last post and its very offensive to some people.
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    (Original post by level_red)
    I'm sorry, but my respect for you just went downhill. There is a difference between insulting a particular person and insulting another person/religion.
    so you think she should have just put up with the bullying? Good thing she made him upset.

    I just lost respect for you!
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    Complain and keep complaining. Keep a diary of events so you have an accurate record of what you've gone through. Eventually the school will have to do something - whether it's find you a new school or expel the worst offenders. You can't be expected to put up with this so you just need to show the teachers that you won't be quiet.

    This is the number for the National Bullying Helpline (0845 22 55 787) if you need someone impartial to talk to.
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    (Original post by hang_your_heart)
    Complain and keep complaining. Keep a diary of events so you have an accurate record of what you've gone through. Eventually the school will have to do something - whether it's find you a new school or expel the worst offenders. You can't be expected to put up with this so you just need to show the teachers that you won't be quiet.

    This is the number for the National Bullying Helpline (0845 22 55 787) if you need someone impartial to talk to.
    apart from when the OP complains she has to see some stupid old spinster lady...
    ...and that's the end of it.
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    This probably isn't much consolation, but this is just complete immaturity from these kids; year 11, college and university etc you just Never get bullying, I'm so sorry you've had to put up with this but it really does get better.

    And ignore everything they say, of course you'll get a boyfriend, you're really pretty! Wish I looked like you!

    Good luck with everything xx
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    (Original post by there's too much love)
    so you think she should have just put up with the bullying? Good thing she made him upset.

    I just lost respect for you!
    LOL, you are assuming ALOT. If I was in OP's shoes I would have some pretty nasty things to say. I wouldn't stoop to insulting a religion that the bully clearly does not follow :|



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