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Do you every feel that you're just not good enough for them?
Do you wonder why they actually want to be with you? They could do so much better....What do they see in you?
What do you do when you feel they're too good for you? More intelligent, more funny, just a better person.
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Well if they are with you and want to be with you fine, But it wont last.

There will ALWAYS be someone better than you other there that your bf/gf could go with, and eventualy they will when they get bored of you. It may happen a few weeks after going out, could happen in 10 years, but it always happens.
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(Original post by BhArJ)
Well if they are with you and want to be with you fine, But it wont last.

There will ALWAYS be someone better than you other there that your bf/gf could go with, and eventualy they will when they get bored of you. It may happen a few weeks after going out, could happen in 10 years, but it always happens.
Hey there you little ray of sunshine. :rolleyes:
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(Original post by BhArJ)
Well if they are with you and want to be with you fine, But it wont last.

There will ALWAYS be someone better than you other there that your bf/gf could go with, and eventualy they will when they get bored of you. It may happen a few weeks after going out, could happen in 10 years, but it always happens.
pessimistic aint u?
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Hey there you little ray of sunshine. :rolleyes:
hi

and im realistic not pessemistic............
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(Original post by BhArJ)
Well if they are with you and want to be with you fine, But it wont last.

There will ALWAYS be someone better than you other there that your bf/gf could go with, and eventualy they will when they get bored of you. It may happen a few weeks after going out, could happen in 10 years, but it always happens.
Nice encouraging words there.

And why be so negative? Lack of confidence is one of the worst things you can have, won't help you at all.
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I feel this often... in relationships and out of relationships too... I have hardly any confidence in myself. I've always been passed off for a far superior model.

Nobody wants me
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Do you every feel that you're just not good enough for them?
Do you wonder why they actually want to be with you? They could do so much better....What do they see in you?
What do you do when you feel they're too good for you? More intelligent, more funny, just a better person.
Speaking from experience, BhArJ is right :hmpf:

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(Original post by Makavelli_07)
Nice encouraging words there.

And why be so negative? Lack of confidence is one of the worst things you can have, won't help you at all.
lol because its true :rolleyes:

girls/guys ALWAYS judge people on looks when they first meet somebody. And weather they say they do or not they still judge you. So maybe they fall in love with you the first time they see you, whats going to stop them from doing that again? Maybe you have been friends for ages and you decide to go out, you already know everything about each other so you will get bored of each other. Some one else will just come along and bring a new *spark* into there life and theres not a sodding thing you can do because they are better than you in every way. Why do you think 1/2 of all marrages in the UK end in divorce?
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I understand what you mean, but having a lack of confidence won't help at all.

As you said people are always going to judge you on looks at first. I know people will say they don't, but they do. Then when you get talking to a bird you've met, if your really unconfident then they'll pick up on this. I doubt it's very attractive to a bird, so it's not a good thing.

Basically what im saying is that he should be more confident.
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(Original post by Makavelli_07)
I understand what you mean, but having a lack of confidence won't help at all.

As you said people are always going to judge you on looks at first. I know people will say they don't, but they do. Then when you get talking to a bird you've met, if your really unconfident then they'll pick up on this. I doubt it's very attractive to a bird, so it's not a good thing.

Basically what im saying is that he should be more confident.
Been there, done that, got nothing back

Confidence doesnt mean a thing without anything else to back it up.
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(Original post by Makavelli_07)
I understand what you mean, but having a lack of confidence won't help at all.

As you said people are always going to judge you on looks at first. I know people will say they don't, but they do. Then when you get talking to a bird you've met, if your really unconfident then they'll pick up on this. I doubt it's very attractive to a bird, so it's not a good thing.

Basically what im saying is that he should be more confident.
Calling them birds probably wont help matters either, apparently according to my missus they dont like that!!
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(Original post by BhArJ)
Been there, done that, got nothing back

Confidence doesnt mean a thing without anything else to back it up.
I never said being confident is all you need, but it sure as hell helps.

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Calling them birds probably wont help matters either, apparently according to my missus they dont like that!!
I can on the internet forum. I wouldn't otherwise.
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(Original post by Makavelli_07)
I never said being confident is all you need, but it sure as hell helps.



I can on the internet forum. I wouldn't otherwise.
You should always try and be yourself online as you would do offline IMO
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What I find quite amazing is that the last year or so I have found talking to the opposite sex very easy, I no longer get emberassed. What you realise when you grow out of your teens is that the opposite sex are not sex objects, they are real people just like you. You can be very good friends with them and nothing more.

I do admit however if I am at a bus stop and feel like talking to a random stranger its never a girl so I still lack confidence in that way.

You mustn't ever feel that you're not good enough for your partner and you partner should never make you feel this way.

The AT Lectures of Love - Series 1.
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You should always try and be yourself online as you would do offline IMO
Oh i'm the same guy on here as i am offline, it's just that i'm not talking to people i know. If i knew that you would get offended by me referring to women as 'birds' then i wouldn't do it. Offline i know that the majority of my friends wouldn't like it, so i don't.

Does that make sense?
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Oh i'm the same guy on here as i am offline, it's just that i'm not talking to people i know. If i knew that you would get offended by me referring to women as 'birds' then i wouldn't do it. Offline i know that the majority of my friends wouldn't like it, so i don't.

Does that make sense?
Thats good then
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Do you every feel that you're just not good enough for them?
Do you wonder why they actually want to be with you? They could do so much better....What do they see in you?
What do you do when you feel they're too good for you? More intelligent, more funny, just a better person.
if you feel they are too good for you then figure out what it is you see lacking in yourself and make steps to remedy it. obviously your main problem is a lack of self-confidence. maybe you shouldn't date this person and take some time to be by yourself and figure out what you're good at and develop yourself more. you shouldn't be with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself even if it's in your own head. why waste time feeling unhappy?
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Do you every feel that you're just not good enough for them?
Do you wonder why they actually want to be with you? They could do so much better....What do they see in you?
What do you do when you feel they're too good for you? More intelligent, more funny, just a better person.
thats why you should date 'less attractive or appealing' than yourself, so you'l feel slightly better than them and have loads more confidence. Just make sure you like their personality
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awwwww huni! heres a big hug :knuddel: Listen we all feel like that some days....but you kno what, you gota know that YOU ARE AMAZING! - look in the mirror each morning and tell urself that - see I was looking for that flattery website - You know the one where you type in your name and it gives you endless flattery lol - but I couldn't find it so here's me telling you

YOU ARE GORGEOUS
YOU ARE AMAZING
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
YOU ARE INTELLIGENT

lol - dont ever feel less than you are coz the minute you lose self esteem in yourself, it's the minute guys start to have less respect for you - think the world of yourself and have pride in yourself and you'll find guys feel the same!! And if any guy thinks they're above you then frankly THEY'RE NOT WORTH IT!


Love ya
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