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Lonely in Durham Uni

Hello,
I'm a first year at Durham uni doing psychology.
At the minute I'm feeling quite lonely and finding it difficult to make friends, I have some friends but I don't really feel like they're 'my people' if you get what I mean. I have joined a few societies but I don't feel like I get close enough to the people in the societies to become friends with them.
I'm not a party-er or drinker so most of the time I prefer to stay in and watch a film or play games or something like that, but I feel like most other people are the opposite. Does anyone else feel the same?
I also find it quite difficult with the colleges as I feel slightly restricted in the fact that I need some college friends otherwise things like formals and college balls will be awkward.

Does anyone else have these problems?
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I'm a first year at Durham uni doing psychology.
At the minute I'm feeling quite lonely and finding it difficult to make friends, I have some friends but I don't really feel like they're 'my people' if you get what I mean. I have joined a few societies but I don't feel like I get close enough to the people in the societies to become friends with them.
I'm not a party-er or drinker so most of the time I prefer to stay in and watch a film or play games or something like that, but I feel like most other people are the opposite. Does anyone else feel the same?
I also find it quite difficult with the colleges as I feel slightly restricted in the fact that I need some college friends otherwise things like formals and college balls will be awkward.

Does anyone else have these problems?

Hi there

It's totally okay to feel that way. You've only just started uni so it can be difficult to find 'your people' so early. But I promise it gets better, as it did for me and so many others I know. It's only now in the second semester of second year that I feel like I have some genuine people in my life so it's really just a matter of time till you find yours. As for not being a party person, I totally get it. There are soooo many societies that hold non-drinking events and some off the top of my head include Disney soc, Pasta soc, KPOP soc, Crochet soc, Creative Writing soc and so many more. Just go to the SU website where you can find all the societies that exist and join any of them, it's the best way to find people sharing similar interests and you may even find someone from your college to attend college events with. Also I didn't live in college in first year so didn't have any friends there but I really wanted to go to our college day in June so I just popped a message in the group chat that I was looking for someone to hangout with and so many people said that I was more than welcome to join them. I know it feels intimidating to join existing groups of people but most of them are very friendly and welcoming so definitely worth a shot!

Hope that helps and I'm also a Durham student so feel free to pop me a message if you'd like to be friends :wink:

-Himieka
Chemistry Research, Durham University
Durham University
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Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I'm a first year at Durham uni doing psychology.
At the minute I'm feeling quite lonely and finding it difficult to make friends, I have some friends but I don't really feel like they're 'my people' if you get what I mean. I have joined a few societies but I don't feel like I get close enough to the people in the societies to become friends with them.
I'm not a party-er or drinker so most of the time I prefer to stay in and watch a film or play games or something like that, but I feel like most other people are the opposite. Does anyone else feel the same?
I also find it quite difficult with the colleges as I feel slightly restricted in the fact that I need some college friends otherwise things like formals and college balls will be awkward.

Does anyone else have these problems?


Hey- I'm a first year at durham (I do languages) and I'm also a homebody type of person. Sometimes it is difficult but luckily I have made friends that are the same as me. What college are you in?
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I'm a first year at Durham uni doing psychology.
At the minute I'm feeling quite lonely and finding it difficult to make friends, I have some friends but I don't really feel like they're 'my people' if you get what I mean. I have joined a few societies but I don't feel like I get close enough to the people in the societies to become friends with them.
I'm not a party-er or drinker so most of the time I prefer to stay in and watch a film or play games or something like that, but I feel like most other people are the opposite. Does anyone else feel the same?
I also find it quite difficult with the colleges as I feel slightly restricted in the fact that I need some college friends otherwise things like formals and college balls will be awkward.

Does anyone else have these problems?

I’m a first year psych student and feel exactly the same, you’re not alone
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Original post by Anonymous
Hey- I'm a first year at durham (I do languages) and I'm also a homebody type of person. Sometimes it is difficult but luckily I have made friends that are the same as me. What college are you in?

Hi! Oh languages are cool! I've started to come to terms with the fact that I might not make 'best friends' here but I hope maybe next year I can make some. I'm in South college, wbu?
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I’m a first year psych student and feel exactly the same, you’re not alone

Oh that's slightly comforting, are you at Durham uni? If so what college are you in?
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
Hi! Oh languages are cool! I've started to come to terms with the fact that I might not make 'best friends' here but I hope maybe next year I can make some. I'm in South college, wbu?

Very close to you. John Snow
Reply 7
(Original post by Anonymous)Oh that's slightly comforting, are you at Durham uni? If so what college are you in?

Original post by Anonymous
Oh that's slightly comforting, are you at Durham uni? If so what college are you in?

Hild bede!
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
Oh that's slightly comforting, are you at Durham uni? If so what college are you in?

Hild bede!
Reply 9
I am also in Durham University!!! Hmu

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