Being The Odd One

lol yup, iv always been odd
i never really fit in anywhere, still dont

Hi!
I was just wondering if anyone else suffers at school with being the odd one out. I've just had a lecture from my boyf about how I need to make more friends but the problem is, our sixth form is so small and I find all the girls very hyper/silly/giggly which just isn't me - I'm not dull I just don't work like most girls seem to, I tend to work harder at school and enjoy things like music and talking about proper things which loads of them don't. I also don't enjoy dancing/clubs etc, I'm much more of a gig-goer and there are no other girls in my sixth form that do! It's really hard because it's a question of acting as if i'm like the rest of them to make my boyfriend feel happier or carry on and make him down because he's worried he's not seeing his mates enough- AGGGGGHHH! I used to be friends with a group of guys too but he hates that and has made it so I always feel guilty when I go out with just guys because he thinks it's inappropriate! Sorry to rant to you, it's just been getting me down so much, I had to share it somewhere.
Roisin

Same here But there are always some great people in school to tlk to, i just usually be friendly to everyone.

Your location says MK, I went to school there! Which school do you go to?

Bury Lawn -horrbile, tiny, private school.

Ahh, thought so- you have Ancient History as an A-level choice in your sig (I think), most places don't offer that. I went to Denbigh, really enjoyed it, I even worked there for 6 months after I left!

Hi!
I was just wondering if anyone else suffers at school with being the odd one out. I've just had a lecture from my boyf about how I need to make more friends but the problem is, our sixth form is so small and I find all the girls very hyper/silly/giggly which just isn't me - I'm not dull I just don't work like most girls seem to, I tend to work harder at school and enjoy things like music and talking about proper things which loads of them don't. I also don't enjoy dancing/clubs etc, I'm much more of a gig-goer and there are no other girls in my sixth form that do! It's really hard because it's a question of acting as if i'm like the rest of them to make my boyfriend feel happier or carry on and make him down because he's worried he's not seeing his mates enough- AGGGGGHHH! I used to be friends with a group of guys too but he hates that and has made it so I always feel guilty when I go out with just guys because he thinks it's inappropriate! Sorry to rant to you, it's just been getting me down so much, I had to share it somewhere.
Roisin

Read my thread. lol, I'm even considering turning to drink.

I think you are a bit too judgemental considering you aren't friends with any of the girls in your year. Do you really know any of them? Maybe they do talk about proper things. I think your boyfriend's attitude isn't great, but he has a point. I suggest you broaden your outlook a bit or you will continue to be miserable through out your life, because all people aren't like you.

Bearing in mind I have known the girls since I was 10, just never been close to them- I used to be friends with some but they changed. The problem is with the hyperness and gigliness, I just struggle to handle it- I don't find the same things as they do funny and I couldn't bear to go out and get drunk like I know that they enjoy doing- I'm certainly not saying there is anything wrong with that, it's just I know that I find it very empty and not very fullfilling- I also know there are people more like me about, it's just unfortunatley I'm in a 6th form with less that 20 other girls and I struggle to be interested in clothes, hair and shopping which I know they do enjoy.
Maybe you're right but I've grown up being taught to be myself and by pretending to enjoy those things simply to feel I know people just isn't in my nature.